We've just sent out our evening invitations which clearly say evening only (not wedding breakfast) and i'm getting texts from some of my friends saying they are so pleased and honoured to be part of my full day. I'm not quite sure how to say they are only invited to the evening. I don't understand why they aren't reading the invitation.
This is odd didn't you put a time on the invite? Have u sent out the right invite this is my biggest worry 🙈 xx
I had this. Just had to be brutal. It was awkward. There haven't been any fall out though
Tell them invite is for evening only sorry
This happened with ours. People received theirs and were still asking 2 months before the wedding if it was just evening invite . People have to understand that it costs a lot of money to cater for each individual. I just explained that day time guests were close friends and family only and they all understood. Xx
Just say 'sorry for the confusion but as stated on the invitation your only invited to the evening xxx'
I would send out a group text reminding people to read their invitations properly as you've had a few thinking they are Day guests when they are actually evening guests and you don't want to have to turn people away xx
I had separate invitations. Ones for the whole day guest with all times and places on and ones for reception with just the later time on
Why do people not read things correctly and stress you out! Either politely correct them (if they fall out with you then you don't want them at your wedding anyway) and if that doesn't work, send them a reminder text/email closer the time saying you're looking forward to seeing them at 7pm (or whatever time it is)
Hi if your invitations clearly state evening there should be no mix up get it sorted quickly good luck :)
I'm now going to send invitations out with big bold letters saying EVENING INVITATION on the front and nothing else 😂😂
Just send them a reply saying that they are evening guests only, there should be no hard feelings most people understand that there are limits on numbers and such
Politely reply. I'm so glad you can join us for the evening. From... e. g 7pm At the end of the day they don't have the wedding time. Just evening x i had a few like that too.
Just reply saying "thank you for your quick response, so glad you can make it to the evening reception" x
So far I've not had this, but I have had the "can I bring "x" with me " the answer is no, I don't have the room for them.
Just explain to them that is the evening only and you look forward to seeing them there!
This is why i dont believe in evening invites - if theyre not important enough to be at your wedding for the whole day then they shouldnt be there at all. I actually find evening invites pretty insulting its like ok i like you a bit just not enough.
Do you have a picture of the invites please so we can advise easier?
Make sure you correct them asap, I know its a bit awkward but say something like "due to limited space at the venue we are just having close family to the ceremoney but we cant wait to see you at the reception at ...pm"
£80 a head versus £18 a head....it's a huge cost so yes I had over 50 people just invited to the night time. I think the way you have worded that is quite rude and insulting to the bride asking the question
Just say that's great, see you at whatever time you put on the invite. It will probably make them look at the invite again and realise their mistake.
We are getting married at a place that means something to me and my fh2b but it can only accommodate 45 people and that's at a push so we have had to be very selective with immediate family and friends there .... then a big party on the night time ..... it's down to peoples preference Xoxox my evening invites state evening let's hope I have any issues as haven't sent them out yet xox
To be fair your evening invitation will only state time date and location for that part of the event - they cannot turn up if they don't have details of the full ceremony x
As a friend, if I got invited to the evening only I would be very happy to have an evening invitation and would not feel even a little bit upset as I realise that family often has to come first. It doesn't even mean they are "preferred" it's just an etiquette of priority and sometimes distant cousin Tom has to be invited because the Mum in law insists.
Also means I can get stuff done during the day.
My fiancee and I have already agreed that the full day is for family and very close friends only, evening for the party animals 😂
OP.. try not to stress ; but however casually drop in your reply that your excited about the wedding and that although you cannot have the person in question at the ceremony that you are so glad that you get to party the evening of your special day with sed friend. You don't have to say why they can't come to the ceremony. The average person is just glad to be thought of and invited and understands how expensive weddings are! Day guests are not MORE special or important than evening guests, it's just down to circumstances etc get the hiccup sorted quickly andbest of luck for your day and continued planning
We would have loved to have everyone to the whole day but there was no way we could have afforded it, several came to our ceremony and then came back in the evening
I would do what someelse said and just send a message saying please read your invitations properly as we've had some confusion
I think a few people assume when they get an invite it's for the whole thing just politely explain that it's just for the evening, 99% of people will be Cool with it. I'm not at the invite sending stage yet but I've spoken to some on my guest list and totally fine with it being evening only they are really chuffed that they are invited to any part of it. Don't stress about it and if anyone has a problem about it then stuff them cause it's about you and your partner x
Send a quick text to all of the evening people to remind them that the evening begins at (time) and if they want to book accommodation they can book (names or hotels). Make it seem like you're giving them hotel information rather than correcting them hopefully this will work x
I would just be honest and message them and say "I'm soo sorry for any confusion but unfortunately I have only been able to invite you to the evening. We look forward to you being a part of our special day by attending our evening celebrations tho"
Just tell them straight. Evening only. If they are your friends they will understand. You can't have everyone at the daytime.
I don't think it is rude, we've been invited to plenty as evening guests and feel honoured to be invited at all. We have a huge family and a lot of friends, so will be having day guests and evening guests. If anyone's offended then don't come! We're not made of money💰 👍🏼
Would be interested to see the wording whic has caused the confusion as we recently received an invite that is very unclear. We are guessing evening only but i just know some people will show to all day and be red faced.