#MEMBERREQUEST Hi, need a bit of advice. Looking to get married 2019, I have three sisters and two brothers but only speak to one brother and one sister who I share the same mum with, my other brother and one sister who share the same dad as me keep themselves to themselves and have only met my H2B once at a funeral 2 years ago, but hasnt really bothered with me or anyone else, my sister who also shares the same dad as me has only met H2B 3/4 times but has bothered with me a bit more but only when it's a text if they hear from other family members, she like she cares but I know she doesn't, I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings especially my dad. I hope this all makes sence, but I really don't want to invite any of them to the wedding, only 1 brother and sister that I speak to as I'm close with them. I know this would cause problems as she acts like the 'black sheep', but I feel like the others won't even care. Also between the siblings I don't speak to they have 5 kids that don't know me so obviously if I invite them all would be 5 kids extra and 3 adults with plus 1's, and I doubt even if I paid for them they would come.
Why don't you invite them to the evening and just say you had a limit for the day? Most people do have a limit so I'm sure you do to, so you won't be lying x
Honestly, do what your heart tells you. Invite the one brother and one sister who you still speak to. Tell others (who might make you out to be the bad one for not inviting your other siblings) that you are A) trying to keep costs down and B) only inviting people who have made an effort with you and your H2B within the past few years. Just because they're your half siblings doesn't automatically give them am invitation to your wedding. I have a half sister who only met me 4 times since I tracked her down, and has since decided she doesn't want any contact with me! I was devastated, but she definitely won't be getting an invite to my wedding - I get married this May!! Only have people there who mean a lot to you and have been there for you, listen to your heart and if people have a problem with that, well your other siblings should've been there for you at other times. You won't miss them, aren't close to them and you will cope fine without them being there. Good luck and don't worry what others will think! Remember it's YOUR DAY, you are the bride, your rules, do what you want xx
Invite who you want to be there. If anyone had a problem with it then simply say .. we barely speak or see one another on a normal day, so on the most important day of my life I can't have everyone I've ever met there .. I will have the people who mean the most to me there.
People who don't care about you or your h2b you simply feel entitled to be there but they aren't.
I had similar issues in that my mums side .. pretty much everyone wasn't invited but that's down to them having nothing to do with me since I was about 5. It's hard but it's not about them and that's the issue with weddings. Those who feel entitled to be there are often the ones that don't deserve it. The ones you do invite will just be happy to be there and support you.
I hope you and your h2b keep each other strong and you have the best day!! Xxx
2019 is still a little while away, I would see what happens between now and then because you really just don't know what will happen in the future.
Do they know you're engaged and starting to plan a wedding? That could give them a wee push to want to get involved and help out? ️
I wouldn't invite them if you don't really speak, weddings are for family and friends that you love and care about not to invite and pay for an expensive meal for them and then have them go away and not talk to you again...
If you don't want to invite them then don't. It's as simple as that.
Dear bride
It will never feel easy and occasionally the situation may feel upsetting, I have a similar situation where they'll be hardly any of my side of the family. so my advice to you is - don't try to make everyone else happy it's your day, do what's best for you. Do what makes you and ur h2b happy. good luck
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