UKbride Member Request 21 Jun 2017

Ok, so, planning hasn't officially started. But, one of my friends is...

Ok, so, planning hasn't officially started. But, one of my friends is really excited for me to get married but I advised her I wouldn't be asking her to be bridesmaid, she started really crying and I felt terrible, so I said ok. Now we're looking at venues etc. and things are becoming more real, I don't feel as I want her to be my bridesmaid. She is a close friend and I do love her dearly but she has not been the most reliable throughout our friendship. I feel awful.

Naomi Chappel
Naomi Chappel 21 Jun 2017

You could apologize to her and say that you cannot afford to have her as a bridesmaid. x

Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 21 Jun 2017

Hi I agree with Naomi that would be the most plausible excuse :)

Emma Raisborough
Emma Raisborough 21 Jun 2017

It is a shame you gave in initially as you have now made it harder on yourself and her. I agree with the others, the easiest scapegoat is to blame it on budget constraints. Apologise and explain that as you had previously said you hadn't planned for her to be a bridesmaid and you just can't afford it. It will be hard no matter what you say, but take it as a lesson learnt, you can't please everyone no matter what you do, so go with what makes you happy.


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