UKbride Member Request 10 Jul 2017

Hi all, my fiancé and I have been together for 9 years and getting married...

Hi all, my fiancé and I have been together for 9 years and getting married September next year, he is in the army. We are looking at army housing but can't move in until after we are married, unfortunately we can't wait another year to move out for personal reasons. We have considered having a small registry office wedding and keeping this secret, but then having our 'wedding' on the date we have planned in order to move out sooner. Only problem is, we are having a church wedding. Would this effect us, with technically already being married? We are undecided. We aren't just doing it for the house like a lot of army couples do, we have other reasons for doing so.

Sophie Gray
Sophie Ransome 10 Jul 2017

Hi - I'm an ex army wife and have a friend who married her husband officially one one date earlier in the year, and then had a "wedding" nearly a year later. I don't think there is anything wrong with this, especially as you've been together so long and have reasons for doing this. You will need to discuss with your church really if there are any issues that might come of this (but they may just change your wedding to a blessing type ceremony). And don't forget your fiance will need to get "permission" from his CO before you can get married (if not done already).

Best of luck!

Jayne Timmins
Jayne Timmins 10 Jul 2017

I would ask the advice of the church where you are hoping to marry, I think I have heard of vow renewals in church or getting the marriage blessed.

Naomi Chappel
Naomi Chappel 11 Jul 2017

I would check with your church just in case. Good luck x


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