Has anyone else asked their wedding party to dress themselves, not provided...

No, this is not for me. I am paying for all.

No I'm paying for it all,my sister offered to pay for her dress As has everyone else but I want to pay for it all.

My Adult Bridesmaids have offered to pay for their dresses, but i am buying the children's outfits.

I paid for the kids within the bridel party but everyone else paid for there own this was because we was on a budget and they we all okay with that

Wouldn't be for me. If this is your thinking,then you can give guidelines (such as colours,style,length etc) but you cannot give them a specific suit/dress and tell them to buy it. Everyone's budget is different,and you shouldn't expect them to pay out for an expensive suit/dress

We just contributed £30 to each wedding party member's outfits

Only thing I've asked my bridesmaids to do is their own hair and make up. I've bought their dresses. As we are going abroad for the wedding, I couldn't afford the prices the resort charges for bridesmaids hair and make up! but they were very happy to do their own hair and make up as I'd said whatever they want as long as they're happy and comfy. I'm not a bridezilla and want them to be happy and comfy xx

I personally think it's unfair to ask them to be part of the wedding party and make them pay. It's my wedding why should they pay. I will provide as it's my choice to get married

We asked our groomsmen to hire their own suits because we had his 3 brothers, the 2 dads and best man. They all did no problem! I bought girls dresses but asked them to pay for hair and makeup cos again i had 6 of them. Some of them didn't have their makeup done which was fine

My bridesmaids did not allow me to pay and I think it's the loveliest present they could give me . I got them lovely dressing gowns and the will get the presents as well .

When I first asked my my bridesmaids we told them they would need to buy there dress, but we would all pick it together and it would be something they can ware again! and the grooms men we've told them they need a black suit, white shirt and we have brought the ties! They have all been amazing about it! And all the man have a black suite so haven't needed to buy one! :) xx

My dad is wearing whatever he likes, but I've bought the best man's clothes (he is wearing his own shoes). I bought my BMs' dresses and hair pieces, but they're wearing shoes they already have and we're all mucking in on hair and makeup x

I personally wouldn't ask my wedding party to pay for their own dresses and suits. You've picked them for a reason, therefore I think you should pay if it's down to budget then I wouldn't have picked any bridesmaids at all.

the way i see it if you cant afford to have bridesmaids, ushers etc then don't have them. i have 6 adult bridesmaids and 5 flower girls im paying for everything only thing ive asked is for adult bridesmaid to wear their own shoes so they are comfortable as some want heels some want flats. if they offer to pay towards or any help then its different. xx

All of mine are dressing themselves xx

I've put £50 to the best man suit and bought my grandads. I've bought the bridesmaid dresses but they are paying to have them altered. Anything else they're paying for.

Yes x

My bridesmaids offered to pay so I let them choose what they wore as long as it was in the right colour, I didn't even see the dresses until the day!

Only provided bridesmaid dresses, and ties for best men/father of the bride. They wore their own suits.

We asked our groomsmen to buy their own suits shoes etc. No specification on style other than if it could be navy, that way they could choose something they wanted.

I asked everyone to wear a black suit.. though my usher only had a dark grey one so I let him off... black shirts and I got them ties, pocket hankie, and cuddling set to tie them all together. Bridesmaids I did buy the dresses for but only one was worn and one pair of shoes was worn. One bridesmaid lost too much weight so got a replacement in the same colour and it looked great all together and saved me money.

We did, but it was also a case of they can wear whatever they want. My Maid of honour and hubby's best man both wore things they already owned. If we'd expected them to wear something special, we would have paid.

Our bridesmaids and groomsmen have all paid for themselves. They set their own budget and we just chose within that budget. They wouldn't have allowed us to pay for them, weddings are so expensive and they wouldn't want us compromising on things for ourselves (e.g. Rings/honeymoon/venue) in order to make the budget stretch to cover them considering it's the one day that is all about us. They're already getting a really expensive meal, some overpriced wine and a cracking party out of us! 😜 jokes aside though, if they really want to be a special part of your celebrations then they will be more than happy to pay for themselves, you've picked them as bridesmaids/groomsmen because they're close to you and they love you and you couldn't imagine doing it without them xx

No. If I've asked them to be part of my wedding it's my responsibility!

