Me and my fiance got engaged last july.. with the excitment there was lots...

I feared we would be like that so I made sure to start making plans. We set the date the same day we got engaged. Having said that we've been engaged 5 months and I don't have my engagement ring yet! I think once you start doing things, like looking at venue it will pick back up

I was engaged for a year before we looked at a venue, we then booked the second venue we saw which was back in July, we get married next June. I was adamant I wasn't in a rush to get married as I love my holidays and can't afford both lol. I then attended 3 weddings last year which gave me a kick up the bum and I couldn't wait to start planning. We just decided what we could afford to save each month and then worked out our dates based on that. Needless to say our budget has increased so I've increased my hours at work but its all going well.

I'm in similar situation. We go to wedding events every so often but nothing has properly been discussed or arranged, and we got engaged last April. Just remember, it's not a race. I've known people be engaged for a few weeks before setting a date because the brides dad is loaded, and people be engaged for years because a child has come along or they've not had the funds.
I personally feel like nothing has changed since getting engaged because of this, but I also worry that if I dwell on it, it will ruin the fun when we actually DO start to plan.
Maybe get a scrapbook or Pinterest board to start brainstorming ideas?

I was engaged a year and half before we booked and we booked for 2 years away. We aren't in a rush to get married and we want it to be exactly how we want it xx

Men are just so laid back we get married next year in may and my fella doesn't realise how quickly people get booked up stressing!

Why don't you bring it up your self? If you want to get things moving then bring the wedding up. Tell your fiancé you want to get things moving... we looked at things almost straight away we were engaged just under 2 years (23 months) before we got married. If you are not sure where to start look at your venu 1st, maby if you look at a few venues it may make your fiancé more excited. Xx

Me and my partner been engaged 2 year february gone and just set a dat in january for july 2018 hes helped with some stuff but mainly its been me and my family and friends making decisions which im not bothered about xx

We have been engaged for nearly 9 years (been together 12) we are both laid back and that's us just starting to talk about seriously getting married lol we have 3 kids so they tend to drain us financially but the ideas I had 9 years ago about having a big wedding just aren't important to us anymore so we are talking about eloping just us and our kids then have a party when we are home.

We got engaged October 2000 after being together 7 years. Finally happy to say the wedding is this September. We were never in a hurray and life just passed. Plan your wedding when YOU ARE BOTH ready not when it is politically correct.

We got engaged nearly 8 years ago, after 7 years together. Still not booked or even really looked into doing anything yet. Two beautiful girls have come along in the mean time. Maybe one day, but it's just a piece of paper, and a lot of expense and stress!

Yep got engaged 12 years ago lol but getting married in October x

I got engaged Christmas 2014 nothing booked yet. I'm hoping to book something by the end of the year but we'll see

We were engaged for almost 5 years before we properly discussed a wedding. The only thing we talked about in the beginning was whether or not we could marry in a church x

I was engaged for 7 years we get married this year I don't see the rush ! What will be will be just get used to being engaged first then let the wedding follow when u both feel the times absolutly right ! Don't worry about it x

We set a date within a month, but that was because neither of us really wanted a long engagement. To me, the whole point of being engaged is that you will be getting married soon-ish (we still booked almost two years in advance). That being said, we are also very lucky in that we already have our house so don't need to worry about that. We also don't have kids/don't want them until after the wedding, so we are able to focus our energy and funds on our wedding. I know plenty of people who have been engaged for years before getting married and that's absolutely fine - it's what works best for your circumstances. Things will come together in their own time 😊

We been engaged for 4 years and we get married this August we booked it 2 years in advance though give us chance to save and pay x

Find a venue and book it that will give u both the incentive to start

We booked ours within a few weeks of being engaged purely because we knew the venue we wanted was always booked up a couple of years in advance- we booked 2 and a half years in advance and we get married in august this year, glad we booked so far in advance as it comes round so quick and it gives you time to save and actually pay for things! Xxx

We were engaged for 3 years we picked our date venue (absolutely everything) and got married 10 weeks later

We've been engaged just over a year and have no intentions of getting married yet. My fiance also wants a long engagement and were busy saving for a house so the wedding hasn't even crossed my mind much. We're in no rush to me being married doesn't change anything in our relationship it's just another ring and a bit of paper.

