My dad died suddenly last year, the day after I got engaged. So I asked his best friend who's like an uncle to me to give me away. I'm toying with the idea of having my dads picture somewhere at the wedding and the reception but worried it might be morbid
Not morbid at all, you want him with you on your special day. I've a friend that had a photo of her dad on the underneath of her bouquet. Have also seen photo trees with "absent" family photos on x
Why dont you wear a locket with his photo in so he with you all day x
Search memory bouquet charms they are a lovely idea and then you could have him with you all day
You could have a picture of your dad in an open locket (one that doesn't close) and have the locket attached to your bouquet, that way he will still be walking with you down the aisle.
I am so sorry to hear your sad news. I dont think its morbid. I completely understand you would want a photo there. If a full photo is too much for you then have a look at the lockets that have already been mentioned either as a necklace or in your bouquet. x
Not morbid at all. We had photos of my grandparents and hubbys grandad on the cake table so we had them with us. X.
I will be doing the same thing at my wedding it's not morbid it's a great way to have your dad part of your special day even if he carnt be there with you x
Not at all, my uncle passed a couple of months before my wedding, and all my grandparents and h2b grandad so we had a little corner with picks of them all in and a single white rose for each of them, I also had mini photos tied to my bouquet, funny but when I was handed my flowers the picture of my uncle slipped out think it was his way of telling me he was there
I had the same thing happen to me (died suddenly the day I got engaged) we are having loads of his photos, including one by the reception drinks to say 'have a drink on me'
I'm sorry you list your dad. It's not morbid to have him there with you. I put our grandparents pictures who have passed on little lockers and hung them in my bouquet and my sister in laws bouquet so that they were there but it wasn't obvious to anyone else xx
Can't really see it properly but that's what I done for mine xx
I'm having a little light up tree with photos of loved ones on I don't think it's morbid it's your day and it's your way of having them there xx
Have a locket in your bouquet with his picture that way he's still with you as you walk down the aisle.
Why don't you get a little locket with his picture on that you can wear so when your walking down the aisle it will be like he's with you when you do it, or on a bracelet?
My mum died suddenly after a short illness 3 weeks before my wedding. We thought she would be there but under her orders.... we were told to go ahead and not change anything! Her funeral was literally a week before the wedding so her absence was very raw and too painful for me to do too much. I had a locket with her picture in attached to my bouquet so she was with me, I wore one of her rings & my husband honored her and raised a toast during his speech. Did your dad use a hankie/watch/cufflinks?? You could carry something of his with you as well... x
So sorry for your loss. No not at all! It's a lovely idea to include him in your special day. The charm on the bouquet is a lovely idea if you don't feel comfortable having a photo on display, I got married on the first anniversary of my baby boys stillbirth so I had a charm with his photo on my bouquet and I also halfed a speech with my now husband so pay tribute to him, so a speech is also a lovely idea if you felt you were able to do this . Good luck with your wedding xxx
Not at all I think it's a lovely idea xx
No way morbid, he is your dad, it sounds like a lovely tribute idea xxx
I lost my Dad 6 years ago and had a pin on my bouquet with his photo in so I had him with me all day. Not morbid at all. Just a nice sentiment. He also had a mention on the back of the order of service along with my husband's best friend who also passed away x
My husband has lost both his parents so we had a chair in the front row with their pictures on. They were then moved to a memorial table in the main room. It was really lovely to have the pictures there so it felt like they were there with us. Sorry for your loss x
You can get wee charms with his photo for in or on your bouquet. Sorry for your loss. X
I lost my best friend last year and since kids we always said we'd be each other's bridesmaids so I'm having a bracket made with a charm with her picture on so she's with me ❤️
I would have his picture there I know it's not the same but two of our close friends died and we are having their pictures at our wedding xxx
I got married 3 weeks ago and lost my Nanna a year gone April. I had a charm on my bouquet with her picture and I also had a picture of me and her trying my wedding dress on the top table. Then I got my photographer to photo shop her picture into a family photo in a photo booth style frame. Xxx
A framed photo of your dad placed on one seat would be lovely. I've seen this done before and it's lovely and I plan to do it on my wedding day too with my dads photo
Both our mums died so we had wooden slates shaped like Hearts with and message on and a small bunch of flowers like my bouquet put on the first 2 seats on either side of the aisle . I had always said that I wanted to save them a seat at the wedding it's a nice private touch. I also had a bouquet charm with photos from their weddings too c
It wouldn't be morbid at all! It would be a lovely gesture to remember your dad!
