Hi I posted about the hen in London and my bridesmaids not attending. Just want to clarify a few things: 1. My sister confirmed cost with them before booking and they said it was reasonable 2. They suggested some of the activities, bumping cost up! 3. I believe that part of being a bridesmaid is arranging hen do etc, and I've done it for 2 of them!! 4. I understand situations change but they could have told me, and I would have tried my best to accommodate these 5. The reason I had the hen in London is because it's where they live and wouldn't have to travel as I know they are coming to Ireland and that's a big ask, so I feel I've compromised to have them there and now they aren't even coming.
I think I'd be upset but think I'd want to talk to them about it. Surely there must be a good reason for them not to be able to go x
I would be upset but would have to talk to them to find out why they can't come now
Definitely talk to them and see if they have a reasonable excuse but you have every right to be upset x
I would not be gaving them as bridesmaids after that. However i also disagree with all this hipe about having weekend hen dos, whats wrong with a meal and club? I hat d my hendo and wished i hadnt bother at all it was hot , heatwave hot, it was boring and i didnt like the food! My moh arranged it and i really regretted it.
I think if everyone knew in good time, they should come. Unless there has been an emergency, I had to pay £170 for 1 night for my cousins wedding and that wasn't planned we only found out about 4 months beforehand which was bad as I had to lend money.