For the past couple of months ive been considering getting married without my mother and father coming and just going to the local registery office as my mother is getting funny with me and my father isnt someone to rely on also my fiancé doesnt like them and how they are being. Is it best i have a small wedding with few family and leave it at that?
Hi I would go with what you will be most comfortable with :)
It depends on how much you value your relationship with them outside of the wedding, because if you uninvited them for those reasons, I think they'd be very upset and hurt.
urs & h2b day, do what u want & what makes u happy. good luck.
I'm not having mine there - I only have a mum and a grandad and 3 brothers. Will invite my three brothers but I don't see my mum - although we are okay on the phone but my grandad can be argumentative and hates my mums husband, so I figure it's best to have neither of them there rather than ruin my day with the worry. Mine won't care anyway!!! Do whatever you feel is best for you, it's your day so make sure you enjoy it xx
I wanted to do it this way, just the two of us when we went to New York, I was talked out of it because of the upset it would cause. Since then, all of my immediate family have caused major issues. Three weeks before the wedding and their drama has made the whole experience miserable to the point I can't wait for it to be over. My advice to anyone would be elope, just the two of you and sod everyone else!
Obviously do what ever makes you happy but don't make any rash decisions that you might end up regretting in the long run. If in a few years' time your relationship has miraculously improved, would you regret not having them there for your special day? If you don't think this is a possibility then don't invite them but do think it through :) Good luck!
I think you already know the answer with having to ask the question to begin with,i'd discuss it with them,and if there is a big drama over it just do what you want to do,it's yours and your husbands day so don't sacrifice your own happiness for others.
It's not particularly going to help improve your relationship with them by not inviting them, and may add a sour taste if your relationship improves in the future and they weren't there on your wedding day. Up to you at the end of the day though.
I wish we had done something like this, if they awkward now, a wedding involving them will make em worse, weddings bring out worst in some and they have opinions and demands they expect u to listen to, do it ure way and save ureself the stress x
Go away for your wedding just the two of you. That way you get your wedding with minimal drama and no one is offended at not being there as there will only be the two of you.
Theres alot of running awah from these problem relationships, how about talking things through building bridges weddings can be great for pulling people together as well as apart. I would be heartbroken if i could not attend my girls weddings and would be asking myself where it went wrong.
Its ur day hun! Invite who u want n have a great day! Its ur life n only u can decide how u want it! Ps ive been in the same situation hun n im not inviting my family as i want our wedding to be pulled down by other people making it bad xxx
Me and my fiance are thinking of eloping and then just celebrating with everyone when we get back. Lucilky my family don't mind and have encouraged us to do what makes us happy.
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