My uncle had a picture of my Nan at his wedding as she passed away 2 months before and we had her picture at my Mum's surprise 50th.
What about getting a bouquet charm with his picture on so he can walk down the aisle with you?xx
You can have a cameo put onto your bouquet so that he still walks down the aisle with you. I'm very sorry for your loss x
I had a wishing tree at my wedding and turned it in to a memory tree with little pictures of the people both me and my husband had lot this included my nan and grandad who I've lost and it was a big thing to not have them there on my special day so I did everything I could to make them both included.. I had a little pendant made with a picture of my nan and grandad at their wedding attached to my flowers so when I looked down I could see their faces it was very comforting for me I did also got married on their wedding anniversary and it was so special to be able to do that with the blessing of my family too... so my answer to you no it's not morbid and I don't think any of your guests would think that either sorry for the loss of your dad
I wanted something discreet so I had these charms on my shoes so my dad still walked me down the aisle x sorry for loss it's such a hard thing getting married without your daddy x
Both my grandads have died before we get married but to remember them we plan to display their pictures on a special table with some sparklers in a jar with a poem (not written as of yet) about lighting up the sky with sparkles in remembrance
we had a picture of my father in law, and an empty seat for him on the head table and we left a beer for him. just how it would have been if he was there :) it wasn't morbid at all and everyone noted how lovely it was to have him included :) xx
We also had cufflinks made for my husb with his dad's picture on them
I work in a hotel that hosts quite a few weddings. At the beginning of this year, a wedding party had a candle with a picture of the brides father on at her place on the top table. I thought this was a lovely touch xx
My grandmother passed away in January and other members have passed away that would have been at the wedding so Iv got a candle for both my fiancé and I to light when we light the unity candles it's got their names and pictures on it. So sorry for your loss x
Not at all, people will understand and it's a nice gesture. Some people like to leave a chair for family member like that who have sadly passed.
I'm going to have something symbolising those of my family who will have passed mixed in on the centre pieces or on one of the other tables.
My sister in law passed away a few months before my Wedding and I had a wee picture frame tied to my bouquet,got it from eBay xx
I'm so sorry for your loss. I know it's not the same but I've lost both of my wonderful grandparents and we've been toying with ideas like this. I think it's a lovely way to remember those who can't be with you. Yes it may cause a tear or two but if it's in your heart, then follow it xx
Hi I think it is a testament to your relationship with your Dad that you want to acknowledge him in this way good on you :)
We had pictures of my Gran and Grandad on the mantlepiece in our ceremony room then moved them to top table during wedding breakfast. When it was time to cut the cake we had them on there too. It's a lovely touch x
We did a memory ladder which had photos of all our guests on and I did a row for family who are no longer with us! Everyone loved it. They didn't think it was morbid! It's a lovely way to remember someone.
You could have your dads photo on the top table where he should have been xx
I had mine and my new husbands parents and grandparents photos on their wedding day displayed on a dresser. It was beautiful x
We had photos of both our dads (on their own wedding days).
I have a picture of my uncle who passed in november on a memory charm on my bouquet and i have a memorial tree for our loved ones as well as i want to feel like they are part of our day
Ive ordered silver key ring frames! Im putting pics of loved ones not with me in them and tying them to my bouquet xxx
Have it as part of your bouquet Hun xx
I'm sorry for your loss. My friend had a small picture of her dad attached to her bouquet.
