Hi, i need the help of some if your followers. My sister in law has just...

Maybe speak to her and see how she feels about the whole situation. She may possibly want to be with her baby for the day. If she is happy to let her partner/husband tend to baby or other family members to all chip in and help then let her stay as your bridesmaid. Tell her your concerns about the fittings etc but if baby is going to be 3-4 months old then you have plenty of time for alterations to be made.

i would just say, you feel its better she wasnt, so she can relax with baby, instead of having to stress, i was bridesmaid for a friend of mine and my son who was 3 at the time really played up when i was having my hair done etc and made it quite hard at times. x

She will have loads of time to adjust her dress after birth of baby if baby will be 3-4 months old. I would tread carefully to be honest. Suggesting she shouldn't be a bridesmaid because she will be a mum might not go down well especially if dad is around to care help for baby. Obviously if she plans on breastfeeding it could be a bit more difficult dress wise/time away from hungry infant etc but still not impossible

So basically you are dumping her because she has had a baby?

I got my dress altered 2 weeks before the day, she'll be fine if she's got 3-4 months.

My sister was the same I wouldn't have dreamed of ditching her! Put baby in matching colour dress and she walked her down the aisle, like my son walked with me down aisle at her wedding

My son was 3 and half months old when my sister got married I was still a bridesmaid, plenty of family and friends around to help out with the baby I'm assuming her partner would be there also. You'd just have to get a last minute dress for her is worst case annoying but if it's got to be then let it be xx

Ask her be a your witness and sign the register instead?

How about you ask her how she feels, maybe she would love the distraction of helping you organise it in the long final weeks and she is looking forward to being able to glam it up after months feeling like a flump
Or maybe she wants an out but doesnt want to let you down
We can all speculate but only an honest conversation between yoi will hold the answers x

Maybe she was flattered you asked her to be one...but If you arnt that close she might welcome a get out free card! Just speak to her and explain you would not be offended at all if she would rather be a guest and concentrate on baby she might breath a sigh of relief. On the other hand if she is really keen to be then carry on with your wedding plans she will responsible for dress fitting and breast feeding etc x

Why have you changed your mind ?

Corset back, and/or multiway dresses are very forgiving on the waistline, perfect for a new mum.

I'm a bridesmaid for my sister who's marrying in July. I'm due in 3 weeks so if I need any alterations they'll have to get done last minute. I admit if I was asked to step down as bridesmaid to look after my baby, I'd be upset and offended. I think she'll have plenty of time to sort her dress out personally, and I reckon after having a baby she'll be excited to get dressed up and look glam for a day x

My sister is my bridesmaid and we got dresses Sunday. She has a 2 month old, I asked her to be a bridesmaid before she got pregnant and taking that away never crossed my mind. There's always somebody to help out and she won't be joined to your hip all day

Interesting reading these, my sister in law to be actually asked me to be bridesmaid when my bro proposed to her, then actually never mentioned it again? Not a word. She's planning the wedding and has other bridesmaids now......I found it so upsetting but didn't want to have that asks convo lol x

I was a bridesmaid for my sister, my son was 16 months old so very mobile as he was walking! My now husband look d after him and my grandparents as well as my parents so I had help if I was needed for photos etc

I was a bridesmaid when my little girl was 5 months old. I tried on the dress once when pregnant then had the alterations after she was born. It only takes a matter of weeks. It was never a problem.

2 of my 4 bridesmaids are due to have babies months before my wedding. I'd never dream if asking them to step down!

Why don't you explain to her how u feel or u could still involve her by giving her a speech instead? Lots of family around & sure someone would be happy to look after baby? Could go for less of a figure hugging design to make sure she feels comfortable. X

Any dress shop will be happy to do dress fittings after she has had her baby, bridesmaid dresses don't need as much time to change etc as the wedding dress, order the size above what she feels she will be comfortable in and take it in or leave it etc hope this helps :)

How about choosing an empire line dress for her which will look pretty and accommodate her different shape or size post baby? She will only be away from baba for a short time so could express milk if needed xxxx

My best friend and maid of honor is currently pregnant due 2 month before my wedding her dress alterations are booked for a month after baby is due and I have chose a loose fitting dress for her... her partner will be there to help with childcare and hasn't for one second entered ours heads that she can't be my maid of honor just because she will have a baby...

My maid of honour was pregnant for most of the dress fittings, she already had 1 child who was 2. After she gave birth she was able to attend all numerous fittings both with and without the baby and the dress got taken in when she was losing her baby weight. Nothing is impossible with a good seamstress and I think you would also need to speak to her before asking her to step down as bridesmaid as she may feel like you are being harsh. People can multi-task and be a bridesmaid and a mum!!

My daughter was 5months old when I was bridesmaid for a friend, I'd have been so upset if she "changed her mind" I think it would have ruined our friendship x

Ouch! She's having a baby, it's not the end of her life. Adjust the dress, easy.

