Hi ladies. I hope the planning is going well. I was just wondering how much...

Hi. After being a bridesmaid so many times for my sisters and them all being my bridesmaids, what we did was try on the dresses we liked in the stores and then tried to source them online, where they can be a lot cheaper. You may not get exactly the same as you tried on in the store but you may be able to get something similar at a fraction of the price.

Hi I would tell then before you go that you can't spend too much see how it goes good luck :)

Maybe tell them what your budget is, then if they want more expensive ones maybe they could contribute x

I am quite lucky in the fact that I have only the 1 bridesmaid and she has given me full reign of what she wears.. I would tell them all the you are able to spend X amount on each dress, so if they find a dress they all like that is more expensive they can pay the difference :)

It's ur wedding they wear what u want

I looked at a selection of dresses and picked 4 that i liked. I then showed my bridesmaids and asked which they prefered

I got a package deal from a bridal store that included 3 bridesmaid outfits (any they sell) along with 5 suit hires (down to SHOES!), a full bridal outfit plus a load of other things for a set price. Worth trying to find something similar

You tell them what younwabt them to wear. Theres no harm in them trying stuff on to see what suits them but then buy something cheaper online. I just bought my 2 adult bridesmaids dresses off amazon at only £21.99 each! Reduced from £52. They are lovely. Just read reviews first and see seller feed back score. X

You should ask if they have any real hang ups that they are not comfortable showing (could be something as simple as length etc) and show examples of what you like.

You don't want them uncomfortable but also you want to be firm to your vision.

Also let them know the budget per dress/as a whole and they can keep that in mind etc

Lastly bare in mind they will be in the dresses for a substantial amount of time so they really should be comfortable.

You can try Wed2be or online bridal shopping. ASOS and ChiChi London have excellent options that can be worn over and over again and look fantastic.

Hope this helps :) x

I gave a selection to choose from. They all chose something different but it will be the same colour

My sister let me pick after I told her the one that our SIL had ordered wasn't suitable for me because it was strapless and I have big boobs,it wouldn't have worked. I got Grace in purple from Lindy Bop. £35 P&P. I'm working with mine to pick something we both like. I think you need to decide how much you have to spend and give them some guidelines,and make it clear that you have final choice

I had 2 bridesmaids of different shapes and heights. I asked them both for some ideas what they liked but I knew I wanted long dresses and what colour but asked there ideas on style and made the decision myself one what would suit them both x

I got my dresses from a shop off eBay. They were BHS dresses and were classed as defect as the belt was missing but I hated the belt. They were a bargain at £20 each! X

I only had 2 bridesmaids. I chose a few dresses that i liked and let them choose between them which one they wanted to go with. I wanted them to feel comfortable for the day. It all worked really well and they ended up with dresses from China that were amazing.

I wanted my sister and best mate to be comfortable. I didn't care what they wore so long as they were happy and comfortable and felt good in it, because if they weren't it would show on the photos. We went to a boutique and they've chosen the dress I picked for them to try . I'm happy to pay what it is. They are buying accessories. I love the dress they've chosen and we could have got it in our colour scheme. The dress tried on was a different colour to the colour scheme, but we've all fallen in love with it. It suits the girls and will provide cool contrast in a winter wedding. Set a budget, but make sure your girls are comfortable. Why not look at vintage dresses like Lindy Bop xx

If you are paying then yes you can set boundaries e.g. Cost, colour, style etc

My wedding dress had a cowl front and back...so I wanted the bridesmaids dresses to have a cowl back too.... That was pretty much what they HAD to have... They are both more curvy than I am so we're bothered about drawing attention to/from their parts that bothered them most... As the were both larger chested too I liked the idea of a sweetheart front... I found them a dress that had a ruched waist that came diagonal and drew the eye from the stomach towards the waist instead.... Both of them felt lovely in the dress and we're very happy.... So I had the cowl back to tie in with my dress... I had the sweetheart front to compliment them and then the ruched waist to draw the eye away to help them feel.mkre confident... The dress came with a brooch on each shoulder but I asked the dress maker to add another where the waist came round to help draw the eye away even more... It all tied in lovely :)
My daughter was in a white princess style dress with diamanté belt... X

I'm going through the exact same situation x

eBay! Read the reviews I've brought mine off there from china 1000 reviews all at 100% £25 a dress and they are perfect you would think I paid over £100 each 4 them xx