We got engaged Christmas 1999 and we still haven't booked the wedding. We don't talk about it that much but it does get a mention occasionally. I am hoping that we will be booking it soon...x

We got engaged last may and booked everything in September. We still have 14 months till our wedding. We spoke about eloping first as both our families are a nightmare, but we chose to have the big day. Now we both regret not going away ourselves. Do what every right for yous. If you feel things have changed since getting engaged then you need to set down with your other half and talk about how you feel. You may find that he's waiting on you bringing it up. Most guys think the day is for the woman amd don't put much input into the wedding. They seem to be more interested in the stag do You may be surprised by his response good luck, I'm sure it will all work out how you imagined

Bring it up n say we should set a date x

Ive been engaged for 6/7 years and its best thing weve done we get married this year in august finally x

We got engaged last Feb and like you everything was all exciting and plans were being thrown around. We then looked at venues and found the one we wanted and then set a date for 2020. Then everything disappeared and there was no more wedding talk. Then in January we decided to bring it forward to next year so all the plans started up again, although nothing ever gets mentioned about it really.

I recommend looking at venues and choosing a date and get it booked and deposit put down. At least then you can start planning everything slowly without getting stressed and the excitement will last even longer :-)

We were together 16 years and engaged 14 before we got married. There is no rush to do it. Don't put pressure on either of you to set a date. Maybe he is waiting for you to mention it.

We did ZERO planning on the fords year because we were buying a house and had to straighten ourselves out financially.... started planning in November and we are getting married June 3rd

Me and my fiance got engaged in 2005 and 3 kids and multiple house moves later, we still haven't planned anything! Keep looking at venues and going to fayres etc but never actually sit down and plan. Sometimes life just happens and other things take priority but we will book something one day...

It depends if you can afford to. We got engaged talked about it realised the time wasn't right and 4 1/2 years later and two children we get married this may. It's the right time for us.

Just talk to each other and see what you both want and ideally what year.

We were engaged for 8 years we got married on the 8th anniversary of our engagement. We have been married 2 years in May :) xx

We were engaged for 4 years be4 we set a date... both laid back too.

Me and my h2b have been engaged for 4 years and have only just started planning our wedding x getting married in july 2019 xx

We didn't plan a long engagement but I suppose ours was relatively long ish (just under 2 years). We got engaged in December and decided roughly when we'd want to get married within a few months of getting engaged. However we didn't really start looking or booking the venue until September the following year and didn't get married until September a year later.

We were both told we were mega laid back. Even after we had the date set we didn't stress or fuss. We took things slowly but it all got done.

The important thing is whether you and your partner are on the same page. If you're both happy to take things slowly then great. If you're angling to move things forward and he's keeping his distance then that could be a worry. The only thing to do would be to talk to each other to make sure you're still thinking the same way.

We got engaged 3.5 years ago but still haven't made any plans! Our daughter is only 18 months though so we want to wait until she is about four and will be able to enjoy/participate/remember the day more. Can't say I'm that fussed really, we've bought a house in the mean time and are practically married in all but name so it doesn't seem that important at the minute xx

I was adamant I wouldn't have a long engagement hahaha 7 years later and we finally booked it but only because we came into a couple of grand so thought hey why not. If it wasn't for that we'd probably be waiting 7 more years!! Arrange to go dress shopping, that'll bring the excitement back and take it from there. Good luck!

We got engaged 8 years ago and finally set a date in february for august 18 tbh i did find out was pregnant few months later so financially couldnt but now our lil girl is 8 and were finally at the point financially where we can do it with out struggling x

We were engaged for over a year before setting a date. It was nice to enjoy being engaged for a while. There is no rush so when you decide you have time for all that stress lol then book places to view. Venue is definetly the most important and once you have picked and booked everything else will follow in place.

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