I have lost 3/4 of my grandparents and have pictures of them all on their wedding day as tokens I have attached to my flowers. That way they are always there
no not at all
both me & my fiance leave lost parents & grandparents & we are having pictures of them at the reception x
It's not morbid at all. My dad died unexpectedly 3 months before my wedding so my walk down the aisle was in honour of him I had I loved her first by heartland as my music and had a pic of him on the table we carried his button hole with us and placed it by his photo. It helped not having him there. So sorry for your loss and I hope you have a lovely day x
We had a photo frame with my husband's parents in as we needed to have them as part of the day with us
I don't think it's morbid at all, my mom died last year and I have her jewellery incorporated into mine and my sister's bouquet so she'll 'walk' down the aisle with me. And I was thinking of having one of each of our guests wedding photos as a kind of reminiscing/memory board (talking point) with my mom and dad's wedding photo to be on there. My OH thinks it's slightly morbid but then he has both his parents around and I think he would feel slightly different if it was the other way around. I personally think it would feel unnatural for myself to not have some reminder of her there. Do whatever makes you happy hun xx
I did this with my bouquet for all my grandparents who had sadly passed away. They went all the way round it. I don't think it's morbid, you definitely need something to have your dad with you on your big day. x
I'm having pictures of our grandparents. We had booked our wedding a few years back but then postponed it. Since rebooking it, we have lost 3 of our grandparents, so we would still like them to be there on our special day so I am putting a picture of each of them in nice white frames and putting them on our guest book/post box table. We aren't making a scene about it by talking about it, they will just be there for people to see x
Sorry for your loss. I dont think its morbid. He will be there in spirit anyway and real friends and family will understand its what you would like. Its your day remember
So sorry to hear this, in the military we have a tradition of leaving a spare place setting or table for absent friends, maybe you could do something similar with a nice photo.
My best friend had a charm in her flowers xx
Its a lovely idea. not morbid at all. I would have it on the top table near you. Where he would have been
I had my father in laws picture on the table where we could see him and him us and then a family member brought him to the reception where he was placed in front of me and my husband so that he was part of the day x
There is no right or wrong answer to this - it is just whatever you feel.
My dad passed away and I was struggling with similar issues. I don't know if it will help any but i can tell you what worked for me - I had an empty chair for him in the ceremony, then I made a slide show of photos and had one of his favourite songs playing in the background during what should have been the "father daughter dance". (And told the DJ to make sure he played lots of happy music straight after!!) Everyone said it was very lovely and it didn't seem to dampen the mood, and for me it felt like I was acknowledging the fact he was missing but not making the whole wedding about him (just the part that traditionally would be his part). Knowing I had that time to honour him enabled me to enjoy the rest of the day and gave me a time to feel sad that he wasn't there, because it is a sad thing. For me personally, I felt that whether it's morbid or not, acknowledging that sadness was an important thing.
I made sure I told people who would have been especially affected by it (like my dad's sisters) in advance so they weren't shocked and could choose to step outside if they wanted.
But like I said at the beginning you need to follow your own heart and feelings. It is your wedding, you do whatever you need to do to make the fact he is not physically there with you that tiny bit more bearable and everyone else can think what they like xx
What about a bouquet pendant, shoe accessory or locket? It will be subtle but the photograph will still be with you x
Thats not mormid thats a lovely idea :)
There is nothing morbid about honouring someone so important. Some brides attach small photos to the hand held part of their bouquet
So sorry for your loss. I lost my mum and to have her with me on my special day I've got a pendent to put on my bouquet. See pic x
We have this with a photo of my grandad in a frame to put on a chair in ceremony then on the guest book / gift table afterwards :)
I'm having my parents picture at my wedding by the wedding cake. I'm getting married on their wedding anniversary so I thought me having a picture of the pair of them in their wedding dress/suit would be appropriate. I think it's nice to include your dad on your social day.
