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UKbride Member Request 27 Jun 2017

Hi I've just booked my first appointment to try on wedding dresses. I'm...

Hi I've just booked my first appointment to try on wedding dresses. I'm feeling really nervous about it as I'm not sure what to expect. How pushy are the boutiques for you to make a decision on the day? What have other people experienced on their first appointments? Please could someone let me know what to expect :-)

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UKbride Administrator 27 Jun 2017

The bridal boutique I went to were fab! There was no pressure to buy that day and she let me try on as many dresses I wanted to!

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UKbride Administrator 27 Jun 2017

I only went to 2 and both were totally different I felt quite pressured in the first place which I think my mom sensed as she suggested going to lunch to have a think, we then went somewhere else n they were amazing I felt so much more relaxed n got my dress

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UKbride Administrator 27 Jun 2017

I've been to tons No pressure at all. X

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UKbride Administrator 27 Jun 2017

Go to Wed2be so much more relaxing. I got a bargain to!

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UKbride Administrator 27 Jun 2017

I went to Wed2b and they were fantastic. There was no pushing from them at all. They asked all the right questions, made suggestions when needed and even let me have a wee walkabout in the dress I had picked. I wasn't excited when I went dress shopping. I just wanted to get it over with. However, I left feeling like a bride to be....and relieved! I think if you are strong willed enough and know what you're looking for you should be fine. Oh....and expect to leave with something different to what you had in mind! Good luck!

Emma Richardson
Emma Richardson 27 Jun 2017

I've only been to one that my Best friend got hers from, first place I went in and found my dress and the lady that helped me was lovely the shop was so relaxed and they weren't pushy at all... it is a family run shop that I went into Brides Dream..

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Jun 2017

My experience was fantastic! They were helpful, relaxed and let me take my time. I would advise trying on as many different styles as possible, you can't really tell what they'll look like on and most people I know find 'the one' when they aren't expecting to!! Enjoy it!

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UKbride Administrator 27 Jun 2017

Natalie Ann Brides was amazing, made me feel comfortable and special and allowed me to try all kinds of styles on, not rushed at all xxx

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UKbride Administrator 27 Jun 2017

Aaww try to relax. This should be the most fun part of your wedding plans. My advice is to set yourself a budget before going anywhere. Nothing worse than finding your dream dress and it being way out of your price.
A reputable boutique will sit with you prior to trying any dresses and discuss your ideas. They may suggest trying different designs and styles to those you have in mind, but they know their stuff so go with it, you may be surprised.
Nobody should be pushing you to buy a dress, even when I found mine and just knew, the boutique suggested I thought it over for a day or so as it is a big commitment. I went for drink in the cafe next door with my mum and went back to order it 1hr later lol

I do find Wed2be are very pushy, they will tell you the dress may be gone next time you come in or they can't get anymore once that one has gone so take it now.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Jun 2017

I only ever visited 2 places as the 2nd place put me off so much I went back to the 1st.
Sadly I found my dress at the 2nd place but the 1st place could order it as they were a stockist so bare that in mind.... if you find a dress but don't like the store check who else stocks that designer.
The 1st I went to was where I got my dress, they were really relaxed and friendly, didn't put any pressure on us in terms of decisions or money. The 2nd place wasn't for me, they were really pushy and made me feel like I was on that 'say yes to the dress'. Wanted 50% of the money there and then too. I would say chose a store that you like the feeling of as they will probably take more care of you as a customer!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Jun 2017

I only had one snooty shop that was awful! And the 'poshest' shop I went to was funnily enough one of the loveliest/friendliest... I had no pressure from any of them - they know you'll be having a look elsewhere too, but they always write down your faves to take away and have a think. Basically don't have any preconceptions, just go along and enjoy :)

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UKbride Administrator 27 Jun 2017

I went to a shop near me and it was the first shop. The woman was fantastic and I found one I liked but wasn't "the one". She told me to definitely look at other shops and shop around and then if needed to ring up and make an appointment with them as they get new stock in regularly

Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 27 Jun 2017

Hi I have been to 2 one pushy the not but didn't get my dress going again next month probably Wed2b good luck finding the dress you want :)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Jun 2017

I went to a bridal boutique and they weren't interested. Just said yeh try on what u like. Didn't offer advice. Didn't help me into the dress. I fell in love with a dress though and bought it. Even the aftercare was awful. Went to wed2b a few weeks ago for bridesmaid dresses and the girls wanted me to try on different styles. The staff there where so helpful. No pressure. As much time as we wanted. Anyway I fell in love and found THE dress so ended up buying that now I have 2 dresses. But anyway point to the story is wed2b a budget bridal shop where so much more professional and I enjoyed it so much more x

