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UKbride Member Request 14 Jul 2017

My mil has said that we should provide my fil a suit for the wedding. He...

My mil has said that we should provide my fil a suit for the wedding. He isn't one of the ushers. Do we have to provide one? Should it match the bridal party suits? Money is tight but if we are meant to provide we will but as far as we were concerned he could wear what he wanted. Thanks in advance for your advice.

16 Comments
Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 14 Jul 2017

Hi your FIL should be getting a suit it is the traditional way :)

Emma Gibson
Emma Gibson 14 Jul 2017

I don't have a FIL so don't have the issue but I'm pretty sure other weddings I've been to they have been in the same xx

Julianne Heffernan
Julie Heffernan 14 Jul 2017

I dont think we are, we arent having parents sit at the top table so for us its a very relaxed affair. Plus it is extra money like you say. My stepmother mentioned about the fathers usually wearing matching suits to the grooms party so i have said if they feel strongly about it then they will have to pay for their own as it just isnt in our budget. I did say it in the nicest eay possible though obviously. X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Jul 2017

We got both dads x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Jul 2017

It's your wedding, do what you want and what you can afford x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Jul 2017

We're getting both dad's suits to match the groom and best man x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Jul 2017

We didn't, we only had my husband and stepson in matching suits. All other men just wore whatever suit they wished but had buttonholes and ties x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Jul 2017

We didnt, i just got him a matching tie and flower

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 14 Jul 2017

We got both Dad's the same suits as our Best Man and Usher as this is what has been done at most of the weddings we've been to and we wanted to do it too. I don't think there's a rule to say you are obliged to do it though so don't be too worried if you can't. If you can afford it, It's a nice touch but if you can't, maybe talk to them about splitting the bill. At the end of the day, you know your budget and how formal you want your wedding to be so let that guide you.

Naomi Chappel
Naomi Chappel 15 Jul 2017

My fil has bought his own shit and it doesn't match the ushers. I don't think you should be paying for it unless you want it to match x

Jayne Timmins
Jayne Timmins 15 Jul 2017

Both our dads didn't want to be matching so they have sorted their own suits out

Alys Brierley
Alys Brierley 15 Jul 2017

We are paying for my dad and his dads suits they are not matching the groomsmen

Alaska-Lily Morrison
Alaska-Lily Morrison 16 Jul 2017

My fiancé's dad is one of the groomsmen but he's still getting his own suit. We are getting the ties, but they're all going suit shopping together to pick out the right ones.. If you can't afford to get it then don't, I'd never heard of getting the parents their suits/outfits anyway! X

Nicola Jones
Nicola Jones 16 Jul 2017

We're having a relaxed wedding. Groom and Best Man wearing the same and everyone else can wear what they like! As far as I see, it's the Groom's department to deal with the men side of things - you have enough on your plate. If money is tight how about hire instead of buy?

Stacey Hutchinson
Stacey Hutchinson 19 Jul 2017

We are providing a suit to both Dads to match the rest of the groomsmen suits

Donna Chiles
Donna Chiles 21 Jul 2017

i haven't brought my fil to be suits there are 2 of them, neither have i brought my dads, lucky hes stuck in his ways and likes his own suit and it matches our colours so my bank balance is happy :) good luck

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