You have probably had enough of hearing family problems, so sorry in advance. My H2B parents are split up and both have new partners, my H2B is the only one out of his siblings to talk to his dad. Top table originally was us, my mum and step dad, his mum and dad. His dad has said he won't sit with out his partner, and would rather sit on another table, his partner said unless they sit with each other she isn't coming. I feel bad, because I only have my mum and step dad, my dad and grandad are no longer with us, I don't know what to do, they think we should extend the table to include all of them ( his mum doesn't mind she says it's our day not hers) help :( thanks
Hi do what we are doing for the same reason top table Bride,Groom, bridesmaid and best man, put everyone else on different tables :)
Well really his dad should be the same as his mum in that it is your wedding not theirs. Do whatever will make your H2B happiest. If he wants his dad there and on the top table stick them all on if not then put them on a separate table. X
Am just having my man and kids at top table x
I had parents and step parents on the top table with all of us. I felt it was the right thing to do and I also didn't know who else I'd sit them with so it worked well. We just added them onto the end so it was still a traditional layout.
If he doesn't want to sit without his partner, just have h2bs mum and let him sit with the rest of the guests. Lifes too short for dramas and its your day not theirs, and by the sounds of it he's lucky that your h2b is even inviting him. Good luck xx
Sit them at another table its your day dont let petty ppl spoil it
My parents are divorced , my h2b only has his dad . So we are not having any parents on the top table . Just us and his brother how is best man and his wife . On my side my brother who is a groomsmen and his gf . X
We have seperated parents too, all with partners. We are having bridal party only on top table, then each set of parents/partners will be hosting their own tables :)
we just had us, the best mand and maid of honour on our top table. no particular reason. you just need to decide to either have just your mum and step dad with you ( if H2B doersn't mind) sat with you or all of them. I honestly don't think you'll be too concerned either way on the day. ps i think your fil-to-be is being selfish and mil-2-be's attitude is spot on
My mum and dad are no longer together and both re married.I have had my step mum most of my life.However,we just had parents and our children on top table.Step parents were on another table with the other bridesmaids and best man,and other very close family members.Do what's right for you and your hubby to be, not anyone else xx
Jo I feel your pain, they are all adults for god sake they should put aside their differences & make the day a special day for you both xxx
We had a single table just me and my husband then the closest tables to us had my husband's mum, step dad grandma, 2sets of aura and uncles and 3 kiddies then the next table had my family it worked well everyone was sat with people they get on well with and it got rid of the top table hierarchy
We had bridesmaids, best man, flower girls and page boy at the top table for this exact reason x
Hmmm tell them not to bother coming! I would usually say make people happy but sometimes people go way too far.
I would probably get each set of parents to host a table of their own. Make up your own rules for who to have on your top table x
I have my parents and step parents on the top table then my maid of honour and best man on my h2bs side of the table to even it up. My parents still get along but my dad also said he would rather my mum have her partner on the top table and him sit with his somewhere else if there isn't room on the top table. I believe this was just to help stop any worry. I just extended the top table x
I'm not in your situation but here's what I would do:
Have a love table just the two of you, it's your wedding day so enjoy it and enjoy that special time with your partner throughout the meal when it's just the two of you at the table. Put all parents/step parents at other tables!
Both mine and H2B's parents are separated and with new families. We have decided that the top table will be for H2B & I, Maid of honour next to me, best man next to him (They happen to be husband and wife which is nice) and as I have 6 bridesmaids, I will have 3 either side. Sometimes you have to alter traditions to make them work for you. Good luck x
It's your wedding you do what you need to do if they don't like it then they can go where the sun don't shine. They don't even deserve to come if they are being so petty xx
I'm just having bride, groom, best man and maid of honour on he too table. Saves all the problems.
Or do away with the top table completely and just have a sweetheart table for the two of you. Then the parents, best man, MOH etc can host thier own tables and sit with thier partners.
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