Looking for some advice. We are getting married in July this year, and we...

Seems a bit harsh to invite people then ask them to wait somewhere else. You really need to wait and see what happens with the replies, it may be ok. We had some 1's who declined anyway. If not, you may have to suck it up and pay extra for the guests you have invited.

So would the people who are invited but then not allowed in be included in the wedding breakfast? would they then have somewhere to get food from? I'd make sure you speak to the people it might affect as they may change their mind about coming so then you may get your 9 places back that way.

I wouldn't be happy being invited to a wedding and having to sit outside while my partner went in. You shouldn't have over invited you should have had a reserve list so if people declined you could have bumped people up from the evening.

Venues are very strict on numbers due to insurance purposes. I gather that as you are considering asking people to wait outside the ceremony room, this is your problem. Speak to the venue once you have exact numbers as they may have suggestions to overcome this.

Not sure why people would recommend over inviting :/ I think it would be a bit rude to have them wait elsewhere after all you did invite them so you'll just have to accommodate them x

Never heard of over inviting people, sounds odd to me.

Why would anybody ever suggest over-inviting!!! Crazy idea! If you are just able to pay for the extras if all reply yes, this is the way to go, if the reason you can't have the extras is that there is a number limit in the room, i think you need to be honest with people.

I've never heard to over invite people. As others have said, I wouldn't be happy if me or my other half were told to sit outside. If you invite so many people that's how many you have to accommodate for.

Never heard of over inviting....you can have a reserve list in case people pull out but if you've invited them, you need to accommodate them. I agree with you that it's not a good idea to ask plus ones to wait outside the ceremony room, bit awkward, they shouldn't have been invited to the ceremony if that was the case. Personally now I'd be looking at how I can try and include those people. Is it just the ceremony they'd miss? If so you could have a word with the people they're coming with and say I'm really sorry I didn't realise we were going to have a problem with numbers. But if somebody invited me and my husband to a wedding, we made arrangements to attend, bought outfits, possibly gifts, and then somebody said he couldn't come in and asked if he'd wait outside...I'd be fuming, not gonna lie! x

Over inviting only applies to evening guests as they don't always turn up when they say they will.

So you shouldn't over invite for the day. I think your gonna have to chase r.s.v.p's and hope more cancel

I over invited 6 people ..at 20 per head .. i took this chance as a few of our guests are coming out of town ..as it is I am bang on my original plan of 80 people ... I went up 6 people just in case everyone could make it and ensured I could afford to pay for the extra 6!!! No way on this planet would I expect someone to come with thier partner and have to ask them to stand aside with a drink ..how rude your quite right ..we have people we dont know on our meal list all day ..u cant expect your bridesmaid to noy bring her boyfriend ..sorry you have to go with the flow and pay the extra x

There's not much you can do, your fries should have her boyfriend there...

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I honestly think you'll have to suffer the cost, you can't invite people then say wait outside we just want your other half. No idea who advised you to "over invite " but if you do you should be prepared to deal with the consequences if they can all make it. As for your friend why differentiate between friends with husbands and friends with boyfriends weather you know the boyfriend or not? They may become husband and wife someday, not sure you'll make the guest list

I am over by about 12 in the day... if they all come then great and I will just have to pay the extra. No way I would turn around and say oh actually ... we over invited so we can't afford you now..

Who told you to over invite. I would only ever do that for the evening as there are often last minute drop outs?? You may need to speak to the venue to consider how to fit the few extra people in. Would be shocking to send them an invite and then say 'actually sorry we have too many people so can you wait in another room'

To be honest if you tell people they are invited then tell them theyll have to wait outside im pretty certain your numbers issue will resolve itself. Unreal. Becky Dean

If you don't know the plus ones / other halves then I wouldn't invite them. If they were that serious and you were that close you would have met them before the wedding. We are only inviting 2 people to our wedding that we don't know but they are partners of family members who live far away so this will be the first chance we get to meet them. Also I didn't over invite as this was risky. We stook to a maximum of 70 and replaced numbers if people said no. X