What do you do if both sets of parents are divorced with regards to seating on the top table? I want to be traditional and have mine and his parents sitting with us but don't want anyone to feel uncomfortable!!
Hi we have the same problem we are only having bride,groom, bridesmaid and best-man on the top table. Put the parents on separate tables :)
We're having us, best man, MOH and our 2 sons .. parents on separate tables ... far apart 😂
We've been looking at this problem but decided to have best man and bridesmaids but I found this while looking
We had our mum's sat together on grooms side and dads sat together brides side. Then their partners were seated at a table next to ours with family.
We are keeping to traditional and have spoken to the step-parents. It is only for the meal after all
I have the same problem so we are having a sweet heart table, for just me and my H2B and no seating plan, in my eyes it's 2 families joined together xx
We had two of my mums ex husbands with us on the day. We just had us and our children on our top table and gave all our other 'v.i.p's' (mum, dad, m.o.h, bestman etc..) a guest table each to 'host' with their partners. It worked well.
My parents are divorced but my partners aren't...we are having all parents and bonus parents on the top table though, couldn't imagine splitting them up and not having parents on the top table just wasn't an option as I thought it would be massively unfair on my future in-laws...personally I can't wait! You do whatever you want to do, I don't think there is a right or wrong in this situation, good luck! X
They don't sit next to each other so it should be ok they sit next to the in laws xx
I had this too so I had our 2 children, moh, best man and his Mrs at top table then each parent "hosted " a table to stop it from being awkward. I was so worried it would be tense none the less and it wasn't at all. Everyone put us first and it was lovely xxx
I'm having the parents alternated which is the traditional way anyway, so I'll be next to my dad, and my Dad will be next to h2bs mum, my h2b will be next to my mum who will be next to h2bs dad
We had this, plus parts had then remarried so we were a large top table.
Best man, maid of honour, brides mum, brides step dad, grooms mum, groom, bride, brides dad, brides step mum, grooms dad, grooms step mum
My parents are divorced but have agreed to sit next to each other. They don't like each other but get on for the sake of me and my sister
We sat on our own facing everyone on separate tables seating the divorced ones on opposite sides of room. And we had thrones lol
Traditionally they would sit seperately anyway (assuming there aren't any other partners to consider?) so it shouldn't be an issue.
That's fab then one mum one side sat to OH dad then other side ur dad sat next to OH mum x
We are having a top table with us,my parents and their partners and my h2b parents on as well. We have moved the best man to the table in front of ours so we will have 8 on the top table in total. I was getting a bit stressed about it but it works really well and is actually easier in seating plans to keep parents who have separated apart if that's what you need to do good luck xxx
You could put all on
If they have remarried etc
The parents shouldn't feel uncomfortable if they moan sit them at the back
I have this problem but thankfully they still get on so they don't mind sitting together at the top table x
Our top table with only have my dad and step mum in regards to parents as we both have split parents. They are all happy with this as they want to sit with their partners
Left to right
Stepmother, father, bride, groom, mother in law, father in law, mum, stepfather was the only way it could work at my sister's wedding! Without upsetting anyone and keeping divorced parents next to their spouses!! ️
Have groom mum, bride dad, bride, groom, bride mum, groom dad? Or similar?
My parents are divorced but my partners isnt. I'm not that bothered about tradition in that sense, and so we are just going to have a top table with us, then bridesmaids and best men. That will be 6 of us. Maybe their partners but I'm not sure yet. It's only going to be for an hit or so anyway!
Tell them to get on for 1 day
I've put my foot down with my partners parents it's only to be his mom and dad on top table his mom is single but his dad remarried so I feel it's only fair on his mom that it's only to be her and h2b dad
Ask them what they would like to do this is what I did so we are having his dad and his dad's wife on top table and then his mum and her husband at a normal table
We included all parwnts on our table so it went dads partner dad me hubby mil fil mum mums partner worked fine :)
I had my mum and dad on the top table as tradition but sat their partners as close as I could. We had a u shape so was quite easy to do x
Normally the top table is alternated anyway so hopefully you might be able to work it so everyone will be happy. Normally bride groom in the middle, next to the groom, brides mum, then grooms dad then if want head bridesmaid, then next to bride grooms mum and then brides dad then best man? Or you could out the two mums together and the two dads together, the idea to show that you're all one family now and not two seperate. Maybe just stick to just your and his parents on the top table and ask the step parents to be on separate tables. I went to a wedding where this worked nicely as it would have made the top table far too long. If you want the step parents on the top table to, then maybe put the step parents with their respective partners but still use the above formation for the parents of that makes sense?
