Please HELP! I have a situation with the mother-in-law to be! We have just picked our venue and I asked both of our parents to keep this a secret until we send out our invites. But the future mother-in-law isn’t happy and wants to tell everyone who will listen! Even people who just live on their street or go to her fitness class or bingo who barely even know me and my fiancé, who just want to gossip! I don’t want random people who won’t even be invited to the wedding to know all the details before some of our guest even do, and I don’t want actual guests to find out though gossip, I want them to hear all the information from us! I want to break the news slowly, first telling people we have picked a venue but are keeping it a secret. Then the save the date cards will have the town for the location of the venue, and then the actual invites with the venue name. My fiancé didn't really mind how/when we told people so when I suggested the plan of announcing slowly he said it was happy. But then his mum told him she wasn’t happy about it so he said maybe I should back down and let her tell who ever she wants. I told him I’m not backing down, it’s our wedding to announce not hers! He just doesn’t want to upset his mum so he said he’s staying out of it so I’m left to explain to her why I want it done my way not hers, I told him that I need him to stand up for me but whenever the conversation comes up he doesn’t really say anything, or he just says he don’t mind either way which seems to make his mum more insistent that my plan is silly. I know he wants to do my plan over his mums but he just doesn’t want to cause any problems. He’s said it’s all fine, were doing it my way and his mum won’t tell anyone! But even if she doesn’t she still keeps digging at me about it because she won’t accept why I want to do it like that. Am I being a bridezilla and should let her tell everyone?! Or should I stand my ground on announcing our news in the way I wanted regardless of the problems it may cause?
Stand your ground. It is your wedding not hers. Good luck :)
This made me so cross! I think it's very unfair for her to act this way. I feel that the only time parents are entitled to act that way is if they are paying for the wedding.... if not then back off.
Stand your ground, its about you and your partner not her telling every man and his dog. Her telling everyone she can might cause more issues for you and your other half. If she does get petty remind her things are different now and you only get one day and she should be happy for the both of you. xx
I had a similar problem with his dad step mum over a cake. Im afraid to say i bit my tongue with them but we had a big argument. I told him if he wants me to be his wife he must stand up for me.which he eventually did in a calm way. Your partner should do the same. Its not like you have done something wrong. Its yours and his day nobody elses.
I think his mum is excited we told everyone when we booked the venue I didn't mind as it's exciting maybe you should let your mum in law tell people
Stand your ground - say to her it my sound silly to her but its your wedding and you want to do it your way. If you give in she will most likely do this with everything else about the wedding that isn't to her liking - nip that in the bud! I also agree with Rachel, you should tell your H2B if he wants you to be his wife he needs to stand up for you, it doesn't have to be in an argumentative way, just firmly.
I would say Stand your ground it's your day . It should be whatever you want but this seems a bit odd to me to make a fuss over . Why do you want to keep it secret ?
In my opinion, hubby should be backing you up, because this would go a long way towards getting MIL to back off. You don't want to spend a lifetime with him "staying out of it" when it comes to differences in opinions between u and his mum. However, I also think how you proceed depends on the level of importance to you. It's like they say, you've got to pick your battles. I would imagine if she's fighting with you this much on this, then she will have strong opinions about other aspects of ur wedding. Would you rather comprimise here or elsewhere?? I'm sorry you've got to deal with this. Good luck!
I'm be annoyed. No one is going to know our venue until the save the date cards come out. Not even my mum and dad
stand your ground - she needs to grow up.
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