Opinions please. Me and my fiance are wanting a quick and simple wedding with around 20 people. Our problem is... Fiancés sister doesn't talk to me or like me and has said some horrible stuff about me in the past. She says she doesn't have a problem but clearly does. She and him are currently not speaking either about something that is petty but has nothing to do with me. She clearly isn't happy for us and has said she would rather we weren't together. Would you invite her?
I would personally make that his decision as it is his sister. If he isn't bothered then I wouldn't bother inviting her as you don't want something to spoil your day x
Hi I agree with Naomi on this :)
no, but id leave it down to him, its his sister so you cant take that decision away from him x
Nope
I'd let him make that decision. How long off is the wedding? Will his family kick off if she isn't invited? If there's clear problems then I wouldn't want them there but it's his family xx
I have a simular issue, we did invite her but she said no and kicked off again so I'd leave it down to him would he regrett not having his sister at his wedding?
Nope no negative on a positive and happy day x
I'm in similar situation. We are on and off with my sis in law to be. I don't like her and like yours she is saying there's no problem when I confronted her but it's quite clear she doesn't like me either. Unfortunately, despite the current situation my h2b still wants to invite her and I've had to go along with it. It's his day aswell as mine and I don't want him resenting me for the rest of our lives in anyway because I was the reason his sister wasn't at his wedding. Xx
If you are both in agreement not to invite her then don't. It's your day tbh and you don't have to invite anyone you don't want to.
I wouldn't invite her, but if you do invite her who says she will accept? She could say no and then her not being there is her decision.
His family, his decision. It can't come back to haunt you at a later date that you didn't want her there. Tell him you'll be happy with, and support, whatever decision he makes
No
No. I have had similar issues and those involved are not invited
I would send her an invite to show her that you and h2b are making an effort to hold out the olive branch even for jus one day at least ur showing how grown up u both r, and also u have put the ball in her court if she doesn't turn up thats her problem at least u can say u both tried... Hope all goes well hun x
No! I have the same issue 12 years on. I can't forgive her ever. She'll cause drama on OUR day so no why invite someone who doesn't like u?
Simply put. No. She'll ruin your day!
Agreed with naomi. Leave the decision to your fiance. Just focus on your day xxxx
Not a chance!!! As a couple you support each other - and if she's said nasty things about you, then your partner needs to back you up and not invite her either. We had a similar problem 6 years ago - and we made sure we didn't invite the person in question (and had a small wedding of 20 people as well).
No!
Basically, my advice is.... your wedding your rules. You can invite who you want and who you don't want. If they don't make you happy, why have them there. X
Blimey,all these problems going on with people trying to ruin peoples special most important day of your lives like yesterdays bride to be,you just concentrate on your beautiful self,and let fiance sort,she probably jealous you marrying her brother and feels threatened,your the lucky one your happy,have a fabulous day,leave to him
Simple answer no I wouldn't. If they can't be happy for you why would you want them there on both your special day, just because someone is blood doesn't give them the right to treat you whatever way they choose and still get to be in your "family". Sorry to be blunt but I wouldn't be used or walked on like that for me or my partner x
Nope. If she clearly has a problem then no. She'll spoil your day. We had 20 people on our day, everyone of them we loved, it went perfectly x
no dont invite her it will spoil your day cos you will be worried if shes talking to other guess about you and you h2b isnt talking to her either she doesnt deserve to be there good luck
I would let ur fiancé choose but if it was down to me I would invite her as she is family and I always hope things can get resolved in families. Maybe your wedding can bring everyone together?
Up to your fiance. From a personal perspective though,as someone who hates her inlaws to be,I wouldn't and in fact,we aren't. I'm only begrudgingly allowing him to invite his older sister (because that's what he wants but I hope she'll turn the invite down),but his younger siblings are most definitely not invited
She sounds horrible, however I personally would still invite her, at least then you can't be blamed for not making an effort. If she says no then shes the one who looks foolish.
At the end if the day she's family Id make a point if it and send her a invite but that's just me lol what can she do .. probably say yes anyway because she will look like a total douche if she doesn't turn up . Yr marrying her brother not her and it's yr happiness
I wouldn't dream of inviting someone to my wedding that I knew had said didn't want us together, family or not! If he isn't speaking to her anyway then she probably isn't expecting an invite. If you rise above it all and send an invite she will no doubt turn it into another narcissistic drama that will cloud your day, don't give her the satisfaction. There's no way my fiancé would even entertain anyone coming who wasn't happy for us x
In a similar position in that my other half had a family member who is kicking up a fuss but we still sent an invite anyway! X
Send her an invite. If she doesn't come it's her loss and she'll be the one regretting it xx
Hell no
I'm in the same situation but with my in-laws. We're inviting them because I want to be the bigger person and then if they don't want to come I can't be blamed. If they come then they will be around so many people who are happy for us and who love us that they will have to behave!
If she isn't invited ... invite come from two of you not one .... she would prob make it your fault IF she genuinely has an issue with you, I suggest that her brother has a 'chat' with her
Why should you have someone there who Cleary doesn't want you both to be together family or not I wouldn't invite her ! if she really had a big problem with you she would keep her mouth shut and just want her brother to be happy X
She is his family and will be yours soon too for the next 50 years, so I would probably invite her and then its up to her if she doesn't attend
no i wouldnt invite her and your h2b isnt talking to her she will spoil your day and talk behind your back and sit there looking miserable and telling people you shouldnt get married so defo no dont invite her good luck
I have the exact same
Issue. Sometimes they talk and sometimes they don't. I have accepted that she needs to be a part of the day because maybe some day I can forgive the pure evilness. But she will not step foot in my house.
It's your wedding day at the end of the day
Anyone who doesn't support you doesn't need to be at your wedding ruining the happiness
My friend had this problem with her partners parents
They now wish they'd never invited them to the wedding because they put a downer on the whole day
No
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