I have a problem which I hoped people could help me with. Since announcing...

Don't invite her. Not sure why someone would want to ruin a wedding...thats poisonous x you won't enjoy your day if she's there x

Don't invite her! If she's just out to ruin your day don't have her there x

She sounds like a vile woman, i certainly wouldn't be inviting her.

Why would you invite someone who's said that? 🙈

I wouldn't invite her, to even say that is bizarre? If she's there she will simply stress both of you all day x

Why on earth are you inviting her?

I wouldn't have her there for a number of reasons!! Not if she is wanting to ruin it and also you can't be close to her, don't have anyone there you you have issues with, waste of money for you as they don't want to be there and also you're just risking her doing something on the day!! Xx

Dont invite her

Is there a reason why she has said that? Maybe another family member could talk to her and find out her reasons. If she is having none of it then I would ban her from attending. It's YOUR day and the last thing you need is stress from unhelpful family members. Good luck xx

I don't understand why you would invite her? She has given you forewarning that she will ruin it. You're going to be worried in the lead up and not enjoy the planning, worry through out the day and give her exactly what she wants. Cut her loose now. Sometimes you have to be a bit brutal but if she can't be happy for you both, why should she be part of the celebration? Sorry to come across as abrupt, but unfortunately weddings can be tough and you have to sometimes make some tough decisions early on to make sure you don't have these issues later on.xx

Don't invite her.

I think the only way to put your mind at ease is to not invite her! I would also make the venue aware of what has happened and explain she is not welcome. You do not want that stress on the day.

Seriously?? Are you really suggesting this woman will be a guest at your big day??? This person has shown she has absolutely no right to have any involvement in your life, never mind your wedding day!!

What?! Why would anyone say that?! And why have you invited her? It's one thing assuming someone's going to ruin it but inviting them anyway, it's another thing entirely to invite someone who's outright said they will! Uninvite her,

Why would she want to ruin it? She sounds like a horrible person. I would ban her completely. X

Has your H2B tried speaking to her alone? It sounds like he had (does he still have?) a close relationship. If she will not tell him on his own why she has such strong negative feelings about something he clearly has such strongly positive feelings about then I'd put it to him that he may not be so close anymore. How far away is the wedding? Is there any provision to 'reserve' a space in case she cools off? Why would your H2B want such a negative force present? You should look out in a sea of loving faces at your wedding. Not hating faces.

I'm sure these questions are made up

What??? Why??? Who even thinks that never mind says it??? I wouldn't be inviting her, i can't spend ure day worrying about when/of she gonna kick off, can the parent whose sister she is not speak to her and tell her to wind her neck in? I'd be fuming with her n letting her know it, good luck x

What a stupid made up post. Why would u invite someone who's said they will ruin your wedding ?? You're thick luv.

Why on earth would a family member or anyone for that matter say they're going to ruin ur day ... I'd definitely not be inviting her to the wedding ...

Just don't invite her, she doesn't have your best intentions at heart. If she makes people feel bad for her she's only got herself to blame. You and your fiancé don't need the added stress of wondering what she'll do to ruin your day. Save yourself that extra pressure by not inviting her, she won't be happy for you and doesn't deserve to be part of your big, special day x

Do NOT invite her.
Forget any obligation as she gave that up the moment she said that she would try and ruin the day for you. Your wedding day is about the two of you surrounding yourself with people who will cherish the time they spend with you and the celebration in which they are participating.
She has told you flat that she will ruin your day. If you continue to invite her (feeling obliged or not), then you deserve any unhappiness she may wreak, as to be fair she has given you fair warning...
Please read that in the helpful way that it was intended, not as a wish of ill will towards you.

Why has she said she will ruin it for you both? That is the main point of focus here. There is obviously an underlying issue with her and either ur h2b or with you. Try and work out what exactly the issue is and if there is a way to work through it and fix it. If not, then ditch the invite to her and have an extra guest who will be happy for you both xx

If she has actually said those words there's no way I'd be inviting her! I'm not sure what else you can do to put your mind at ease if you've tried to speak with her. Uninvite! x

A friend said that to one of my best friends 'I'll ruin your wedding' way before her partner and herself got engaged. They stopped talking and had a falling out and she wasn't invited to the wedding. Simple don't invite her even if family.

I would uninvite her sorry its ur special day and do u want it ruined by his aunt.

joke, right?

