Jennie Saxby
Jennie Saxby 12 Jul 2017

Has anyone ever had to discuss pre nups with their intended? My mother wants...

Has anyone ever had to discuss pre nups with their intended? My mother wants me to get one as my OH has no money or job as he is disabled and I work and will have a large inheritance in her property (which I rent now and im paying to have done up). I dont mind either way, but shes really stressing over it and I want to put her mind at ease. We've been engaged 5 years and have 2 kids together and Im worried if I blame my mother then he may dislike her (more) for it.

Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 12 Jul 2017

Hi it really isn't worth it unless you are going to inherit a really substantial sum :)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Jul 2017

Could be wrong but I was told by a lawyer many years ago that prenups aren't enforceable in this country anyway, purely an American thing.

Jennie Saxby
Jennie Saxby 12 Jul 2017

What would you consider a substantial amount?

Naomi Chappel
Naomi Chappel 12 Jul 2017

I would check if they are enforceable here or not. If not then there is no point. What do you think? Do you want one? x

Jayne Timmins
Jayne Timmins 12 Jul 2017

Tricky, I would possibly consult a solicitor for advice but I also thought that pre nups are not enforceable, but they are taken into account, along with other considerations, property owned, shares, finances and children etc ( if of course the worst was to happen)

Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 12 Jul 2017

Hi well I would say £100 grand But as Samantha said they are not en forcible in Britain :)

Jennie Saxby
Jennie Saxby 12 Jul 2017

It was my mothers lawyer who suggested it when she tried and failed to make it part of her will.

Emma Gibson
Emma Gibson 12 Jul 2017

I don't think I could have one, would feel like I'm distrusting my partner x

Brooke Gray
Brooke Gray 13 Jul 2017

If the property has been signed over in purely your name then you would never need a prenup to begin with, from what I understand, although don't quote me, it is a typically American tradition and hopefully it would never come to that! It may be best to get a legal opinion though, if you have house insurance they usually have legal fees helpline which you can call for free for advice.

Rebecca Barnes
Rebecca Barnes 13 Jul 2017

She can change her will to explicitly say that should she die and you are not around to inherit, the money would go to your biological children and bypass your partner. Of course, it's completely up to her to decide what goes into her own will! :)

Alys Brierley
Alys Brierley 13 Jul 2017

I want something to say I get the house if it goes bad as I've been in a situation before where I had no house . Also I have the children but my partner always says I would get it anyway but you don't know when things turn nasty


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