Hey members me and my husband want to renew our vows in 2020 after 4...

Hey members me and my husband want to renew our vows in 2020 after 4 years of marriage because I have a weird thing about odd numbers and our 5th year would be 2021. I have a problem with writing out our guest list because there are a few people I don't want to invite because these people ruined my wedding by trying to make it about themselves and dressed inappropriately I invited them to give them the benefit of the doubt after they ruined my hen do and my husbands stag do.. also another one of these people decided to be nice to me the morning of my wedding and then decided to try and threaten me by saying that if I hurt my husband he'll would break lose we have had so many people tell us we are too young and doubting us asking us if we really wanted to get married and so many people making OUR wedding how they wanted it I just want to make this renewal OURS. So the people I'm talking about are close relatives of my husband and he is slightly in agreement but still thinks we should invite them but I don't want them to ruin this event for us aswell as my wedding was totally destroyed. My father passed away earlier in the year we got married and these people totally disrespected the whole thing. I just have so many regrets I don't want any regrets for the renewal... what would you do?