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What do you do if both sets of parents are divorced with regards to seating...

What do you do if both sets of parents are divorced with regards to seating on the top table? I want to be traditional and have mine and his parents sitting with us but don't want anyone to feel uncomfortable!!

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Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 12 Jul 2017

Hi we have the same problem we are only having bride,groom, bridesmaid and best-man on the top table. Put the parents on separate tables :)

Anita O'Sullivan
Anita O'Sullivan 12 Jul 2017

We're having us, best man, MOH and our 2 sons .. parents on separate tables ... far apart 😂

Nicole Porter
Nicole Porter 12 Jul 2017

We've been looking at this problem but decided to have best man and bridesmaids but I found this while looking

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UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Jul 2017

We had our mum's sat together on grooms side and dads sat together brides side. Then their partners were seated at a table next to ours with family.

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UKbride Administrator 12 Jul 2017

We are keeping to traditional and have spoken to the step-parents. It is only for the meal after all

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UKbride Administrator 12 Jul 2017

I have the same problem so we are having a sweet heart table, for just me and my H2B and no seating plan, in my eyes it's 2 families joined together xx

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UKbride Administrator 12 Jul 2017

We had two of my mums ex husbands with us on the day. We just had us and our children on our top table and gave all our other 'v.i.p's' (mum, dad, m.o.h, bestman etc..) a guest table each to 'host' with their partners. It worked well.

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UKbride Administrator 12 Jul 2017

My parents are divorced but my partners aren't...we are having all parents and bonus parents on the top table though, couldn't imagine splitting them up and not having parents on the top table just wasn't an option as I thought it would be massively unfair on my future in-laws...personally I can't wait! You do whatever you want to do, I don't think there is a right or wrong in this situation, good luck! X

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UKbride Administrator 12 Jul 2017

They don't sit next to each other so it should be ok they sit next to the in laws xx

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UKbride Administrator 12 Jul 2017

I had this too so I had our 2 children, moh, best man and his Mrs at top table then each parent "hosted " a table to stop it from being awkward. I was so worried it would be tense none the less and it wasn't at all. Everyone put us first and it was lovely xxx

Rebecca Saunders
Rebecca Saunders 12 Jul 2017

I'm having the parents alternated which is the traditional way anyway, so I'll be next to my dad, and my Dad will be next to h2bs mum, my h2b will be next to my mum who will be next to h2bs dad

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UKbride Administrator 12 Jul 2017

We had this, plus parts had then remarried so we were a large top table.
Best man, maid of honour, brides mum, brides step dad, grooms mum, groom, bride, brides dad, brides step mum, grooms dad, grooms step mum

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Jul 2017

My parents are divorced but have agreed to sit next to each other. They don't like each other but get on for the sake of me and my sister

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UKbride Administrator 12 Jul 2017

https://www.confetti.co.uk/wedding-receptions/tricky-situations-wedding-guests-with-a-history

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UKbride Administrator 12 Jul 2017

We sat on our own facing everyone on separate tables seating the divorced ones on opposite sides of room. And we had thrones lol

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UKbride Administrator 12 Jul 2017

Traditionally they would sit seperately anyway (assuming there aren't any other partners to consider?) so it shouldn't be an issue.

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UKbride Administrator 12 Jul 2017

That's fab then one mum one side sat to OH dad then other side ur dad sat next to OH mum x

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UKbride Administrator 12 Jul 2017

We are having a top table with us,my parents and their partners and my h2b parents on as well. We have moved the best man to the table in front of ours so we will have 8 on the top table in total. I was getting a bit stressed about it but it works really well and is actually easier in seating plans to keep parents who have separated apart if that's what you need to do good luck xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Jul 2017

You could put all on
If they have remarried etc
The parents shouldn't feel uncomfortable if they moan sit them at the back

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UKbride Administrator 12 Jul 2017

I have this problem but thankfully they still get on so they don't mind sitting together at the top table x

Becky Harris
Becky Harris 12 Jul 2017

Our top table with only have my dad and step mum in regards to parents as we both have split parents. They are all happy with this as they want to sit with their partners

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