My fiance had to pay for his chosen for him suit when he was best man not sure about the bridesmaids though. I personally think if you want someone to wear something you should pay

I asked my bridesmaids to pay for their own. They were all more than happy to do this & actually offered before hand. My h2b is ordering the lads shirts but thats because he has designed the shirts himself. But they are getting their own suit bits. My dad has his own suits anyway so is using one of them & luckily had the waist coat in the colour scheme. Our friends & family have been happy to help us cut costs. We wanted a wedding because we want to get married.. not pay the earth to do it!

I am buying my bridesmaids dresses and there paying for everything else eg hair make up shoes xx

If you can't afford to pay for your bridesmaids or anyone else then you shouldn't really be having any of them. No excuses. I wouldn't ask anyone to pay for their own clothes but then I wouldn't be getting married if I couldn't afford it either. And if u do expect them to pay for their own clothes then u haven't got a say in what they pick seeing as how it's their money they spending

Ours are paying and we have paid for children x

I have bought the bridesmaid dresses but told them to accessorise however they want. They are also doing their own hair and make-up. The groomsmen are buying/renting their own suits as we are on a tight budget and can only afford to buy the groom's suit x

We will be buying all of ours. Although one of my bridesmaids will do everyone's make up as she's a beauty therapist so saves me money there

I'm asking the adult bridesmaids to chip in towards their dresses if they can, but aside from sticking to a colour scheme (which is 4 colours) they have free reign over the dress style, length, material, everything, and its something they can wear again so asking for a bit towards isn't a problem x

I disagree with a lot of these. I am paying for flower girl, pageboy and bridesmaid but the groomsmen are all paying for their suits themselves. We just told them that we'd love them to be a part of the day but that's what we had decided. No one contested it and everyone we know have said it's a smart idea. Do what you think is right :)

Yes.

We asked the groomsmen and FoB to wear their own suits and provided matching ties and pocket squares to tie into the colour scheme.

Mine are buying their own dresses and shoes, and they get to pick their own dress as long as its in our chosen colour scheme and I'm paying for them to get their makeup and hair done. After all they get to keep the dresses afterwards x

I told everyone they had to buy their own including bridesmaids etc I picked the dress and they bought it xx

As best man I bought my own 3 peice suit.

I think it fine to ask them, I have read some comments I can't believe how many people are going on about money, a wedding isn't about money or how big your day is its about you and your partner

I was recently a bridesmaid for my brothers wedding, my 2 sons were paige boys and my partner was a groomsman, we paid for our own outfits as i didn't think it would be fair to expect my brother and his wife to pay for 4 outfits!

Personally think it depends on everyones personal budget and some of the replies on here are a bit harsh.

I am, I think it's insane to have to buy dresses and suits for people who will wear them once for a few hours. Everyone coming either has something already or bought something inexpensive. I don't want everyone matching and I certainly don't want to pay for it.

My bridesmaids are all choosing their own dresses, so I am contributing a certain for each of their outfits, and if they wish to spend more it comes out of their pocket

I have been thinking of doing this and if I do ask them to buy their own outfits, I wouldn't expect to have any say in what they choose, colour/style etc. Dress as a wedding guest would normally.

We've bought the best man and the bridesmaids/flower girls but my dad wanted to wear his own suit and so did my usher and my mum paid for her own So it kept our cost down

I think (and just an opinion, there's no right or wrong!) if you pick it, you pay for it. If they pick it, they can pay for it. So I really wanted my bridesmaids to match, so I bought their dresses. I don't care what shoes they wear, so they can sort their own. I don't mind what their hair looks like, so they can pay for/choose not to pay for their own. I wouldn't be comfortable saying "I've decided on this dress, go pay for it" but if I said "the colour scheme is pink, wear anything that matches" then it's up to them what they pay. Also - you know your friends! You know their finances and tastes etc x

My bridesmaids are buying their dresses, I'm paying for their jewellery, hair, nails and make up. Our best man is wearing whatever he wants

We are paying for our BM dresses and they are getting their shoes and hair done, and then with our bridesman, usher and fathers (we are same sex so have to pay for two father of the brides haha) they are doing suits and we are getting matching ties for them all 😊

We got gorgeous dresses from eBay for £26 each, and they are perfect!!! x