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UKbride Member Request 12 Apr 2017

Hi, I don't have any close friends (male or female) and I don't really get...

Hi, I don't have any close friends (male or female) and I don't really get on with my sister. So I'm just wondering how I go on about finding a maid of honour and a bridesmaid? My 11 year old daughter will be a bridesmaid, but I'd like someone a little more mature than her to help. Hubby in training's nieces are a viable option, but I don't know them that well. Help!

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Ceilidh Baird
Ceilidh Baird 12 Apr 2017

I'm in a similar boat... I have no 'friends' and as far as family go, I've asked my little sister to be bridesmaid and that's all. I'm worried as my h2b wants 2 best men plus ushers and I'm gonna look a bit rubbish having just one person versus his 4/6 people.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Apr 2017

Grandmother?
I watched a beautiful wedding video once where the bride had her grandmother as maid of honour. It was incredibly sweet and touching. Xx

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Apr 2017

How about asking cousins or your mum and mother in law?

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UKbride Administrator 12 Apr 2017

Id just have one then, I don't want a big bridal party so I'm looking at 2 (one of which is my daughter who will be nearly 7) xx

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UKbride Administrator 12 Apr 2017

You don't NEED a Maid of honour in a lot of cases it's just 2 witnesses to sign register. I've heard of people just 'picking people from outside' in some cases also. Which alot of people do in Vegas etc.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Apr 2017

You don't have to have a maid of honour or bridesmaid

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UKbride Administrator 12 Apr 2017

You can hire professional bridesmaids these days lol xx

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UKbride Administrator 12 Apr 2017

If you genuinely don't have anyone to ask I would go out your way to force yourself closer to someone for them to fill that role. Chief bridesmaids is a massive honour and responsibility so I'd just have your daughter and cherish the time planning your wedding with her. I think you'll find you don't need loads of help deciding what you want anyway haha xx

Bethan Roberts
Bethan Roberts 12 Apr 2017

You don't need a maid of honour.. I'm sure people closest will 'help' whether they have a title or not

Georgia Fuller
Georgia Fuller 12 Apr 2017

I'll do it 👍🏻

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Apr 2017

Your mum? Nanna? Aunts? H2B's sister? Could be a man to don't think it HAS to be a woman xx

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UKbride Administrator 12 Apr 2017

Don't have one - simples xx

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UKbride Administrator 12 Apr 2017

Ive got no bridesmaids or maid of honour...alot of people know i have no one but no offers...no one seems to care really

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Apr 2017

Don't worry about it. Just have your daughter as your bridesmaid. You don't have to have or need to have other people.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 12 Apr 2017

I'm just having my two daughters as bridesmaids (9 & 7) no one else and that's out of choice. I don't think it really matters, your day will be just as special than if you had 10!! x

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UKbride Administrator 12 Apr 2017

You dont HAVE to have bridesmaids, maid of honour or any groomsmen. If you don't have anyone you actomatically think of then I personally wouldn't bother. It will just be 1 added stress you don't need. I'm only having my 2 daughters and niece as flower girls. They will be 5 and nearly 2 x

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UKbride Administrator 12 Apr 2017

We are getting married abroad with 3 guests, no bridesmaids, maid of honor or best man x

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UKbride Administrator 12 Apr 2017

I was only having one my 11 year old daughter . Wanted her to feel as special as me . But started feeling a bit sad not having a maid of honour to share my special day with as well . And to help with hen do etc . So have a maid of honour as well now xx

Catriona White
Catriona White 12 Apr 2017

You could ask your mom about doing MOH duties if you are close with her. The. She gets to stand up with you too.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Apr 2017

My mum and I aren't close, never have been and my mother in law although lovely hates being the centre of attention in any way. Nice idea though.

UKbride Administrator
UKbride Administrator 13 Apr 2017

Do you need any?

Emma Raisborough
Emma Raisborough 13 Apr 2017

I am getting my h2b's neice to be a bridesmaid, although I have known her since she was born so perhaps not a similar situation to yours, but it is a nice way of getting the grooms family involved and feel included. Perhaps any cousins if you have any?

Alex Woods
Alex Woods 13 Apr 2017

My sister in law didn't have anybody. Her father just walked her in and my brother was best man for my eldest brother :) do it your way!

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UKbride Administrator 13 Apr 2017

I have my best friend and two cousins as I'm closest to them and my Other half has around 6 I'm not bothered and don't think it'll look weird , have whoever you want it's your day!

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UKbride Administrator 14 Apr 2017

We didn't have a best man 3 weeks before the wedding and no others ushers where planned I had three bridesmaids which went to 2 3 weeks before the wedding and one of them was a nightmare on the day and no longer speak wish I'd just had the one who was fab save a lot of upset and trouble. Do what u want. My hairdresser and make up artist took charge in their department and my mum got me in my dress xxx

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UKbride Administrator 18 Apr 2017

Honestly you won't need it. As someone else said just enjoy the planning with your daughter. When it comes to getting ready on the day perhaps you could ask your hair/makeup artist or dress makers to help you into your dress as that will be the most difficult part for your daughter to help you with x

Claire Taylor
Claire Taylor 20 Apr 2017

I asked my niece and she said yes, so I'm very pleased!

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