Hi guys, Just wondered how involved your bridesmaids and maid of honour are...

Dear Abigail
I was wondering that myself one night but after reading a silly daft article and I remembered
i'm an independent person but I still needed my friends. So I ask my bridesmaids & mother-in-law their opinion, they'll be at my dress fitting seeing it for the first time when it finally arrives :)
My chief bridesmaid is sorting out a meal or something for my hen do.
The best advice I could give you is do what's right for you, what makes you happy. Trisha

Hi, they can be involved as much as you want really, it's your day you have who you want involved x

As much or as little as you want. If I wanted help or them to attend anything I asked - otherwise they won't know. x

Mine arnt at all xxx

None of my bridesmaids had anything to do with the wedding even though I have asked them time and again. I have got to the point of saying why am I even having them. I have 6 bridesmaids and only my moh which is my daughter has had any interest and that it only on a small scale.xx

Mine give an opinion and have come with me to find a dress, but it's my wedding and mine to organise, I'd never ask them to arrange anything (other than my hen do) xx

My girls sorted out my hen, were a shoulder to cry on and sound board for my frustrations ( my niece who is close to me in age and my best friend- we are each others sound boards if need be), gave opinions when asked and offered help if needed. They were wonderful but i didn't ask them to do a lot- they just did it because we are all friends and its what friends and family do. They were the best. All I wanted was for them to turn up and look pretty on the day and they outdid themselves in every way :D xx

Im helping my sister plan her wedding and I had the help of her to plan mine. We are each other's MOH xx

Mine came with me to find my dress and their dresses but that's it really me and my h2b planned it all together x

All my bridesmaids are younger but my moh is my best friend and she is sorting hen, she's bought me bits, doing the dress shopping and crafty stuff with me. I haven't asked her, but I think she's more excited than me lol x

One of mine lives in America, another 2 hrs away.. my MOH lives just round the corner. We're making things together, go to wedding shows & coming to fittings etc.. All the bridesmaids get asked opinions and thoughts on things and have helped make decisions which is nice. Xx

Sad how this question always come comes up. I think they should be involved, but not to an extent that your ruling there every move. One of my BM's lives in Australia but Skype's & sends me ideas all the time, even when dress shopping. My MOH I ASK her to come along & share ideas but only if she's free. I don't want my wedding to take over their lives but I asked them because I value their opinion as my besties and I want them involved x

My maid of honour has helped me a lot and offered her opinion on most things. She's also organised my hen do. My other bridesmaids haven't x

Mine are actually like my PA's, they're practically planning the whole thing for me. But they're much better at planning than me, they're much better at putting colours together, decorations ideas ect and they actually really love organising so it's a win win. I wouldn't expect them to do it, but am so grateful that they are.

I didn't rely on anyone else but myself, himself and sometimes my mum. X

Tbh I think they can be as involved as they are able to be. I had 2 bridesmaids and one flower girl. One of my bridesmaids was 13 and the other (my mob) was my older sister. My sister helped a lot with the wedding and organised my hen do, the 13 year old helped chose her dress and how she wanted her hair and shoes. I have alsi been a bridesmaids for my cousin and not had much to do with the wedding planning as she lived far away. I am going to be a bridesmaid in July and I have been there for the bride to rant if needs be, she asked our opinion on the invites and little things. I just think they should be involved a quire a bit but not like in America people have there own lives to lead. X

To be honest beyond organising my hen do and coming dress shopping I didn't involve my bridesmaids in much planning. They both have kids and busy lives so it didn't feel fair to ask more of them. But each situation is different!

I thought it would be a fun thing to experience together being asked to be part of someone's wedding is a big deal really. I was wrong lol xx

My dad helped me sort all my invites! he's been the most proactive bridesmaid yet lol. My sister is my moh and has been pretty involved so far, she always wants to help. I'm very aware people have busy lives and their own stuff going on so I don't expect anyone(bridesmaids or anyone else) to get too involved... it just happens my family are extremely helpful

My bridesmaids haven't done a single thing as far as the wedding is concerned. My bestmaid has made all the arrangements for the hen weekend however.

Mine weren't that involved at all I did it all myself

None of mine have had involvement really although my chief bridesmaid got the car for us x

Ive had no involment from mine what so ever i feel really let down i have organised my hen party my self and paided for everything get ive tried to get them to rally round for ideas but no one bothered

Mine have been there whenever I needed. Asked opinions. Ranted when I have been stressed and they keep reminding me how excited they are! I think that I'd enough! X

I don't really have expectations of my bridesmaids being involved in the wedding planning especially those that don't live near by which is almost all of them at this moment in time. I may send them my ideas or ask their opinions now and again. My twin sister is my Maid of Honour and she is perhaps the only one that is really involved in it all of the time. She has designed all of our stationary for us and helped us to look at venues etc. It really depends on how involved you want them to be/ they want to be. Ultimately it should be the bride and groom planning it.

I didn't ask my bridesmaids to do anything exactly. My sisters (who were bridesmaids) came to my dress appointments and accessories to help me choose and my sister who was MOH did loads in terms of arranging my hair and makeup and organising my hen do but this was a bonus rather than an expectation. She offered all the time to help too which was very nice of her. I asked advice too but my other bridesmaids I only asked to try their own dresses on etc. I think the whole film/TV thing has given brides unrealistic expectations of bridesmaids and people seem overly upset when they don't help but they are really only there on the day to be by your side until after the ceremony. If you want your family/friends to help then ask, but don't have unfair expectations. I see loads of posts on here from upset brides to be about their bridesmaids not being involved and I think this is down to misunderstanding of roles. Good luck xx

Mine aren't that involved in the planning or anything, they will have tasks on the day, with getting ready and what not but me and my fiance are just running the planning and putting things across to the people that need to know anything. It all depends on you really it's up to you how involved you would like them to be xx

Mine have given opinions on most things from tiaras, shoes, dresses, favors etc but all from whatsapp. I have a group with then so I can ask their opinion without having to ask them to come shopping for everything with me. Been great! As far as practical stuff one helped me cut ribbon for favors and that's about it. Each to their own and good luck x

I have involved my maid of honour in quite a bit, no necessarily decision making, but coming along to help with them. I have 6 in total, so 6 opinions would get very messy! Good luck!