What are people's thoughts on whether you should pay for the bridesmaid hair doing? I have 5 bridesmaids and 2 flower girls and it £35pp which I really can't afford but feel a bit mean
I am not planning on paying for my bridesmaids to have their hair done and when I was bridesmaid I paid for my own. Unless you are asking them to have a specific hair style that is difficult to do yourself I think it is reasonable to get them to pay for it. x
I got everything else for my girls so asked them to pay for their hair and make up. Xx
I went halves on dresses because they'll keep them and hopefully wear them again but I wouldn't make them pay for hair and makeup- I asked them to be my bridesmaid so I wouldn't make them pay. They're already travelling 5hours to get here and having to take time off work xx
I paid for my girls dresses and bouquets but they are paying for their hair and make up and shoes :)
Mine paid for their own hair but it was only £10 each x
I've paid for my bridesmaids flowers and dresses. We are doing each other's hair and make up etc and they are getting their own shoes. £35 to one person is reasonable but for you to pay out that much for each person is a lot with the rest of the wedding costs. I'm sure if you explain to everyone they will understand. If they can't afford it they can always do their own hair :) x
I paid for everything, my make up artist was £50 per person and hair was a further £30, it was my choice to use those people and wouldn't expect them to pay for it themselves x
I have three bridesmaids. I've paid for all their dresses and I said I would pay for either hair OR makeup and if they want both they'll have to pay for the other. X
I paid half of my bridesmaids dresses and paid their hair and make up on the day. Just requested they pay for a trial.
It's what you can afford and if you give them enough notice I'm sure if they love you they won't mind x
I paid for dresses hair and make up jewellery only thing they bought was shoes
Depends on whether you have a specific hair style in mind. If they could manage to do their own hair then it's reasonable for them to either pay or do it themselves. If you're insisting they have it professionally done then you should pay. First time I was a bridesmaid, the bride told us what style she wanted, which was reasonably simple, and said she was debating whether she could afford the £30 each. I actually volunteered to pay it, as £30 is not much compared to her forking out £120, and I decided it was worth treating myself to have my hair properly done. The second time I was a bridesmaid we were all paid for, as the bride had something specific in mind. When I got married, the bridesmaids all had such different lengths and styles of hair that I didn't even try to match it, I just let them do it how they chose, and they all wore a silver accessory. I gave them the option of using the professional hair dresser and paying themselves but they didn't bother.
I offered my bridesmaids the choice of either paying for their dress or their hair and makeup which seemed to go down well :)
I've been a bridesmaid 3 times.. 1st time hair was done.. 2nd time I was offered to have either hair or make up.. 3rd time nothing.. I would just tell them they can get their hair done for £35.. cx
I paid for mine and the brides as part of my wedding gift to her.
You should always pay for it
It's a personal choice but I paid for everything as I asked them to be part of my day. I only had 2 bridesmaids and 2 flowergirls as this is what I could afford x
I didn't pay for my bm's
I wouldn't expect my bridesmaids to pay for anything like that. At the end of the day you picked how many you wanted you should always account for how much each one costs before asking too many.
I was a bridesmaid and had to pay for everything myself and I couldn't afford to buy what she wanted us to wear, hair or makeup and the bride couldn't afford it, which is why she asked us to pay. I did my Own, hair and nails but I didn't match with the rest of the party- -the way I see it is, if you only have a budget for two bridesmaids for e.g., only have two.
We are paying for dresses and flowers and hair and bridesmaids getting their own make up done and shoes x
I'm paying for my bridesmaids dresses, flowers and hair. But due to some having sensitive skin and some having problems with shoes they are paying for there own as it is easier for them xxx
I paid for everything for mine. I asked them to be my bridesmaid and could not then ask them to pay for themselves. It's personal choice at the end of the day though.
Hi I have only one bridesmaid but as we are on a very tight budget her Mum is paying for her hair to be done :)
Depends whether you want them same or not really . I'm paying for make up and hair for mine as I want them all to have same
You asked them to be your bridesmaid so you should pay for everything in my opinion, if you cant afford you shouldnt of asked... i payed for everything for my bridesmaids. I wanted 7 people but i only had 4 cause thats all i could afford... always think about what you can afford before you ask people xx
I had 5 and didn't pay for hair/makeup as I left that to be their choice, I didn't want to force them to have it done as I knew a lot of them didn't want it. I paid for their dresses, flowers and presents. And to be fair they were happy to pay if they wanted it done. Generally if we go to events, weddings as guests we all pay anyway for hair makeup so they looked at it like that.
I paid for everything for my bridesmaids. I didn't expect them to fit the bill for anything as it was my choice to ask them to be part of my day. The hair and make up was a drop in the ocean when it came down to paying for everything else.
I don't think its unreasonable to ask them to pay x
Personally I think it is something to consider before asking. It seems a bit rich to me asking 7 people but then effectively saying you can't afford to have them and they will have to pay for the privilege
My bridesmaids are paying for there own dresses and make-up. When I asked them we discussed a budget to suit all they have no problems at all
The only thing I didn't pay for was their shoes and that was because they wore shoes they already owned so they were comfortable. If you can't afford to pay for them, don't ask them.
