Hello lovely ladies/gents. I was wondering if I could ask for some opinions...

Could it be that she is quite shy and does not know you very well? maybe have a quiet word with mother in law to be or h2b see if there is a genuine reason?

Makes you a better person. You're being mature enough to include her even if she treats you like dirt. Ball is in her court now so it's up to her to attend or not.

What are you proposing you do? Uninvite her?

Maybe she is just very quiet or shy - I think it is a very good way of opening up & including her. Hope you have a great hen do

Maybe she is anxious around people.

You've invited her so just leave it at that and see what she does. If she doesn't come at least you asked xx

Perhaps she feels a bit intimidated and is a little shy, after all you are becoming part of the family she has just met. It's often easier to talk to the parents than someone closer to your own age. I think it's lovely to include her, you never know you may become good friends once you get to know her

I was like this with my sister in law at first.. it wasn't because i didnt like her or meant to be rude i just dont communicate well and needed time to get to know her! A hen do is a great ice breaker i wouldn't uninvite her... if anything that could make it worse?

If she is that worried I'm sure she will think of some excuse not to come
If she does maybe the evening will lighten her up abit. You did the kind thing of inviting her I'm sure you will be too busy worrying about her on the evening

Bit late now to be thinking this...why did you invite her in the first place of she doesnt talk to you? think you'll just have to get on with it and still have her there. May be she thinks you dont like her or something?

You should definitely invite her .. she may be a little shy. I think when the wine is flowing she may end up being a really good friend

My bet. She's either intimidated or doesn't know how to communicate with you. Being friends with the sister can be a bit daunting can't it really. My suggestion. Get drunk together haha x

Getting drunk is the best way to get to know someone I think. Just keep her invited and you'll get to know each other having lots of fun

As it's your H2B' brothers girlfriend who hasn't been going out that long she prob doesn't know you very well and feels a bit shy... ask her directly if you can, that she is ok with coming to the Hen or will she feel uncomfortable.. that may break the ice. Remember you know every one and she is fairly new on the scene...

Thanks for your help everyone.
I hope it will all go okay, I was never going to univite her, I'm just more concerned on her part if it was the right thing considering how she's behaving. She didn't acknowledge me again today so if she really isn't up to coming then that's up to her. I'm using at as an opportunity for her to get to know others who will be at the wedding as mother in law and silblings are very involved in the wedding, brother in law is the best man so will be occupied most of the day. Xx