Ladies/Mothers of the brides I need your help. My daughter is getting married and it's getting her down that the grooms family are very distant and most of them are refusing to come to the wedding. I really want to make the groom feel loved and welcome - because he is a huge part of our family and I want him to know we are NOW the family he can turn too. What can I do to show all that to him (no speeches because im terrified of them haha) Thank you xx
A gift for him to open on the morning with a card telling him your thoughts/feelings?
A small gift for him. My parents have bought him his waist coat. The rest of his suit is hired but they said that they are buying my dress so will buy his waistcoat and alterations for it too. (He is tiny so needs It taken in)
This might not seem helpful but my oh has a very small family who aren't close at all so they won't be at our wedding,but my Nan has always said when it comes to the church usually you sit either bride or grooms side but she says 'pick a seat not a side' we are all one family now.that probably isn't helpful when it comes to your situation but I thinks it's a lovely idea if one has a small family
I saw this and thought it was great
Hi we have the same thing my fiances brother who is autistic has decided that he doesn't like me so is refusing to come, his Mother has never been happy with it so has decided she might not come to. But my parents love my fiance and is always there for him :)
Couldn't they hire a mini bus/coach so his family can come
Write him a note with a little something for the morning of the wedding and then make sure you family is spread out on both sides on the aisle and not just the brides side x
We were in a similar situation. My stepdad gave my husband a gold heirloom pocketwatch that read 'With Love, Dad. 071016.' In ten years my OH has always said he feels part of our family more than his own, blood isn't always thicker than water. And now we are married we have our own little family
If you don't want to make a speech maybe you could put a video together that contains lots of memories to show him how much you all love him x
Just support them like you are. Actions speak louder than words. Maybe get a card for him to read on the morning of the wedding,telling him what you wrote here and signing it ''love Mum and Dad''. Another popular idea is choose a seat,not a side: (link for example)
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A family heirloom would be nice, or write him a card for the morning of the wedding x
I would write him a letter and get to him the night before the wedding, although the idea of a video is nice you don't want to have it focused just on your family as this will alienate any of his family who do attend,plus word will get back and the last thing he and your daughter would want is any animosity between family's as this would then lead to issues for any further family get together.
A letter is a much more personal thing to do and I'm sure would mean the world to him ..... do you have any item from past generations of your family that could be given to him as a gift ?
What about a little box that show how much you think of him?
When I got engaged to my husband, my mum put together a little photo album of me growing up. She thought it would be nice to give him something that showed me growing up until the point we got together.
Add to it with pictures of him with your daughter and the rest of your family. Pop some other little trinkets in there also. Maybe a small hip flask or plaque, engrave it with something that is an inside joke or even just the wedding date and something sentimental or jokey. You know this guy and what he might like.
Find small things that will make him smile that he can use or display. I am sure whatever you do he will love it and know that he is being brought into a lovely family who will treasure him forever xx
I'm am very fortunate in that our families get on well. When discussing gifts with my parents for the groomsmen, we decided on pocket watches. And with that my step-father walked out of the room and came back a few minutes later with the pocket watch he wore the day he married my mum and presented it to my OH for him to wear on our wedding day. It was an incredible gesture and meant so much to both of us.
So i would agree with the others, an heirloom of special gift would be a wonderful gesture.
What about the not picking sides or seats as we're all family here signs
Hi you can write a card and give to him the night before with notes of how you value him x
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