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UKbride Member Request 16 Jul 2017

I due to marry my partner next. Sadly both of our fathers have passed away....

I due to marry my partner next. Sadly both of our fathers have passed away. So I'm not sure how to seat the top table. I do have a male friend giving me away on the day. As my Father will not be there. I'm not sure as what to do about the father/daughter dance. Can I have that dance with my Mother?

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 16 Jul 2017

You can deffinitly have a dance with your mother x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 16 Jul 2017

I'm in the same situation. I'm not having a father daughter dance. It's an American tradition and one that I doubt my father (god bless him) would have been comfortable with anyway.

Amy Caswell
Amy Caswell 16 Jul 2017

Yeh thats a lovely thought

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 16 Jul 2017

It's ur day....u can do whatever u want. Xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 16 Jul 2017

I'm sorry for both of your losses x
Do you have seating capacity to maybe a have a couples tables instead of a top table? I really wish we had room for this at our wedding.

I hadn't even thought of father daughter dance as haven't seen it in the weddings I have been too. I wouldn't worry about it unless you would like to do one with your mum and she'd be up for it?

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 16 Jul 2017

It's your wedding day, you do whatever you want to do. It's a day celebrating the commitment you and your partner are making to each other. So many people forget that simple fact and get wrapped up in all the frills added on to that very special commitment.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 16 Jul 2017

I think having that dance with your mum is a fantastic idea! Both of you I'm sure will be quite emotional for that dance so what better way to do it? Alternatively you can always skip it completely. Mid way through our wedding (just after the evening buffet) I had my Gran and Grandads wedding song played for the couples to get up to dance to. It was my way of bringing my Gran into my wedding day since she is not longer with us and trying to do it in a way that isn't morbid or getting me/guests really upset.xx

Justine Snell
Justine Snell 16 Jul 2017

Thank you ladies xx

Naomi Chappel
Naomi Chappel 16 Jul 2017

You can definitely have a dance with your mum that's a lovely idea x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 16 Jul 2017

My father has also passed away and my partners parents are not together. I'm not doing anything for the part around the father daughter dance. We're only having me and my partner and our two sons at the top table. Best man, bridesmaids and all immediate family will be seated on tables just in front of us xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 16 Jul 2017

I danced with Mum it was very emotional! X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 16 Jul 2017

You can do what you like it's your wedding day. Just because it's what's "normally" done doesn't mean it's what has to be done. I think a dance with your mum is a lovely idea!
As for your top table why not just have you and your partner. That's what we did.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 16 Jul 2017

Im not going to be having that dance..as dad died in 84 but guess i could have that with my son whos giving me away if its called upon

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 16 Jul 2017

Have an uncle or even your mum give you away. Father/daughter dances are more of an American thing and I have never been to a wedding where one has been done.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 16 Jul 2017

The only thing iv planned for my wedding is this. My mum and dad split when I was about 10 or 11 and I never really seen much of him so I wouldn't feel right having him give me away or dance with me. That's all going to be my mum :)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 16 Jul 2017

you can do what ever you want its your wedding yes dance with your mother be nice some brides have there brother or dads brother the same at top table brother or uncle or your male friend what ever you want and the same for your h2b his dads brother or his brother at top table good luck

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 16 Jul 2017

My father is still here but we are having a small sweetheart table aa my mum isnt. I am having a gathee daughtee dance whixh i know is American but i think its lovely. If he wasn't here it would be mum or brother. So much emotion in a wedding its nice to have those moments with family. The world and its dog have opinions om weddings we all just have to say balls to it and do it our way x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 16 Jul 2017

I danced with my Mum to a song called Every Mothers Dream. It was lovely and my sister joined in and all the other mums and daughters xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 16 Jul 2017

Both my parents are dead and my partner only has his mum. I'm having my uncle give me away. The top table with just be the bride, groom, best man and maid of honour. This makes it so much easier.

Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 16 Jul 2017

Hi do what you like our top table is bride, groom, bridesmaid and best man my Dad has bad legs so won't be able to dance, but as others have said it is not our tradition any way good luck :)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 16 Jul 2017

You have what YOU want! Do whatever feels right to you. Have a fantastic day xxx

Joanne Lay-Treen
Joanne Louise Treen 16 Jul 2017

Dance with ur mum . Fab idea xxx

Justine Snell
Justine Snell 16 Jul 2017

I've just spoken to my Mum and she has said she would love to. So now i just have to find the right song/music that reflects both my parents and myself.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 16 Jul 2017

My dad passed away 10 years ago, my mum is going to give me away as she is the only person that rightfully can. With regards to the father daughter dance, it's an American thing. I've not been to a wedding here where there has been a father daughter dance. Xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 16 Jul 2017

My mum giving me away and doing the father daughter dance it your wedding you can do it anyway you want x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 16 Jul 2017

My mum gave me away. Only dance we had was mine and my husbands first dance. We had my 3 children and mum on top table

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 16 Jul 2017

Yes that what should happened the person giving you away should be on top table sarah I am so sorry I won't be able to come to your wedding as my parter den is not well and i am looking after him will send you a cheque and card in the post so sorry I wanted to be their as we both had the same dad but thinking of you say me a photo xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 16 Jul 2017

My Mum is giving me away as I lost my Dad 14 years ago. We are gonna hav a Mummy daughter dance x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 16 Jul 2017

You don't have to have one, I'm not as me and my dad don't really get on and have had problems in the past. He's not giving me away either.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 17 Jul 2017

Hi not all weddings have a father daughter dance im getting married in 6 weeks and only having a 1st dance with my partner its down to choice realy

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