UKbride Member Request 10 Jul 2017

We haven't booked anything yet and have been engaged since November. We...

We haven't booked anything yet and have been engaged since November. We haven't started saving yet (oops) but I want to start looking at venues and budgets but he doesn't seem overly bothered. I feel he isn't that bothered, I've asked him but he said we just don't have the money and that's why he's not excited etc. Advise please?

Naomi Chappel
Naomi Chappel 10 Jul 2017

Try going to some wedding fairs just to have a look at what is available in your area and to get some ideas. You could also start a mood board with ideas of what you would like. You can start planning without the money you just cant book anything. x

Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 10 Jul 2017

Hi we have only booked the venue and provisionally booked the registrar we were told that you can't book the registrar until 1 year before the date you get married :)

Jayne Timmins
Jayne Timmins 10 Jul 2017

Perhaps he is in no rush to get married some people leave it a couple of years between engagement and marriage. We have left it four years to save. Now would be a great time to look at budgets and start saving and then he may get a bit excited, but it could just be a guy thing as we girls are just so excited after getting engaged x

Joanne Williamson
Joanne Williamson 11 Jul 2017

Try not to panic... we've been engaged since Xmas 2011... xx

Alys Brierley
Alys Brierley 11 Jul 2017

My man was excited about the venue but has been miserable about nearly everything else think it's a man thing

Jessica Bateman
Jessica Bateman 12 Jul 2017

My h2b was so ecxited he picked the venue, now he's not bothered he's leaving all down to me lol.

Nicola Beckley
Nicola Beckley 14 Jul 2017

Hi, It must be a man thing, we have been engaged since Christmas 1999 x

Izabela Niepsujewicz
Izabela Niepsujewicz 19 Jul 2017

Find ways of saving money and make him join even if it's only a couple of pounds a day and keep showing him your ideas, view venues it doesn't cost anything and maybe it will make him a little more excited

Donna Chiles
Donna Chiles 23 Jul 2017

we pretty much started looking straight away he came with me to all the venues, meetings with the church, he also took it on himself to arrange the bells for the wedding and the organist, but hes let me to do everything else he says im more creative than him lol....he just hands over his card when i need it ,
i wouldnt worry about yr h2b he will probably get more excited and involved once you have found yr venue and started organising, most places put a payment plan into place its worth checking that out x good luck


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