We are having the parents on separate tables but you could just talk to them all. It is your day and they should respect that. You could make sure your mum and his mum are one side and the 2 dads are the other so the divorced sets are not being forced to sit next to each other? x
Have each set of parents hosting their own tables
My parents are devorced but get along fine. My mum's husband is my dad's best friend. I'm sitting there partners between them. Mum, John, Ali, dad. But it helps mine get on ok
Well my parents are divorced An my dad re married on our top table we had our niece my now in laws then my son, my Hub, me, my youngest my mam my middle child then my dad his wife An my sis on the end. We basically put children in the middle of my parents so they wouldn't feel strange or anything and all where included an on top table x
Why not sit them opposite, mother of bride, father of groom one side and the opposite on the other side. X
Talk to them, they might not be uncomfortable at all :-) on a traditional top table, your mum would sit next to his dad and your dad next to his mum, so if your concern is them sitting next to their ex partner then you could go full traditional and not have that problem? I'm sure if you talk to them about how important it is you you both then they would be able to cope for one meal :)
I had maid of honour, best man, bride and groom on the top table and put the parents on the tables to the left and right as my husbands parents are separated and I didn't want anyone left out x
My partners parents are divorced and remarried, so what we doing is having us, bridesmaids, bm and my parents on the top table. And both set of he's parents on separate tables close to the top table. Xx
I had my mum and step dad next two his dad and his misses, then on the other side we had his mum and her Mr next to my nan and grandad.
Traditional but in our own way, everyone was really happy xx
We had the same but it was just not feasible so we're having bride and groom, maid of honour partner (who is a groomsman) and best man partner and their son who is ring bearer. The parents all understood
I would have a word with my step parents. If they are agreeable, you could have your mum and dad next to you, their relevant wife/husband with the bridesmaids your partner's mum and dad next him. When all speeches are done everybody can move around to sit next to their relevant partners. It's your special day and your mum and dad and step parents should understand that you want to be traditional and just for one day or even for a few hours be willing to sit where they need to sit. I hope you have a very special day and then the rest of your future together is bright and happy
Have your mum and his dad sit next each other and his mum your dad sat next to each other on top table then the step-parents on a separate table together.
I've the same problem I'm just having me, my h2b, bestman and bridesmaids and then parents are just sitting with their families or new partners, their fine with it
I sat parents and new partners on the top table! But they've all been together 15 years now.
If not, I'd have had a bridesmaid/usher top table only!
my partners parents are divorced and remarried, mine are still together, having them all:
(left to right) bestman, groom stepmother, groom father, bride mother, groom, bride, bride father, groom mother, groom stepfather, maid of honour
My hubby's parents are divorced and both have new spouses! We sat both sets of his parents on the top table with us two and my mum and dad. Xx
We are having there parents new husband/ wife/ partners on different table. So top table there is MOH, FOG, MOB, Groom, Bride, FOB, MOG, Best man
The only thing I will say is do what you want. If people can't put aside feelings for the sake of a 2 hour dinner it says a lot about them. You won't ever be able to please everyone so please yourself and your husband to be xx
Could you go with the more traditional seating arrangement of sitting your mum with your partners dad and vice versa? I'm sure they will put it all aside for you to have a stress free day x
Our top table was alternated anyway and my hubby's mother and father are divorced. They don't sit near each other anyway! Both of their respective husband & wives were sat on other tables with family. All was fine!
We are sitting the top table traditionally and partners have a separate table with close family.
I have been to 3 weddings where the bride and grooms parents sat on the top table and their new partners sat on separate tables. It's your day and everyone who cares about you will not make things awkward x
The tradition layout means they won't sit next to each other anyway -
MOH, FOG, MOB, GROOM, BRIDE, FOB, MOG, BEST MAN.
In regards to step parents, we aren't having them on the top table as it will be too many people
I had a square table with us and our parents as I didn't want anyone to feel left out or uncomfortable. Our parents partners are our parents too so we didn't want to leave anyone out xx
I have the same problem and don't know what to do as they have never spoken since the divorce and basically hate eachother