I paid for bridesmaid's make up,including the make up trial which was really expensive. Luckily my husband's auntie was a hairdresser,so she did my bridesmaids and flower girls hair for free. Although, if we would not have been able to use her services, I would definitely have paid for all of the hair myself just because you often need or want it a certain way so should pay for this out of the wedding budget.
My maid of honour is my hairdresser so win win for me! I don't think it's unreasonable for them to pay for themselves x
It's not as if they are going to turn round and say they not going to be your bridesmaid. If they weren't your bridesmaids and coming to your wedding as guests chances are they would get their hair done professionally anyway x
I can see both sides. 1, don't have as many bridesmaids if u can't afford to pay for them 2, it's not so bad asking them to pay cause most folk have their hair and makeup professionally done nowadays for weddings, nights out etc. If you've paid for their dresses, shoes etc, then they're really not gonna be out of pocket cause they don't need to buy an outfit. I have the same amount as u and only asking them to buy their shoes. But I don't see the harm in asking them to pay for hair and makeup x
If they can wear their hair however they want then it's up to them if they do their hair or get it done, if you tell them how then you should arrange for it to be done either by paying or asking a friend who is good with hair x
I paid for my 3 bridesmaids, flower girl and mother of bride, mother of groom hair and make up trials and on the day but they were happy not to receive a gift on the day.... so many tweeks to the make up required!!!!!
I'm paying for my bridesmaid hair and make up as I would like it a ferret way. The only think I'm not paying for is their shoes as they have long dresses.
I'm paying for everything for my bridesmaids except shoes and jewellery. I think as long as they know from the outset what you're paying/not paying for then thats fine as they'll know where they stand
I think it depends how you want their hair doing, if you are very specific about them all being the same then i think its fair for the bride and groom to pay. But if you are happy for the bridesmaids to choose how their hair is worn then i don't think its unreasonable to give them the choice of having it done or doing it themselves. x
With mine I had 4 bridesmaids an I really would have loved to have paid for everything but in actual fact they wouldn't let me so we compromised they bought their dresses I paid for shoes I paid for their hair too and I luckily got my cousin to do make up x
I asked mine to be my bridesmaids so I paid for all of their stuff - dress, hair, make up and jewellery. I made sure I saved enough to be able to do that. Everybody has their own way, I just felt it was my responsibility.
When I was a bridesmaid for my friend we all paid for our own hair. I'm sure if you spoke to them they would be happy to pay for it themselves
I've been upfront with my bridesmaids, If I could afford to pay for their dressed and stuff , definitely I'd pay for it but sometimes you cant. You just need to be relax on what you need from them
I'm paying for my bridesmaids and maid of honor , for hair and makeup , dresses etc , but I don't have a specific style in mind , I'm just trying to stick with the "traditional" idea of a wedding .
I think if you can't afford to pay maybe even offer to go half's as you have asked that person to be part of the bridal party
i have 5 bridesmaids too and we have agreed that im buying the dresses and if they want hair and make up doing then they need to pay for that, i think that if your saying they must have it a certain way then maybe pay half? but if your dead chilled about it then i would ask them to pay. x
if you're wanting something specific, pay for it. if not, don't bother. i've paid for my girls because i have a theme/style. xxx
I'm paying for everything for my BM's as it is me that has asked them to be in my bridal party.. Hair, makeup, dresses etc..
Ive told are my sisters they have to pay for there own hair and makeup but i will buy dresses and shoes x
I'm not paying for my 3 to have their hair done! I'm already buying their dresses
I think it's your choice to have 7 bridesmaids so you should factor in all possible costs when deciding. If you can't afford to pay for all aspects then you shouldn't have so many IMO.
We're paying for my bridesmaids hair to be done... Make up they're paying themselves as not everyone wanted to wear it x
Mine did their own as did I xx
Think it's a bit off to expect them to pay really. If you can't afford it you need to to tell them they can have it how they like so they can choose a professional job or diy.
I think if you ask them to be bridesmaids you should be prepared to pay for everything. If you can't afford it them maybe don't have so many.
I had 3 bridesmaids and 2 flower girls and I paid for everything xx
I'd say u should pay If u want then to look a certain way. If u don't mind then it's up to them x
I've got 2 bridesmaids. I'm paying for their hair, dress and shoes. One of my bridesmaids is paying for their makeup and mine as a wedding present x
I paid for my bridesmaids hairs to be done cos they were little and wasn't old enough to pay themselves and I didn't think it was fair to ask my mil to pay for her girls as she did the cake, invities, the food and helped with decorates for the hall but I think if they are adult bridesmaids and able to pay for themselves it is only fair just explain or offer to pay half, and I had a friend do our make ups as I couldn't afford to pay a professional do out hair and make up x
I was a bridesmaid at my friend's wedding and she didn't. I wasn't upset as I just went to my local hairdressers, they didn't cost to much. My friend let us do our hair how we wanted
I paid for hair but not make-up. As its up to them if they want it professionaly done.