Our colour scheme is purple and the purple is mixed shades (this including...

You can't control what guests wear...

It is tradition that the mob fits in with the bridal party

I consider MOTB an important role in a wedding - my mum is most definitely part of the wedding party rather than a "guest"

I'm specifically asking my mum and my fiancé mum to wear the colour to match! They should surely be apart of the main party as well??

No it isn't disrespectful. some people really struggle with what to wear and if she's found something she likes then it shouldn't matter what colour. She is part of the main wedding party and maybe she feels she wants to wear this colour to feel more part of things. I don't see why this would bother you as you'll probably get guests wearing purple as it's a popular colour for weddings. Your the bride but you can't control your guests fashion choices, I get the white thing to an extent but not having same colour as bridesmaids and groomsmen seems a bit far to me. Only time I think it's a bit awkward is if they have same dress or suit as a member of wedding party and they are a guest. If you feel so strongly about it then speak to your mum but I think it's really unreasonable considering she's your mum.

I thought MOTB toned in with the volour scheme!!!

My mum is making sure she doesn't wear the same colour as the bridesmaids but is wearing a colour that will look good next to the bridesmaids in photos. I want her to be an important part of the dy but I also don't want her looking like a bridemaid....but I also wouldn't ask people to wear specfic colours

The mothers of the brides for me and partner are both in Navy to match our maids as they are being our witnesses. It's traditional anyway that the MOB normally blends or matches the colour scheme x

It's inconsiderate because you've asked her not to,but I don't think there's much you can do. You have to decide what is more important - her not wearing that colour or having her there. Traditionally,MOB should wear a toning colour (not the same colour). If she's unsure of colours,she probably thought that wearing a shade of purple was the safe choice

Does it really matter what colour she wears as long as it's not white? I think you are possibly being disrespectful by assuming you can say what people can and can't wear. An surely as an important member of the family you would want her to feel included.

My mum is actually trying to match in. Will make for gorgeous photos!

I think it is disrespectful if you've had a conversation about it and she's gone and done it anyway. I think you need to tactfully bring it up and ask why she's chosen a purple dress. Yes you can't tell people what not to wear to your wedding, but it is your wedding and you obviously want the kilts and bridesmaids to stand out.

If you've specifically asked for no purple, and put it in your invites etc, then yes, I think it is a little disrespectful of her.

My mother in law wore a colour that was different to our wedding colours and we wondered why she wasn't wearing our wedding colours. I think as parents are considered part of the main wedding party, it shouldn't matter if she has the same colours. It will only compliment you all on the wedding pictures. Maybe, she presumed that you requesting people not to wear those colours were not related to herself.

Mother of the bride would quite often buy something to match?? So no I don't at all I think it's rather nice

What is the problem, like people have said it will match in better with photographs, why are you brides to be so obsessed with what others wear, I wouldn't care if my mum or mother in law to be wore ivory it really doesn't matter

I'd personally think this is perfect as she matches and will look great in the photos. To be honest I wouldn't dictate what anyone should or shouldn't wear, I've got enough on my plate to be worrying about that!

Is this your mum? Wow. Be grateful she can attend. My mum is matching in with the wedding party. Why wouldn't she? Whether she wears the same colours, tonal, complimentary or contrasting she is there. My only requirement of bridesmaids, my mum and my fiancé's is that they are happy, comfortable and confident in their outfits, because if they are not then it will show in the photos. I think, you may need to suck it up. X

I personally said to my mum and mother in law... they can wear any colour as long as they are comfortable and happy what they wearing... I am just glad to have them both there...

It's your day and your choice.

My opinion is I think it's lovely to get your mums to match the wedding party colour. Our colours were burgundy - my mother in law wore pink and my mum wore light silver/grey. They both looked absolutely beautiful but I would have loved them to match our colours. I was happy as long as they were happy and comfortable with their outfits :-)

My mum wore grey to match the colour scheme, my mother in law wore green and didn't match anything, they both looked fabulous! And having just got married less than two weeks ago, I can honestly tell you on the day you won't give a sh*t

My colour scheme was red and black.
My mum wore red and black. I didn't care and tbh it looked fitting and right. And at least it wasn't ivory like me x

I don't get what's wrong with her wearing purple, I wanted my mum to match in with the wedding party, she wore pale grey to match with the groomsmen and my dads silver waistcoats.

