What's the etiquette for the best man at the wedding as we are having a...

Invite them all, would you be part of a bridal party without your partner or children being there?

Personally I would At least invite his wife but it's your wedding so if you have the space for his wife and kids then invite them if not don't x

I personally wouldn't like going to a wedding without my husband

You have to, it's the best man

I'd say you definitely have to invite his wife. If you are having an adult only wedding then maybe not the kids but if there are other kids there then you should invite them too

You have to invite his wife. Kids I would say depends on if you are inviting other kids

Is this a serious question!! Small or not, I think inviting 1 person and not their significant other is very rude and harsh! I can understand the children, but most definitely the wife!!

Definitely invite his wife and kids!

Etiquette on inviting guests other half's apparently states that if a guest is married then their other half should be invited. If they are unmarried then they don't need to be!!

Imagine it the opposite way, your partner being his best man....would u be bothered if u weren't invited? If he's best man im guessing they are either family or best friends so I'd assume uv met his wife and are all friends etc so why wouldn't u invite her, the kids are another thing if u arent having kids there then don't but if other kids are going then why not?

I would say defo wife to the whole.

Are you for real??

I'd imagine he would want his wife there too , they would be lots of argument then you would be left with no best man

invite the whole family

You don't HAVE to, it's your wedding. I didn't invite lots of my friends partners (only ones I knew too), and they were totally fine about it, married or not!

Id say definately the wife! But if invite the whole family (kids )

I wouldn't be going to a friends wedding if my other half's name wasn't on the invite. I'm sure his attitude would be the same. We are only having family's kids at the wedding but we gave the bridal part the option of their kids being invited however they would rather come without the kids

I think the other way around you would be very hurt if your husband was invited to his best friends wedding and you weren't. Your best man and his wife might even wonder if it's personal and it could cause real arguments between your husband and his best friend. I would definitely invite the wife Xx

If my partner and kids wasnt invited, i wouldnt attend... well my partner at least (as some weddings only have family kids which is fair enough) ... think its rude not to invite his partner tho xx

Can't believe that someone would even be asking a question like this .... imagine if u weren't invited to a wedding if ur husband was a best man .... i can understand not inviting the children but think it's very rude if u don't invite his wife u know if my husband was in this position and I wasn't invited he wud refuse to be best man

Honestly I'd say it depends, do you usually have anything to do with them all or just him?
Most iv known, they invite the best man alone for the main ceremony if not close to his wife and then invite them along in the evening

Iv also had many friends who's (husbands/boyfriends) have been invited but they haven't and one of my friends in particular said she was fine with this as she said they both have joint but also individual friends, she said that she didn't really know these people so it meant nothing going other than just to be with her husband to be so it was a waste of her time and their money! She didn't really know them so felt no real joy for them and it meant nothing for her to watch them we'd!
I'm not married but if I was watching money and space I wouldn't invite someone irrelevant to you x

My partner was best man and I wasn't invited to there ceremony but was to the reception. Didn't bother me at all. I think you would be pretty petty if it did. It's not your wedding.

So honestly just invite who you want where you want not all of us can afford ever member of everyone's family to there wedding.

Married couples are seen as a unity so yes your should invite his wife and especially if he's your best man! The children then that depends on if your having an adult only but his wife should defo be invited. I think it's so rude not to invite someone's husband/wife or long term partner!

Defiantly invite the wife. Can't believe you wouldn't!

If this person is supposedly your best man (closest friend / person to your husband) I would hope his wife was close to you also. A couple come as a unity. If you don't know the best man's wife well enough to invite her then do you know the best man well enough to have him as the best man? Xx

He's the best man but ur not close enough to his wife to invite her to the whole thing? I find that very weird. Like if he's close enough to be best man, surely you would have got to know his wife?...

He doesn't have anything to do with his family just him.
He also has a mistress who isn't coming to the wedding.
He is the closest thing to a best man but they are not that close.

Actually I wouldn't be bothered if he was best man and I wasn't invited. Each to there own.
Neither of us are massively social people and keep ourselves to ourselves.

I'm amused by the rudeness of some people. I was genuinely asking for others opinions.

I wasnt invited to one where my fiance was best man. Yet they then expected to be invited to ours when he was best man. Plain rude

We aren't inviting the wedding parties other halves. We haven't got the space to, and would mean we couldn't invite family members.
They're all invited to the evening reception.
End of the day, it's our wedding and if they don't like it, tough.
Go with what makes you happy. You've got to live with it, and fund it!!

You would invite his partner to the whole thing I would say. As for the kids they might be ok to just invite at night but im sure it would be nice for them to see daddy as best man during the ceremony. It also means either best man or wife/partner going to get them... or someone else bringing them. See what best man thinks just ask him your dilemma. I'm sure if he's a good bestie to your H2B he will give an honest opinion. Good luck.

We didn't invite our bridesmaids other halves to our wedding. I did feel bad as we are close to their partners too but we were only allowed 30 people in the ceremony room so we couldn't fit anyone else in. It was literally just us, bridesmaids and best man, and immediate family. Their families came to the reception. If you have room then I would say yes invite them, but if not then just explain the situation and invite them all to the reception. To be honest I think it's impossible to have a wedding and not accidentally offend a few people

Well maybe u shud have put all the details in ur first post then u wudnt have got as much negative feedback