Hello everyone, has anyone taken their fiance with them when they went shopping for their wedding dress? I'm a big lass and my fiance is always complimentary so I always feel better about myself when we shop together. He won't let me buy something awful - he'll kindly say things like "it's not flattering your bum" or "it's showing your arms and I know you don't like that" - and when I'm being overly critical "GOD NOTHING LOOKS NICE ON ME!!!!!" He helps me to step back and realise that I am being too critical and he points out the features that he knows I'm happy with and gets me to focus on them and try clothes that might be out my comfort zone. Whenever I get compliments on what I'm wearing, it's usually because he's helped my buy it. So I told him how sick I was feeling about buying a wedding dress, and the next thing I know, he is binge watching 'Say Yes to the Dress UK'. He starts giving me hint and tips about what sort of thing I should think about when I go dress shopping and educating me about all the dress styles and phrases used. Telling me to be confident and not to feel intimidated by the shop or the assistants, Telling me not to "settle" on a dress just because I'm big and even though I don't want to spend more than £800 on a dress he says "if it costs £3000 and you love it, we will make it work!" And I know him, he will make it work. I'm not worried about superstition and about it being bad luck to see the bride in her dress so I floated the idea of him coming dress shopping with me and he said he would if I wanted him to. I asked would he rather be surprised by the dress on the day and he said he would still be wowed because I always look beautiful to him, plus there will be the accessories and the hair and makeup etc. so he still thinks he will get the full effect - then he asks, as I'm getting to see him in his wedding outfit before the day, won't I be disappointed on our wedding day? And of course the answer is no, I won't be disppointed. So then why should he be disappointed to see me in my dress before the day? So - I'm seriously considering taking him dress shopping with me. I think he will give me better advice even more than my MOH. What does everyone else think?
Hi Sharon if you feel comfortable with it then take him with you. Is there a wed2b store near you if so they have dresses from size 8 through to 30 and the dearest is £599. Good Luck :)
I don't know if there's one close by, but we are prepared to travel, even if we have to make a weekend of it. And of course I'm complicating matters because I would really like a dress that has a floral print on it. But if I've learned anything from "Say Yes to the Dress" it's to keep an open mind. I may end up hating a floral print dress!
Hi, if you want him there then left him come, however I get from your explanation that you're doubting it, so have a good think. I totally believe what people say that when you step into THE dress, you just know, whether or not you like the opinion of others. The truth is, not everyone will like it. The women in bridal shops are also very specialised in telling you what is good for your body shape. Possibly give it a try without him if you're doubting it and if you still have no luck then bring him x
Hi, if you feel comfortable taking your partner then take him hun my partner didn't come with me but he helped me choose my style etc by looking online at dresses with me. He also knows which dress I ordered so what it looks like. And good luck finding your perfect dress
If you feel more comfortable with him going with you then do that. Maybe you could go with him to some initial shops and then go back and choose your favorite without him so it is still a surprise on the big day? The shop assistance are normally very good if you get a good shop and will be able to help you too.
He sounds like an incredible man! Take him with you, it will be a fun and stress free experience. Plus you know that you will feel comfortable and beautiful on the day. My feeling is that as long as you don't see each other on the morning of the wedding then it's fine.
Take him, i took fiance with me ! At first it was a just for a laugh we both thought it was too early to shop, we did llads of internet and magazine searching to find out what we both liked. Then i fell for a dress in a magazine way above original budget which i set at about £800-£900. We went to see it loved the detail but both disliked the shape, it was a line and looked awful on. Im an hourglass size 14. Then the shop lady said she could get a special dress made same design in a fit and flare so its tight to my hip then all puffy out with a huge three tiered train. H2b has not seen this shape and im altering the length at the front to show my shoes, and adding tiny cold shoulder straps. I feel a million dollars in it! Its a compromise though for both of us and h2b just says he is not marrying the dress:)!!! Have fun lovebirdsx:)!
FYI dress was £2100 from ian stuart.
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