We are having dark purple bridesmaid dresses and my mum is wearing a lavender dress. Im delighted she is wearing a colour she likes

I think if you've purposely took the time to explain that you didn't want her to wear these shades of colours as you wanted them specifically for your Bridesmaids dresses and she's gone and done it anyway then what else can it be but disrespectful? Just because other people are happy to have both Mums matching the bridal party isn't anything to do with it. It's your wedding and for your personal reasons it's not what you want! It's different if guests turn up in those colours/shades, the chances are high they didn't know and it wasn't a deliberate choice.

I'd say the mother of the bride is always part of the bridal party therefore I'd be thrilled she's wearing your chosen colours. My mum did.

My colours are navy gold and ivory and i really am not bothered who matches the wedding party, let them come look beautiful and enjoy your day with you. Lifes too short to be bridezilla over colours

I don't understand why you wouldn't want the mother's outfits to tie in with the colour scheme? I'd rather that than having her outfit totally clashing with the colour scheme.

Wow your moaning about what your mother wears to the wedding get a grip!! Some women don't have the luxury of their mothers/fathers attending their wedding!! If my mum said she was coming in a bin bag as long as she was there and enjoying herself would be all that mattered to me!!!

Mother of the bride is supposed to compliment the colour of bridesmaids etc x

Mother of the bride sometimes matches.im not at my daughters.only because cudnt find wot I wanted in that colour

Honestly.. The posts on this page make me want to have the smallest and most intimate wedding possible.

My Mom wore purple too (happens to be both our favourite colours) but as it was completely different to the bridesmaids and the boys ties it worked well. Didn't look copied but not quite right or out of place :)

Absolutely stunned! She's not disrespectful at all, she's wanting to be part of your day. Who cares what colour they wear as long as they're there! Just have a fab day and enjoy every minute because you'll never get that day again and it'll be amazing. We never stipulated any colours (wouldn't have dreamt to) but looking back, everyone matched. It was a fabulous day xx

Have you also told all the other guests not to wear purple.. cause if not I'm sure some will as I think it's quite a popular choice for a wedding... If you can't choose what colour all ur guests wear I'm sure you can't stop her wearing her outfit. Just be glad it blends in nicely with your chosen scheme not clash.

No not disrespectful at all.. i thought mothers of bride/groom wore clothing to fit in the wedding party anyway... x

I think you are being disrespectful, maybe you should have included her more

Parents and wedding party members should be able to match the colourscheme ... ours was shades of purple and silver .. i would have loved our mums to wear purple ... x

Traditionally mum's of the bride and groom wore the wedding party colours, so she is only doing what most older people know anyway, I think it's lovely that she ties in with the wedding party

Mother of the bride is supposed to blend with the wedding party ..if she wants to ..id just be happy she was there and supported me ..I bet she feels really left out ...x

My mum could have turned up in a bin bag and I wouldn't have gave a dam.. the things you think will bother you on the day actually don't... just kick back and relax xx

I'm doing the complete opposite and having my mum match my bridal party. It will make her an even bigger part of the day x

Only get 1 mum and at end of day what is more important everyone happy and there on your wedding day or hurting your mum and having crap photos anyway cos she will be miserable I would never dream of telling my mum what to wear or do be happy you have you cos they going to come a day when you won't and you think about this and the hurt it caused and feel only guilt

I wanted my mum to match in with my bridesmaid and colour them I would of thought that was the norm

I got married last week and many of our guest matched in with our colour scheme, including both our mum's, groomsmens partners and my sister in law! I loved that they all made such an effort to coordinate with us!!

I was just happy to marry the man who makes me laugh and have one of my grandparents there - don't get consumed in little details, a good day is important, but so is being good to what will be/is your family. It's just an outfit, who cares, nobody will be looking at her, they'll be busy staring at the pretty bride!