Hi I'd like to ask the Fellow brides to be a question please. I'm not too sure if I'm being a but over sensitive, but I have 4 bridesmaids. I get married in just over 9 months time, and any time I mention my hen night all they say is "whatever you organise we will just go along with it". I suggested maybe going away for a weekend just somewhere in the uk and they said it's too expensive (which I get, and tbh I probably can't afford it myself with the wedding coming up), I suggested a nice spa day and maybe just a night in town and we could even dress up, and they said they don't want to have to go to any expense on costumes and don't like spa days. I have no idea what to do now, but I suppose I'm feeling a little hurt that none of them have any interest in my hen night. I never pester them with wedding chat, and couldn't be further from a bridezilla if I tried. I'm paying for all the dresses, shoes, flowers hair and makeup as I would never ask them to be part of my day and expect them to pay. Is it too much to ask for a little enthusiasm for my hen?
Are these bridesmaids family members / close friends of yours? They sound like either they have no interest or they are planning a surprise for you and are throwing you off the trail! Usually I think the maid of honour takes the leading role in planning the hen so if you have a MOH perhaps tell her your concerns?
Hi my first thought was that they are planning a surprise but if they are they are not very understanding of your feelings . If they are real friends tell them how you really feel :)
Bridesmaids have a job in helping you and advising you so this doesn't sound right. Create a group chat and ask for some ideas xx
Keep it simple...meal/cocktail and gently remind them that as bridesmaid part of their job is to arrange the hen party....good luck xxx
Why don't you look at booking a 'party apartment' for the night? Between a few of you, it works out cheaply. Get some drinks, and play games all night! That's always a good time. I'd go to your MOH first to say you're thinking of booking something on your own, and she should tell you not to, if a surprise is being booked. They shouldn't keep you completely in the dark
I would be upset it's there job . I had a tiff recently with one of my bridesmaids as she was moaning about the shoes I picked and I know it wasn't just me because my maid of honour agreed with me that she can't really complain she's getting a free dress free shoes free hair and make up and free jewellery plus the bridesmaid gifts out of me so not really up to her
No it isn't too much to ask and I completely understand why you are feeling hurt but try not to let it get you down. The problem is that people are so absorbed with their own lives and issues that they probably don't even know you are feeling like this.
Try putting a group chat together where you all agree a budget and then ask you MOH to take over with the arrangements.
I don't think you are being over sensitive at all. It is actually our moh/bridemaids who should be organising the hen do, not you! I understand doing something that isn't going to cost a lot of money if not everyone can afford it. but it is generally expected that they pay for themselves and you for your hen night. I would personally say to them that you have come up with a few ideas of what you would like to do but no one else wants to, so can they offer alternative suggestions. Like others have said if you have a MOH or a chief bridesmaid put her in charge of organising it.
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