My family went to a wedding recently where both the bride and grooms fathers had passed away a long time before they even met each other. They just had a photo of their fathers on the top table with them and it was a lovely way to show their loved ones who couldn't be there x
My aunt had a bracelet made with a picture of my grandad in it - that way he was walking her down the aisle - she knew he was there but it wasn't a big thing for everyone x
We had this at our wedding for our late grandparents. We put them with the guest book etc xx
I had little frames in my bouquet with my granny and 2 grandad's, and my aunt and uncle, all of whom have passed away, but it was a way of involving them in the day, cause I know my granny especially would have been there
Not morbid at all sweety, I've been to weddings with like a small token table, set up like all the other guests tables (with centre piece etc but no crockery or anything) and then photos of those who have passed on it. However you would like to include your dad is up to you, but it's not morbid to want your dad to be a part of your wedding day, even if he can only be in spirit
A lot of people do that set aside a nice wee table with your dads photo and maybe a wee glass with a wee bottle of his favourite drink and write a wee message to him xxx hope all goes well and maybe light a wee candle xxxx
Not at all. It's an inclusive thing and it's something special to you. Nothing morbid about it at all. x
This for my husband as he lost his man before our wedding' you can get them to go Onto your bouquet
I lost my grandad before my wedding so had a locket included in my bouquet with his picture and "always in my heart"
I just conducted a ceremony last month where they lit a candle to signify all their loved ones. It was simple and beautiful. They kept it lit all day
I think it's lovely that you want to include a photo. And if anyone thinks it's morbid, that's their problem not yours. It's your day - you do what you think is right. Have s wonderful day when it comes
I put my husbands mum and dad's photos in a locket and attached it to his buttonhole as sadly they both had passed away before the wedding. You could easily attach something similar to your bouquet
I'm a registrar and I did a wedding recently where the bride had a photo of her dad who had passed on the table and it was lovely everyone touched or blew a kiss to the photo as they left it wasn't morbid at all
I had a pic of my dad in my flowers and at the reception a table with him and our grandparents on
My husbands mum had passed and we wanted something. Found this on ebay and had it on top table :)
Had my nan on my bouquet :)
Have a small picture and put it in a small blue organza bag and get the organza bag stitched to your underlay of your dress. So your dad is their with you in every step of the wedding. That's what I done, and I knew he was with me, it gave me great comfort. It's also your something blue.
How about one of these for your bouquet I think photos of people who can't be with you is a lovely idea though I will be doing it myself next year when I get married x
Hi there, put your dads picture on your bouquet. That's what I'm doing for my granda & grandma.
All the best for the wedding xx
What a lovely idea
I actually got a bouquet pendant made up with my papa's photo on it. So it is like he's hear with me
So sorry for your loss. I lost my dad when I was 13, when I got married last year I had the vicar light a candle at the alter in his memory, and at the reception I had the same candle put by a sign that said: In loving memory of the people looking down from heaven today, My father and are grandparents. Also there is a lovely poem I had in the order of service that said:
My little Girl, Don't cry for me
I'll be right by your side.
I'd never miss out on this day
that you become a bride.
I'm here with you to hold your hand
and give your heart away
To a man God chose to take care of you
forever from this day.
Today, I place your hand in his
with blessings and with pride.
My little Girl, Don't cry for me
I'll be right by your side.
It's just little ways of paying tribute to him. Hope this helps xxx
Go with what is right for you , we had a picture of my hubbys mum & dad with candles on a side table
So sorry for ure loss, we were contemplating this too for my father in law but after speaking with my mother in law, she said she didn't want a pic or an empty chair as it's going to be hard enuf knowing e should be there but won't be, everyone is go8ng to know he's missing without having it displayed so obviously so I got a bouquet charm to put a pic of him in and my fiance is carrying a pic of him in his inside pocket. We have a little sign we'll put beside the cake saying "we know u would be here on our special day if heaven wasn't so far away"
Awh Nicola Totten thats lovely ideas/tributes xxx
We had old family wedding photos framed to form like a family tree - both sets of parents (all present at wedding) and then the four sets of grandparents (only 2 nans still with us). A nod to those not with us, but so lovely to see the old wedding photos.
