Hi were in the midst of planning our wedding for next year.. now thinking about invitations and how to word the fact that we aren't having children at our wedding.. our 3 children will be there and my matron of honour and bridesmaid will have their children there too but that's all the children we want there.. how do we go about wording this when it's time to do the official invites?? Without coming across harsh.. it's not because we don't like children (obviously we have 3 of our own) it's because we know that when it comes to the evening we have people to take our children and look after them /put them to bed in the hotel room when it gets late so the adults can all have a great time after a certain point of the night) Thankyou in advance :)
I guess it depends on how many people have children that aren't invited....I plan to address the invitations with only adult names and will probably follow up with them over text about no kids rather than putting it on invitation xx
Following. I would like to know aswell as not too sure how to word it x
'We love kids but we'd thought you'd like a night off - adults only please'
If you Google child free wedding invite and look at images there are plenty of examples :)
A few ways
I just haven't put the kids names on the invites, if they ask il explain that it's our children and our nieces and nephews only. To be honest most of my friends with kids have said they wouldn't bring them anyway! X
We added this to the invite: "This wedding is not suitable for children. We
kindly request they be kept safely at home. Thank
you for your cooperation. Enjoy your night off!"
...we allowed our bridesmaid to bring her one year old son (how can you not?!) but nobody knew that until the day. Everyone was happy they were able to drink alcohol and not have to worry about their little ones :-)
My cousin recently wrote on hers 'whilst we love to see the children play we hope you understand this is an adult kind of day'
I think most people know not to take their kids if it only has the adults names on the invite iv been to loads of weddings and never assumed my kids wer invited because the invites wer addressed to me and my other half and people will be happy with a day/night off from children best exuse to go child free is a wedding lol
We've put "due to number restrictions at our venue we can only accommodate the individual(s) named on the invitation and can't extend this invite to your children" really people shouldn't assume their kids are invited unless they are specifically named on the invite but knowing what people are like we felt it would be easier to state it like that,
If your were to invite me, i would not be able to attend as we don't have sitter, At our wedding next yr our guests, would also find that differcult cause grand parents will be at wedding too, so no sitters at all.
We didn't invite kids to the wedding. We just told our cousins and friends face to face that this was our decision before putting invites out. All were delighted to have a child free day. We only had my niece (1) and nephew (4) as the only kids there xXx
I'd just say the only children you are having are in the wedding party
I had 3 kids there but above 13 and then just put adults names on the rest xx
I just said we want the adults to relax and tight numbers. And to be honest everyone was happy to have a day off the kids!
We went to a wedding and they only put our names in the invite and she text me saying it's a night to let your hair down. So we new no kids, but when we got there we see loads of children! But we had a adult night it was lush to have break
Or just invite the people with children only to the evening thing. Chances are mkst will arrange a babysitter so they can have a good night. X
We have been blunt and told those invited no children. They all understand. None of my friends or family seem to take offence.
We just stated that: 'due to capacity and budget restraints we are only able to invite children in our immediate family. We hope you understand and see this as an opportunity to let your hair down!" Nobody mentioned it and seem happy to have the day off! Xx
We didn't put anything in about children, but the guests were named on the invites. If anyone would have asked I would have said there are no children as we want the parents to be "off duty" to enjoy themselves properly. We've had no problem at all.
We just put the names of the people we invited not the children's names when they asked if they were allowed to bring the children we said no,
Surely they will realise not to bring children when there names aren't on the invite ! X
Have a google and it comes up with some suggestions. We are going to have the same issue as you x
We wrote …. Invite extends to those named only… maybe a bit harsh but everyone got the message I didn't get any complaints, infact a lot of parents actually commented it was really nice to be able to sit and relax for the day. We only had 5 kids (non our own).
We had loads of children at our wedding! Due to family etc..It was lovely however..I LOVE going to other people's weddings ALONE I know there's no offence intended when our child isn't invited and I look forward to a lovely adult day/evening. It's your day. The ones you offend aren't worth the invite!
We put a note on the back of our invites with the r.s.v.p address. It said " it is with regret that we are only able to accommodate those guests named on the invitation. " we also had a few children at the wedding, but literally close family only. We had 2 people ask if they could bring their kids, but we just said no. Harsh I know, but some people seem to think that an invite to them is also an invite for their children regardless of what you write.
We wrote "due to limited numbers, we hope you'll appreciate that partners and children are only invited if named on the invitation"
I haven't done invites yet but I'm going to add a note saying only children of the wedding party are invited which covers my son, direct nephews and nieces and kids of the best men / bridesmaids. All children will be welcome in the evening though.
be clear writing names on the invites, if you're not sure they'll understand that then write in brackets the number of seats xxxx
Just be upfront and honest, Not everyone will like it but its your day & most will respect your wishes, Were having immediate family only and most have been fine x
If your invitations are addressed to the couple only then they shouldn't assume their kids are invited! However, I appreciate not everyone thinks this way so a curteous note to say this is an adults only party.
Laura Grace Davies
You could mention he capacity? My sister had s smallish venue and kids would have fitted in.
I wouldn't put there names on invites simple
We had our 2 children at wedding as my lad walked me down the aisle and my daughter was bridesmaid and my nephew was page boys then we invite friends and family members with kids in the evening time for little bit