I don't no if I'm thinking to much into this but a couple of weeks ago o had tickets to a wedding fair at the venue we are getting married, the plan as both mums would come as they have not seen th venue, day of the wedding fair h2b mother says she can't come as h2b brother has turnt up! Ok fair enuff. We have another wedding fair this weekend and now she is saying she is to busy, I'm getting a little upset as I'm trying to involve her but she's not having any of it.
Don't be upset. She can hardly say you're pushing her out when you've invited her on several occasions. You don't have anything to prove here
There's only so many times you can invite her with u.. If she carry on saying she's busy or making g excuses then Atleast you tried. X
My mum hasn't seen our venue, has never been there before ever, and she isn't bothered about seeing it. Tbh I was more bother of she wanted to. Maybe this is the same?
Hi I wouldn't worry about this too much perhaps she wants a surprise :)
She may be thinking how my dad was as he wanted to know nothing about the wedding other than where the venue was. He wasn't interested in any other detail as he wanted it to all be a surprise on the day. He wasn't even going to go to the church dress rehearsal.......... I did insist on that
So carry on inviting her and if she doesn't come sod her, you're doing the right thing by inviting her. You can't force her to come
You have tried your best so can't complain later down the line. My MIL was exactly the same... She lives in Italy and when she was coming to England it was arranged she would come to the venue and also meet all the suppliers and week before coming to England for the summer she said she was too busy to do anything with us. I ensured that I had sent her pictures of everything and she wasn't interested and I was shocked and hurt. Especially as if I didn't involve her she wouldn't have said I left her out of her first son's wedding. In the end my husband just said I've tried more than enough and if she isn't showing interest then leave her to it and she can't complain. So stop inviting your MIL
My MIL isn't interested at all in my wedding and has said so very clearly. It's just not her thing. She is still happy for us both and will enjoy the day. You have tried to include her so she can't say you haven't. Just enjoy your wedding planning. She might get involved later x
Thank you all! This has made me fill much better about it.
Then don't bother hunnie Xx enjoy your planning x
Just give up trying to involve her, you don't need her to be involved so why worry about it? She'll no doubt come to the wedding, just leave it at that...she'll be the only one regretting it in the future.
U have tried. If she is too busy for something like this, it shows her prioirities! Dont let it worry you. Enjoy planning ur special day with your h2b. Thats all thst really matters anyway
Don't let it bother you. At the end of the day it is your wedding and whether or not people want to be involved is up to them. Just enjoy the planning and forget them, at least you tried xXx
Leave her be then
I wouldn't get too upset about this, you are making the effort to invite her, and as long as you continue to do so you can't be blamed for not trying to involve her. But people do have their own lives that does not revolve around weddings and we just need to accept that :)
i'm not going to mention the wedding fair to her today as its tomorrow as it her that will be missing out tomorrow not me or my mum. when i see her now im going to keep hush hush about all our plans. thanks people x