Before I started wedding planning, I asked me sister to be my MOH- only...

I have been on the other end of this-my sister asked a friend to be her MOH ahead of me and it really upset me, friends come and go but your sister has been there from the start to the end, have 2 or stick with the original plan. You could even say this in confidence to your friend. Thats just my opinion though x

Maid of honour and matron of honour. Dont know the difference but saves causing arguments lol xx

I've asked my best friend but she also going to be my sister in law but with no parents around I've asked my sister to give me away x

Why don't you say you are having 2 maids of honour it's your day And in my eyes wedding convention went out the window years ago xx

Have ur sister as MOH and promote ur friend to chief brides maid then she will know how much u appreciate what she is doing for u without stepping on ur sisters toes xxx

I'd go for your friend your sister sounds bloody useless

Just call her moh by name and tell your friend she is your chief bridesmaid x

I hear of this happening a lot. Just ignore the "name" of what kind of bridesmaid they are. Unless you want to cause friction and upset your sister. Could you re name your other bridesmaid as chief bridesmaid? Xx

My friend had her sister as her moh and her closest friend as her 'best woman'. Her best woman did a speech just like a best man would. What about doing something similar? X

My friends having a maid of honour and a matron of honour. Could work if one of them is married x

Don't have a moh, just give your bridesmaids a different role that the moh would have, e.g. The one who stepped up have as you witness your sister can sit at the top table as she is your sister, obviously depends how many you have for different roles like first dance, readings etc. This way no one has the moh title they are all equal and each have an important part in your day keeps everything fair and less likely to cause upset x

How about explaining this to your friend and say you dont feel ok with taking the title away from your sister so you want her to be chief bridesmaids and your sister and friend can work together on all the MOH amd bridesmaids duties.
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Tell her how it is

To be honest you've shot yourself in the foot by asking for the wrong reasons. Probably best to just leave it as it is and if you're doing a speech thank your bridesmaid in particular for how she has helped you. It's just a title, people don't walk round with their role stuck to their forehead lol. To be fair with these roles maid of honour etc I don't think there should be any expectations and any help is simply a bonus.

Call her chief bridesmaid

I had a MOH and a chief bridesmaid x

Leave her as moh and tell your show your friend this post. She will understand the problems it will cause if you change anything and in the scheme of things as long as your friend feels appreciated it won't matter x

Why is there a need to distinguish between bridesmaid and MOH? Just don't mention it again to either bridesmaid/sister.

I'd just have two maids of honour. There's no point upsetting your sister and causing issues within the family because you asked her for the wrong reasons instead of your friend to start with. I'd take offence to anyone aslong me, then unasking me to be a part of their wedding. Maybe your sister just didn't really know what she was supposed to do in the role.

Nothing. It's not worth falling out with family over. Just privately thank your friend or acknowledge her on the day. It's just a name.
Also the title is nothing to do with the position of favour in the group it was originally to go with the married position of the attendees. The matrons where married the maids not.

I was my sisters and she was mine however as I have a little boy, I did all the ceremony stuff but then my sisters other bridesmaid sat on the top table with her so we kinda shared it out, hope you have a lovely day xxxx

Have a MOH and make your friend chief bridesmaid???

End of the day it's your wedding, if you're not comfortable or happy then you should make it so you are. Ignore those who say it's your sister so you should have her, it's your day and if you want someone else then go for it.

It's a day for you and your other half to be happy and celebrate, it isn't about making others happy!!

Have a MOH and a Chief Bridesmaid...simple!

Is your sister married? Or your friend? As you can have a maid of honour and a matron of honour? that's what my sister did :)

I done the same kept my sister as moh and made my friend chief bridesmaid. Xxx

You already asked her... so although in hindsight you now don't want her be the bigger person and keep her as part of it but have 2 MOH. Your sister will always be your sister no mater how close you are or aren't... good luck.

Have her as a chief bridesmaid

Get the one who stepped up to be your witness xx

Make your sister Chief bridesmaid.

I was in a similar situation... I had asked a close friend at the time to be a bridesmaid but then we driffted apart and I didn't even feel like she was a friend anymore, all we talked about was the wedding and I felt like after the weddings done.. Would our friendship?... So I made the very difficult decision to not have her as a bridesmaid, but she had already started paying for the dress.... Lots of people were telling me to just suck it up, as it would be harsh on her.... But at the end of the day, it's my wedding day, and if I didn't want her in my wedding party then why should I? She would of been on almost every photo, photos that would be up in my home forever, and that was the hardest part for me to get my head arround as my walls are covered in them!!
Do what makes u happy! No matter how hard... And if she can't understand that, then you know ubhave made the right decion... I know I did! :)

You could ask her to be chief bridesmaids that way your sister can still be moh and they are both happy x

If u don't think ur sister is stepping up to the role ask for her " advice" as in politely say that ur bridesmaid has been doing a lot of the maid of honour jobs and does she think that u should promote her? Then she will perhaps feel involved in the decision making process! Otherwise allocate your sister more jobs! If you want to honour your friend you could make sure she gets a special mention in the speeches for all the help that she has give you in the run up! You could also speak to your friend about it- explain the situation and make sure she knows how grateful you are whether she has moh title or not?xx

Tbh iv had that problme just be honest n if she true sister or a friend she would understand x

It's not worth rocking the boat just for one day ;-)