It's quite difficult if your think of how she would feel but I wouldn't approach it by suggesting she might not be suitable for bridesmaid as it could be hurtful and there's no reason why she can't. My sister is my bridesmaid and she's bed bound most days in chronic pain and I've had some people ask me if she will manage to be a bridesmaid, thank god no one has said that to her as that would absolutely crush her and there's no way I would sack her off bridesmaid status just because she won't be able to walk down the aisle or be there for the full wedding. Maybe have another bridesmaid take on the main duties and still have your SIL as bridesmaid she should be fine for fitting 3-4 months after birth. But I get what you mean weddings are such sensitive affairs and there's always the few of offending someone.

I think you're just using it as an excuse to take her out of the bridal party.

It is true some of these requests are ridiculous lol.... try Your Wedding Hub on facebook for genuine worries!

One of my bridesmaid will be 30 weeks pregnant.. im not really botherd.. their life shouldnt stop because of our wedding.. but id be rather upset if i was told i cldnt be bridesmaid after being asked.. because i was pregnant... 3-4 month is loads of time to adjust to a new baby and a dress.. x

If you've changed your mind then ask her not to be but don't use the baby as an excuse otherwise what will you say if she tells you it won't be an issue and that she still wants to do it? My MOH has been trying for her 2nd since last year and would possibly be around 3/4 months by the time I got married. As it happens she hasn't caught on yet but she just ordered the dress in a size too big and said if she wasn't then she'd have it altered. She only took her dress in last week with 6 weeks to go and if your sil's baby will be 3/4 then there's plenty of time to get alterations done.

I was a bridesmaid 5 months after giving birth and it was fine, just roll with it, she'll have plenty of time to adjust the dress xx

I was maid of honour when my baby was 3 weeks old, it was hard but I have a competent husband, just cos there is a baby doesn't mean everything has to come to a halt! The bride was my best friend and wanted me there so accommodated and made it easier for me rather than being a bridezilla and allowed me to pick a dress I would be comfortable in and could breastfeed in if needs be. It was more important to her that I was there for as much as I could be than whether I had the perfect fitting dress that matched the others! But totally depends how close you are and whether this just a convenient way to drop her anyway!

I was a bridesmaid for my big cousin 6 weeks after having my daughter wasn't ideal but we worked around it , ordered the dress slightly bigger and got it sized after baby was born x

I got married when mine was 5momths, plenty of time to have dress fitted and my brothers were on hand. X

My bridesmaid final fittings were 3 weeks before the wedding. She will be fine

I'm in exactly the same position- my sister in laws baby is due in July and wedding in October. But I wouldn't not have her as a bridesmaid for that reason - that's what grandparents are there for

My sister was pregnant and my nephew was 4 months old at the wedding and she had zero problems with her dress. My cousin flew in a few days before the wedding (she had sent me measurements) and was fitted the day before wedding. Any shop worth their salt won't see this as a problem. It isn't a problem in the slightest. So if you don't want her as a bridesmaid - you may need to be honest and up front with her rather than giving the reasons you have here otherwise it may cause resentments you don't want to arise on your big day.

I was bridesmaid 10 DAYS after having my eldest son........ got a perfect dress from monsoon in the sale! Is it more that you want to use it as an excuse to not have her as your bridesmaid?

I'm going to bridesmaid for my sister and my baby will be 5 months old so we're sorting a dress out a couple of months after babys born! Plenty of places sort dresses last minute it's much different than a wedding dress!! Don't stress :)

My baby is 4 months and im back at pre baby weight without trying much at all- i put on 4 stone during mh pregnancy! She will lose the weight & im sure she will be fine to be a bridesmaid, i would ask her how she feels- if someone told me that maybe i should look after my baby instead id be pretty pissed off. Especially as a baby doesn't really change much other than you have to feed & change them whilst you're out 😂

Plenty of time to get a dress sorted out. I assume that baby's dad will be there,so he can look after the baby,or she might even get a sitter for a few hours. You might want to ask her if she thinks she'll be able to complete her duties. You'll feel less guilty if she suggests she steps down,and you won't risk causing a family feud

I was pregnant when I had my bridesmaid dress fitted, so was one of my bridesmaids when I got married. I also managed to wear my bridesmaid dress at the wedding-even somehow managed to breastfeed my 4m old in it-that part was a little tricky but I did it! It can be done, if it's what you want :) xx

If u don't want her then tell her but don't use the baby as an excuse!

Not sure why the fitting will be so long b4 wedding... A lot of shape changes can happen several months b4.. Don't understand why people need numerous fittings.. I went to shop chose a style I liked and took my 3 BMD'S to see them try them on bout 6 weeks b4 wedding measurements done then. Bout 3-4 weeks b4 try on again check if alterations ok... still giving time for changes. Picked up week b4 with a last try on then. The shop said if any last min changes would do if needed. I know not all places offer this but numerous fittings not necessary. So I'm sure the new mum with a 3 month old baby can try the dress and get alterations if needed after baby arrives. Just choose a dress that ur happy with in a size that she normally is then adjust if needed if she hasn't lost all the baby weight... but ask how she is with it she may be happy to just take a back seat as a guest if she has a new baby... I think the time scale is ok though.

I was a bridesmaid when my son was not even a week old, for the dress fitting they pulled it as tight as they could then took a size off of it, also my dress was corset tied at the back so it sooked in really well :) dont let her down just because she's pregnant, speak to her about it see what she says she's got a few month to lose baby weight 😉 good luck and all the best xxx