There is a shop in Felixstowe Suffolk that are doing a new veil which in some way has a tie to a passed away loved one hope you can find this and it helps x
My friend lost her Mum years ago. She had a little photo of her Mum in the bouquets.
Hello, my mum also died last year, I got married a few weeks ago now and this is what I had. Someone even bought a gin and tonic and put it next to her frame. It's most certainly not morbid xxx
My dad has passed I am having a photo on my bouquet so he is there with me down the aisle- can also be your something old (the photo I mean)
We have just ordered this from Sue Morris Design. Have a look on her Facebook page x
I'm going to be having something like this. My dad will be with me walking down the aisle then 😊 xx
nope not morbid at all as i had a picture of my dad at my wedding and reception
We put a little of my grandad ashes in a locket and my mum had it tied to her bouquet so he still walked her down the aisle x
My cousins now wife had a miniature picture of her dad in her bouquet. So he watched her all day. It then turned into a bracelet when she put bouquet down xx
We had my husbands Dads pic on the ceremony table where we signed the registra, the moved him to our card table.
I think it's a love gesture and it's nice to have then part of it it
Me and my partner were talking about this the other day, he lost his mum when he was 15 and my dad died suddenly last year, we could not decide if having their picture on the top table would be morbid and frowned upon
I know of people who have recently got married and had a table set up at the reception with pictures, poems and balloons and a memory book to sign all in dedication to the ones who were not longer around to see the day in person but could be there in spirit.
I'll be having a locket on my bouquet with his picture in so he's still 'walking with me down the aisle' in a sense
I went to a wedding and they put the picture on the bar and a poem it was lovely and everyone had a drink with him x
My dad died 3 days b4 he was due to give me away, so on the day I had his wedding ring on my chain, on me at all times of the day and then a pic of me my husband and my dad taken the year be for on the top table were he should of been sat x
I had a charm made on my bouquet with a picture of my nan and grandad x
My Auntie bought me a charm with my grandad's picture in for my bridal bouquet so he could still walk down the aisle with me. X
Sorry to hear of the loss of your dad . My partners dad passed away 6 years ago this year and my partner has asked all our guest if they would ok with a photo of his dad being at the service and at the reception . And they all like it . Even though they might not be their in person they are their in spirit . Me and my partner are also placing his dad's photo on his place at the head table at the reception as it will make it feel like he's there joining in with the celebration of us being married . I hope this helps just do what makes you feel close to your dad
Aw it's not morbid at all ... it's a lovely idea ...my friend put a photo of her parents next to the wedding cake ...everyone loved it ! Hope you have a wonderful wedding .
I think it's a great idea! Not morbid at all x
My mum had a photo of my Nana on her bouquet it was lovely so my Nana was there the whole night xx
im putting a picture of my granny around my bouquet and on the back of my heels so that they are there but only certain people would know
Thinking of you x i lost my Dad before my marriage so had a memory charm photo on my bouquet with father of the bride charm hanging on that x so he walked the Isle with me xx
Put it in a locket ?
My mother passed away nearly 10 years ago we put a photo of ber next to our cake xx
I wore a tiny charm on my bracelet with a picture of my mum and I in it. Meant she was still with me every step of the way ️ x
I think that's a lovely idea. I had a picture of my late nan in a locket I wore.
I had a photo of both sets of parents on their wedding days with a candle to remember my Dad. I also had a locket with his photo in my bouquet xx
My biological dad died when I was a baby , and my wonderful step dad obviously gave me away I placed a discreet single red rose on the top table in my first dads memory's with a little card always with me xx
I also lost my dad. And i was thinking of the same thing. There are lovely wedding tree where you can add photos loved ones who couldn't make it. Xxx