I'm getting my BM's multiway dresses they'll each wear it a different way but I've let them choose what colour as I'm having different shades of pink - they've all picked what works we'll with their hair & skintone! Hope you get sorted! Xx

I would see what they feel comfrotable in style wise and then pick what you like. If they want something more expensive then they should pay a bit towards it x

I am only having one adult bridesmaid and then my other 2 are my young children who are wearing white with a coloured sash. So I've told my bridesmaid the colour and we've been out a couple of times and she's tried a few on, I let her pick what she likes, she try's it in and if I don't like it I say no! But she pretty much gets to pick what she wears (we're very lucky and agree on everything!) xxx

I chose the dresses for my bridesmaids, may I suggest looking on asos, I bought both adult dresses for £52 each and they looked stunning with the right amount of bling, good luck xxx

I let my bridesmaids pick what dress they wanted but I told them what colour it had to be. They worked well together to find a dress they were both comfortable with xx

I had a Facebook group for the bridesmaids and put pictures of possible dresses in there. That way I chose what they looked at and limited their choice to things within my budget.

Take their ideas. But the ultimate choice is yours to make. And they have to respect that hun. Then if they become hugely fussy.. just say look heres (X) amount go find a dress that suits you thats all 1 colour (the colour that youve chosen) and that isnt releaving or to blingy... if the dress costs more than youve given then they oay rest. Xxxxx

None whatsoever. I sent them a few pictures for their opinion but brought the dresses I liked, they haven't even seen them yet! Have shown them a picture and they like them depends who's paying I guess, I wasn't prepared to pay £100 per dress

I went into a shop, let them pick out dresses as well as me, try them on then I picked!! I got it down to 2 so let them pick which one they wanted. Xx

I'm also MOH for my sister and I had a spare dress in my package deal (I'm gonna have 2 bms and there were 3 dresses in the deal) so I've offered to use the remaining dress for my MOH dress so she has one less to pay for because it's already paid for anyway! I've asked her what style she wants us to wear and just specified that I don't want to show my knees for reasons she already knows but anything else would be fine. We'll all go to the boutique nearer the time and find something suitable for all three of our shapes that hopefully we can get from the high street too to compare prices.

I chose the colour of mine and let them choose the style, coincidently they both chose the same style but one was short and the other long.

I have chosen the colour, but I'm letting mine have a choice. My bridesmaids ages range from 46 to 19, so I feel it's important they all feel comfortable in their dress for the day, as long as they are all the same shade, I don't care if they are all in different dresses.xx

I only had the one and my only stipulation was the colour. Luckily i know what she likes and found a lovely 50s style one that i loved too

We went shopping on the high street rather than boutiques because of our budget and we chose them together. I originally liked one that they didn't, and they were all willing to wear it anyway but then they tried one in Debenhams that I was sure I wouldn't like and we all absolutely loved it!! So that's what we've gone for - they're from little mistress which you can buy online from their own shop or from their concession store in Debenhams xx

I've picked the colour but they will have as much say as they like in the actual dress as I want them to be comfortable. I also trust both of them not to go for one that is stupid prices. I have been a bridesmaid before where I've had no choice in the dress and have felt hideous all day, and I would hate my two best friends to feel hideous on my wedding day. X

My bridesmaids chose their dress I told them it had to be blush pink not have same strap style as my dress and had a budget of 250 each . They decided they didn't want to go to boutique like the flower girls are and chose a beautiful dress from coast

I don't my maids ever looked. The first dress that I showed them that I was thinking of getting, only cos it matched my sister's dress (hers was a shorter version) and they were happy

I chose mine for them but showed them and they all loved it, £35 from boohoo if you have a budget it's your day so you choose because it could get very expensive

When I was a bridesmaid the bride paid for the dresses initially, then if we wanted to keep them we paid her back and if he didn't we gave the dresses back to her and she sold them on. She asked if we wanted steaks or strapless I think and asked us to help her choose between a few colours, but ultimately she chose them, as she should! It's her wedding!

I have my 2 sister's and i took them both to a shop and told them the colour I wanted and let them choose. No point in choosing something for them and they feel uncomfortable in it on the day.

My bridesmaids have tried dresses on boutiques so we can get an idea of what looks good on who, my bridesmaids range from a size 6 to a size 22. I had the same worry as you but I have a budget of £100 per dress and one dress they all loved was £130 each which each of them offered to pay the additional £30 because they felt so comfortable in them - I deffo think letting them know the budget in mind will help them and you to find the perfect dress! Good luck x