My dilemma- I am going to ask my best friend to be my maid of honour and have my daughter as a flower girl. However I have a really good friend (our daughters are best friends) who I spend alot of time with and get on with really well, who I think will be upset if I don't ask her to be a bridesmaid. On top of this her daughter has asked me to be her godmother, which I think is lovely that she is choosing, however I have asked my best friend and her husband to be my baby's godparents (they are also named in our wills to have our children if something was to happen to us) and my partner has asked his best friend. I haven't told her yet but she is aware that I am planning both the christening and wedding and has shown lots of interest in both. I feel like I am going to hurt her by not including her more and not sure how to approach it. My wedding is going to be a small ceremony (24 guests) during the day and her and her daughter are the only friends invited on my side. My partner has his best man and one other friend. The rest is family. All advice welcome please
Ask her to do a reading or organising the hen do bridal shower. Give a coirsage (sorry not 100% on spelling)
I would explain it exactly as you have here. It sounds reasonable to me. You could ask her to do a reading at the wedding? Or be a witness? If you wish her to be involved. In regards to god parents, there are no set amount but if you wish to stick to tradition of having 3 then I'm sure she will understand xxx
Could you ask her to be a witness or something similar? X
Maybe ask her to do your reading or sign the register?
Or perhaps have her daughter as a flower girl along with your daughter?
Personally I think you need to have a think about which one will help you out most on the day because when it comes to it and your flowers are a little late which one of them will go off and deal with it without stressing you out. Your maid of honour needs to be someone that will support you and help you out on the day not who's the better friend. And if that doesn't help you you can always have one as maid of honour and one as head bridesmaid. X
If I was you hun o would keep it simple don't try and please other people. I'm getting married at the end of May and if I could I would just elope. Is run away just me and my man as planning a wedding is stressful. It's not the actual wedding planning it's other people!!! X
Maybe ask her to be your witness? That's a nice way to get her involved. Or she could do a reading
You can have as many bmaids and God parents as you want xxxx no right or wrong have it your way hun xxxx
You know you can have more than 3 god parents if you want to?
& personally I think she should be grateful to get an invite to wedding as not everyone can afford to have friends xx
If she's a good friend she won't expect an invite or to be involved so will be pleased to be invited. It's your day and the expense and stress of planning a wedding is hard enough without considering other people's feelings. Do what feels right for you and your groom. The Wedding is about you. I was worried about telling one friend she wouldn't be there in the day at all and she understood. Good luck xx
I haven't got a maid of honour I just have bridesmaids xx
I was in a similar situation about picking a Maid of Honour with 2 friends, luckily for me one of them has been married before and is to be my Matron of Honour. With my other friend been my Maid of Honour. Could you do something similar maybe? Good luck.
Maybe ask her to be a witness. That way she is involved plus you keep the certificate, with her signature on, for life! X
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