If she cannot be happy for you why are you inviting her. Should be a happy day with people you love and want you to be. A time to celebrate

Don't invite her, sounds like a nasty woman, don't let her know of your wedding plans and enjoy your day!

I think I've missed something here... she's openly admitted she's going to ruin it, yet you are still inviting her regardless...? I don't know what advice you're looking for other than don't be foolish enough to invite her

Maybe it's worth your husband putting to his aunt that if she does do something to ruin the wedding that it would damage his and her relationship, not his and yours. If they truly are close, and she values their relationship, maybe this would give her some perspective. If it's still not enough maybe ask your husband why he wants someone at the wedding that doesn't respect his choices or value their relationship with him.

The reason why we are still inviting her is because once already that side of the family have disowned my hb2 and they are now finally talking to him again. I dont want to invite her as shes a nasty piece of work but I still have to keep my h2b happy as its caused friction between us me saying she isnt coming. So Im stuck on what to do not invite her and let the arguments continue along with him being disowned or invite her and keep the piece. So theres no need for the nasty comments about this problem as its a common one. 😒

Have you thought about inviting her to the evening only rather then the whole day? So she is apart of your wedding day but she can't ruin the ceremony.

Ok well book security then.. don't tell anyone your doing it so nobody is expecting/ anticipating trouble.. If she starts they'll calmly escort her out... or invite her and risk her ruining your day!!

Ban her lol you don't need that kind of behaviour to contend with it will ruin your day

I'm out...

Only invite her to the evening. At least then she cant stop the wedding when they ask if anyone knows of a reason for you not to be married... otherwise its going to increase the stress levels leading up and at wedding. Hope it all works out for you guys good luck

I wouldn't invite her to be honest and if h2b's family can't see what she's trying to do is wrong then that's not family. I hope you get it sorted

Only invite her to the evening do hun. I also have family I don't like coming to my wedding, for similar reasons to you. We decided on inviting close family and friends to the church and the family we don't really get on with to the evening do. That way we have our ceremony with the people who actually care and then it's just a case of being civil and keeping busy at the reception (that way I can avoid the family I hate). Chances are if they really don't like the idea of the wedding they will not attend anyway. Wishing you all the best for your big day x

uninvite her. then make sure the ushers know who to look for so she can't gate crash and fulfill her promise.

Why are you inviting her?! Big fat line through her name on the guest list!

Why?

She doesn't deserve and invite to any part of the day. It's supposed to be yours and your hubbys perfect amazing special day, why add the stress of that awful person to it. You should be able to enjoy the day and remember it for how special it was not have your thoughts consumed by that 1 person. X

Don't invite her simples. Don't want those kids of people at your wedding

I'm another vote to not invite her. I would give her the wrong date so she can't just turn up and ruin it!

Why on earth would you invite someone to your wedding that has openly said that they intend to do everything in their power to ruin it??????

Why are you inviting someone that has openly said she wants to ruin your wedding?? Regardless of what the family will think etc if she's said she's going to do that then why take the risk? The rest of your family and friends, and your partner should understand if you explain to them her threats. Don't bend over backwards for people who don't care about you. Saying you will 'ruin' someone's wedding is possibly the most nasty thing you could do to someone. That day is about the two of you and it's not worth ruining over one person/a few people being selfish

Why would you want someone like that at your wedding? Family or not. If they don't care for you enough to be happy for you then they don't deserve to be there. The fact you are worrying about her ruining your day is enough to tell me she shouldn't be there.

Dont invite her! Big mistake!

Uninvite her. Your day. She'll ruin it. Not worth the hassle!

What an awful women !! Why would you invite someone like that ? Cut her out ! Sounds horrible !! Xx

Really?!?

If you don't like them don't invite them. Is your day not theirs. Fuck em

Do not invite her!! If I could turn the clock back there's a fair few I would not of invited to my wedding!!

Cut her off!

Why would you invite her? She sounds like a dick

If you are intent on inviting her ,is there anyone you could rely on to sort of take charge of her and remove if necessary ?
Also have you told anyone else of her threats? Maybe go speak to her again but have your phone on record so you can prove her words

In effect, you're actually paying for someone to ruin your wedding, wouldn't you rather pay for someone to attend that is actually happy for you?...if you see it that way, it may put it into perspective.

I wouldn't invite her, I wouldn't risk her spoiling the day x