Am I being unreasonable...? I've told my other half that for our wedding I'd like him to shave off his stupid beard and (just for a few pictures) take out his massive septum piercing. He knows how I feel about his stupid beard, he didn't have it when we met and I've said he can grow it back again after but he keeps harping on about me trying to change him! What do you laydees think?
Tricky, I personally hate beards too, but how would you feel if he was always trying to change your hair for example? I would talk to him again and explain and see what he says?
I really dont see his problem with taking out his septum piercing but his beard is tricky like Jayne has said. I would try to talk to him again.
Septum yes but with the beard - can't you get him to clean it up - talk to him to see what if he would compromise? 😊
When me and my H2B get married he's allowed to keep his beard, his piercings and his tunnels, he's the man I fell in love with and he hasn't changed since we got together. Maybe ask him to trim his beard, make it look tidy or something.. It's a difficult one. How would you feel if he asked you to change something about you for your wedding day?
I think it's out of order.. ur marrying him for him.. beard .. Piercing .. tattoos the lot ..
Piercing .... take it out for official photos bit let him out it back in for reception
Beard... trim and tidy up, you can't make someone shave his beard off what if you have long hair and he makes you cut it to a bob and you hate it or change you're hair colour .. it works both ways
Cut your hair short and don't wear earrings and see how it makes you feel
The peircing I think is fair enough. But when it comes to the beard I do think that you are being unreasonable. If he asked you to cut or dye your hair specially for the sake of some wedding pictures you probably wouldn't be too happy about it either, would you?
I have to agree with everyone else. How would you feel if he said he wanted you to cut or dye your hair for the wedding? If he was saying he hated your stupid hair colour? I'm sure it wouldn't fly. If you wouldn't accept it back then I wouldn't push it on him. You fell in love with him for who he is, get him to have a good trim and get over it. You're getting to marry the man you love, that's all that matters xx
Just ask him to tidy up his beard. You would probably get upset if he dictated what you do with your hair. If he likes it then let him keep it.
I don't think I'd get married to my h2b if he told me to take my septum piercing out. I think you are being incredibly shallow and you should marry him with his beard and piercings or don't marry him at all.
Personally I love beards and I actually talked my fiance into growing one and now he is addicted to it ;) he has been promised to go to mo hair in Glasgow for a beard experience before our wedding which is basically like a beauty treatment for the beard. He has already invested so much time, patience and money in that beard it would really hurt him to get rid off it now. Piercing on the other hand yes I'd tell him to take it off
You clearly don't love the man for who he is! His piercings and his beard are apart of him xx
That's quite a drastic change. I do think you're being a bit unreasonable. Personally if my partner wanted me to change the way I looked I wouldn't be very happy. Let's be honest, would you be?
I can understand the want for "perfect wedding photos" - I'm planning on swapping my nose ring for a discreet stud on the day and my ear piercings will be covered by my hair, but that is my choice.
My hair is currently bright red, and just imagining my other half telling me to go back to blonde just for our wedding day then I can dye it back? Not a chance. If you can put up with his 'stupid' beard and septum every other day, then why not your wedding day? To me that says more about what you feel for him... Embarrassment of how he looks being a larger feeling than love...
See mine is a bit different but I've got quite a few ear piercings and some have little rings in, and I said to my htb should I take them out cos the metal might look a bit tacky, and my husband said 'no because they're you and you won't look right without them' if you don't like the beard fair enough but if it's 'him' then as long as he's clean and tidied up I don't see what's that bad about them xx
HI I agree with most of the people I would ask him to trim his beard. But personally I do not like facial hair it irritates my skin. :)
My other half didn't have a beard when we got together. He does now though and I love it so much I've asked him to keep it for the wedding. He can get it trimmed and tidied up for the big day.
I actually don't think she's being unreasonable. My partner is honest and if I have a haircut he doesn't like he tells me. If he grew a beard and I didn't like it I'd tell him. As she says, he didn't have it when they met and he may well shave it off and not have it for the next 20 years and then the wedding photos wouldn't look like him would they.
You can't force him to do it but there's definitely no harm in trying.
I think you should let him be him on his wedding day, septum, beard and all x
I would say that if you're marrying him for the right reasons does it really matter if he has a beard or piercing? Just imagine how you would feel if he said just for the wedding he would like you to dye your hair purple with green stripes and shave it into a Mohawk (I'm presuming that is not what your hair looks like). You would feel that he wasn't happy with your appearance and especially if he was trying to make you change it for what is suppose to be the most special and important day of your lives together. He clearly doesn't want to do it so I would say to leave it and appreciate the man he is.