UKbride Member Request 7 Jun 2017

What should you do when the grooms mum hates you.. I don't want her there...

What should you do when the grooms mum hates you.. I don't want her there but its his mum

UKbride Member 7 Jun 2017

Put up and shut up. Shes your new mil. Be polite and civil.

Naomi Chappel
Naomi Chappel 7 Jun 2017

Its going to be hard to not invite her unless your h2b also doesnt want her there. She should get over her feelings for you as you are making him happy. Talk to your h2b about it and see if he is worried about the day or not. He might be able to talk to her.

Lucy Lewis
Lucy Lewis 7 Jun 2017

Hi I have a similar problem damned whatever you do :)

Emma Raisborough
Emma Raisborough 7 Jun 2017

Not a lot you can do if he wants her there, you don't have much right to say so otherwise. Why does she hate you? I guess depending on the reason maybe its time for both of you to take this opportunity and try and build bridges, you are going to be family after all, at least to be able to be civil with each other. As long as you make the effort to try,no one can blame you.

Laura Whittle
Laura Whittle 7 Jun 2017

I have a similar problem she was fine with me intil we got engaged then it was like a bomb went of in her head.. Me an my h2b have been talking it over for months.. I would like her to go back to being nice don't see it happning. He has said that he don't want her there if she can't fix what ever it is as would spoil both our days xx

Jayne Timmins
Jayne Timmins 8 Jun 2017

Unfortunately she's his Mum, just try and be polite, or if you have the nerve ask her directly what her problem is

Jodi Jackson
Jodi Jackson 10 Jun 2017

Not much you can do. Just get on with it, be polite and enjoy your day.
She might begin to change her attitude and the day approaches as she might want to be more involved.


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