Please help, my daughter has got engaged recently and has started looking at planning her wedding, During a conversation last week she said she had been thinking about her table plan, The problem that i have is i separated from her father a few years ago and i am now recently married again, she has expressed she would like a traditional top table, ie bride, groom, parents, best man etc, i kindly said that i would prefer to sit with my new husband, and would be quite happy sitting at the side and could look after their young son. I was then told that its her wedding and i will sit where she wants and my husband will be ok sat on another table, my soon to be son in laws parents are also not together any more and i think that thinks will just be a little awkward for everyone, I want to be able to enjoy watching my daughter get married and not have an atmosphere, We are now not talking at present which made mothers day quite upsetting for me, I have mentioned that maybe she could of come and spoke to us first and ask us our opinion and maybe taken our feelings into consideration. When i mentioned this to my husband he was also upset , Am i now in the wrong for wanting to sit with my husband and ruin her top table plans?
No step parents can be accommodated on a top table, at my first wedding my exs parents were divorcdd and both brought new partners we all sat on the top table no problem, so we had bridesmaids hid dad and step mum my dad me groom my mum then grooms mum and new step dad the other end of the table with the best man. It worked really well no horrid atmosphere and after all, it was only for the meal everyone got up and moved around at night time. Try and put this to her and i hope you can find a solution.
To be honest if she wants the traditional top table I think everyone should just get on with it. It's only for dinner which is 2hrs max, and it's her day not yours. Sorry but I think you are wrong to be telling her where you want to sit, it's her wedding not yours. If you follow the correct table plan you will be sat next to the grooms father not your ex.
Could you maybe suggest each parent and their new partners host a table each and then maybe have bride, groom, best man and bridesmaids on the top table?
My mum said that traditionally you should sit by her new father in law and your ex husband by the mother in law, maybe suggest this so you don't have to sit by your ex husband x
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