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UKbride Administrator 27 Jun 2017

When you walk in youl get a good or bad feeling and just go from there! Dont feel pressured at all, some can be i found but i didnt feel i had to make a decision x

Rhiann Baxter
Rhiann Baxter 27 Jun 2017

i went to one shop said i has a dress ive seen in their window id like to see. didnt offer me anyother dresses to try on had it off in 5 mins then walked down the road to a formal wear shop and fell in love with a dress had ir on for a hour took some pics as my mum couldnt make it felt so more comfortable than the actual bridal shop

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Jun 2017

I only needed to go to one shop, But I find the staff to be lovely. Even making sure I was happy with my choice before making my final decision :) the shop was closing so you'd thought they'd be rather pushy.

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UKbride Administrator 27 Jun 2017

In my experience no one was pushy, I guess it depends where you go and who the consultant is...but if they're pushy they're doing it wrong! Try and relax, I found it a bit scary because I'm not very confident, the worst part of the experience for me was being left in my undies in the changing room while the consultant went off to find another dress...I felt horrible, and there was nowhere to sit and no robes provided to make the experience less cringey, other than that though it was fine. It takes a bit to get comfortable with a stranger in the room helping you change in and out of the dress but at the end of the day they've seen it all before, and they know what they're doing :) you'll be fine)

Lauren James
Lauren James 27 Jun 2017

Wed2b is amazing! I went with a list of dresses I'd seen and the girl grabbed a couple and then I had a look on the rack. You can have 4 at a time but their so patient. I found my dream dress within 45mins but they let me hold it for a few hours while we had lunch just to make sure I was 100% sure on it. They also offer a 14day refund service if you change your mind. Although, with wed2b, you need to find your own seamstress. Oh and your best to get there early as its no appointments. They made it the most perfect experience for me :) good luck! X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Jun 2017

I just went to my first session. I went to confetti and lace. They were really nice and thankfully honest about what suited me. Some of their choices i was a bit dubious about but when I tried it on I was shocked at how good it looked. I didn't find my dress now but have a better idea of what I'm looking for.

Jemma Gunn
Jemma Gunn 27 Jun 2017

I was wondering the same thing (first appointment this weekend!)! x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Jun 2017

My advice would be if the ladies don't help you to feel comfortable find a different shop.

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UKbride Administrator 27 Jun 2017

My first appointment wasn't good at all. I have a size 10 uk. I asked for a ball gown and tried only one dress which looked awful and was a mermaid with a bad lace. Told I wasn't skinny even from my mum and the store wanted me to decided based only on 1 awful dress. Plus my appointment was barely 40 min cause they said had other things to do. Hopefully the other appointments will be better.

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UKbride Administrator 27 Jun 2017

I went to 2- they wanted opinions on the dresses but didn't push to buy at all!

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UKbride Administrator 27 Jun 2017

I didn't really enjoy wedding dress shopping. I had one place say in was too big for their shop (I'm overweight but not a whale) I did like wed2be but didn't fall for a dress there. I found a lovely guy who is going to make mine bespoke. I would not be able to buy a dress and get it altered for the price I am getting mine done. No pressure and have seen a sketch and can't wait to see the final product. So excited after loosing faith

Suzie Stokes
Suzie Stokes 27 Jun 2017

I went to three. The more local/boutique ones can be quite pushy. The other two I went to were David's bridal and wed2be. Both were amazing. David's bridal being my first one I went to said 'right weren't looking for the one we're looking for the right style'. They didn't expect me to buy a dress then and there.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Jun 2017

Expect to see lots of dresses in lots of styles! I went to 4 shops & they were all so different in stock, atmosphere & staff. In some shops the ladies stayed in the room while you changed, others they left you to get on with it yourself. Some asked me lots of questions & really listened. The worst shop was one where I felt the lady wasn't listening to me at all & I had to ask her for a glass of water 3 times before I got one (it can get hot trying on all those dresses)!
If you don't feel comfortable in the first shop you visit, don't feel you have to make a decision straight away. You can always go back after visiting some other shops. Good luck!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Jun 2017

I did 3 shops there all gone no one is pushing on you at all just enjoying your time and try on things that's not what you look for you be shook when you pick do try wed to be if you have one close

