HELP! I have a slight problem, my maid of honor and bridesmaid isn't getting along.. my bridesmaid has tried to make an effort but felt like she wasn't getting anywhere and wanted to know what she had done.. I did a group chat to try and resolve this but it got worse!! my moh got very funny with me for telling my bridesmaid what she said behind her back but there was others there who over heard and she asked what was said I wasn't going to lie! My bridesmaid apologised to me straight away and came to see me for all of this hassle that is happening.. my Moh hasn't apologised to me for getting funny and cant see that she has done anything wrong but shes the one who has made sly comments (right in front of people).. I don't know what to do, she has upset me bringing me into it and getting snappy with me.. no sorry no nothing..
Get rid true friends don't behave like that. They make nice for the sake of you.
She wouldn't be my maid of honor anymore, behave like that and you don't deserve the "honor"
i would talk to her and just tell her straight if she was a true friend she wouldnt be behaving like this its your wedding and you want happy memories not arguing and if they cant get along just stay away from each other the bits of the wedding they have to be together at the wedding tell them just to smile and keep there mouths shut if they cant do that for you then they not going to be in the wedding
Your MOH needs to grow up. She obviously has an issue with your bridesmaid,and she should be a grown up and tell her what the problem is so it can be fixed. Maybe your bridesmaid upset your MOH somehow,but it's childish to act like this. Get them together and tell your MOH to make up. If she won't,maybe you need to reconsider her position in your wedding
Your moh shouldn't be acting like that, you should tell her to grow up and suck it up or she can come to the wedding as a guest
It's easy to say get rid or tell em how u feel but that will still leave you in the middle id torchestrate a get together where they are both there... not at at ur house... wait for the awkwardness or sly comment then have a diva moment where u blow up and tell everyone there (those two) to sort it out and you don't want to be involved it's your wedding and from now on they can suck it up and get along or don't be involved...then storm out ....hopefully that will prompt apologies and future grievances to be kept to themselves! X
Hi I agree with the others I would tell her she will no longer be my MOH. :)
True friends don't behave like that, they get on for the sake of your special day. Selfish, get rid
She probably felt like she could talk in confidence and you betrayed her (in her mind). She may feel a bit jealous. I don't think this is about your wedding at all, it's just a general fall out. Perhaps just text them both separately saying you love them and you are begging to forget this whole thing and just all try to get along.
thanks guys.. I did feel bad telling my bridesmaid what she said but I wasn't the only one there that day who overheard so she would of found out.. 2days later she has given me an apology for getting snappy with me.
I said I don't mind if they are not friends it just when we are together I would like them to try and get along for the sake of me..
she cant see she has done anything wrong and she doesn't see she has a problem with her. but like I said if you don't have a problem you wouldn't be making sly comments..
my mum is having a party next month, they are both invited so I shall see how they behave on that day.. if they cant see eye to eye and get along for my sake then I'm going to have to make some changes as I cant have that on the day..
Tell them both if they continue the way they are going neither will be involved in your wedding and you will.pick other MOH and bridesmaids
Cry it worked for me when I had problems with my hen do