Vanda Kaminski
Vanda Kaminski 27 Jun 2017

Tell them your max budget straight away. One place I went to put me in a dress 4 times what I could afford. Wed2B were fantastic with me. So helpful and not pushy at all. X

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Jun 2017

Its like anything it depends how you are with them - the first time I went my friend booked a mid morning slot on a weekday and I think we could have spent all day there - and no point was I pushed to buy anything and got to try on as many dresses (even ones we knew woudlnt look right!). I am sure there are pushy ones out there but hopefully that will not be your experience!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Jun 2017

I was really nervous for my first appointment and the lady was amazing, made me so comfortable and not pushy at all, I'm going dress shopping again this weekend and still slightly nervous but mainly really excited now, good luck!

Sarah Pollard
Sarah Pollard 27 Jun 2017

They can be pushy ... I made my policy to go on my own 1st time .... & only return 2nd time if interested taking girlfriends to double check out my gut instinct is this the one ? ... That gave me time & space to reflect ... !!

Naomi Chappel
Naomi Chappel 27 Jun 2017

None of the places I have been to have put pressure on me to buy on the day. If you are really worried go with someone who will be good saying no to them. Another trick is to say you have another appointment still to go to to look at dresses and will make a decision after you have been there. Try to enjoy the experience x

Zoe-Laura Finch
Zoe-Laura Finch 27 Jun 2017

I went to a local shop to 'try not buy' having an idea what I wanted but not sure what would suit my figure, to my surprise shapes that used to look awful on me where really flattering and I ended up ordering the last dress I tried on! Staff where not pushy and really helpful, I tried loads of dresses on!! Don't let anyone push you to something you don't feel 100% amazing in, remember it's your day and your decision, good luck hope you have fun :) xxx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Jun 2017

I've had mixed experiences. My first weekend I ended up at a sale by accident so that was a disaster haha then the second place seemed to forget I was coming and I felt pushed in the corner a bit.
My second weekend I ended up finding my dress right away! They knew I had other appointments and was happy to let me wait and come back later if I wanted to. But they were so good and I loved the dress so much I ended up cancelling the other appointments.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Jun 2017

I got my dress before I even booked my venue!! Went straight to house of mooshki head office. Staff were great. Did their best to get me a bargain sale dress before I even looked at getting a custom one made. First place I had been, no pressure, got my dress at a £1300 reduction :D x

Diana Popescu
Diana Popescu 27 Jun 2017

WED2B! I tried on 7 dresses I hated and the 8th was THE ONE! The atmosphere is very relaxed and the ladies are lovely.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Jun 2017

The ones I went into weren't really at all pushy, apart from one perhaps. The one where I really expected them to be a bit stuck up and pushy is where I ended up buying my dress and they were all really lovely (Prima Donna)

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Jun 2017

Get married in 12 weeks and no dress .. they aren't pushy at all .. x

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Jun 2017

I bought my dress in the first and only shop I went to, they were very relaxed and even let me stay a little after the shop had closed deliberating shoes! I found my dress and ordered it that day and I would say if you find 'The one' then don't feel that you have to wait to buy it as looking at more may just confuse you! Also keep an open mind in terms of styles, I gave both my sister and mum a chance to pick a dress they wanted me to try on and I ended up buying something I never would have considered!

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 27 Jun 2017

If they're pushy, then its not the place to buy! This first one i visited had booked us an appointment from visiting a wedding fayre - but once we got there they were all for the hard sell. And once they realised it was my first appointment, they were offhand and couldn't be bothered - even to the point of being rude to my bridesmaid! The second one we visited couldn't have been more different - had time for us and listened to what I wanted. After trying on dresses, then going back the week later, I bought from them. Don't fall for the hard sell, and if you're uncomfortable, walk away.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Jun 2017

Wed2be is a great starting off point to try on and find your style without pressies

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Jun 2017

I was so nervous going! But it was fine! I ended up getting mine from the first shop I went to, not pushy one bit, they just want to make you feel perfect! And they understand they might not have a dress for you, I showed her a picture of what I would like but said I'm open minding (as she might think something suited me better) hope you find your dress xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 28 Jun 2017

When I went the staff was wonderful and not pushy. They gave me some suggestions I would never have gone for and one of them is now my wedding dress :)

Rachel Squire
Rachel Squire 4 Jul 2017

I went to about 12 different ones. Only two of them were pushy.

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