My moh has dropped out of my wedding party ( mutual agreement) things haven't been right for a while and our friendship has changed a lot . Her partner was also an usher who is no longer doing that role either . Her words were " we are a unit so if I'm not moh then ... isn't an usher " this is also fine with us , again we are actually quite pleased as they caused nothing but stress . My question is do we still have them at the day or ask they only attend the evening ? Our day guests are literally immediate family and the wedding party . We had to cut the guest list down so kind of feels wrong having my "ex" moh still as a day guest when other family members have been cut from it . Also, on the other hand I don't want to cause any more drama ! What would you do ?
Get rid. Sounds like a selfish person and a waste of guest space x
Sorry you've had to experience this. I'd cut both of them out completely so then there are no bad vibes at your wedding! Xx
Wouldnt invite them at all...you're relationship has taken a dramatic decline and you probably feel more like acquaintances rather than friends...so save yourself the awkwardness and dont have them there at all.
I'd ask them to come in the evening only if they are not immediate family. She'll know of your rule "wedding party immediate family only" already so probably won't expect anything else anyway.
I would say just evening, if at all....!?
So sorry to here this, i would be inclined to invite them to the evening only if its not going to cause you any stress, It is your day so you don't want any ill feeling, good luck x
I would just say evening invite.
I'd say evening all, but when you say the decision was 'mutual' did you feel like she was pulling away and you cut her loose? Did she approach you and broach the idea of pulling out? or did you get frustrated and nudge her away? only because it might affect the decision here. if she's been pulling away or asked for an out then I'd say she forfeited her right to indignation whatever your decision. If you weren't feeling it and nudged her aside I'd probably say it's be fair to invite her to evening do only. Ultimately what's going to make you happy on your big day? And how good afriend is her other half - is he a driving force behind wanting there for evening do?
Evening only, good luck x
I'd say evening only. Talk to her, she may well be wondering the same thing but not want to say anything in case you feel she's snubbing your wedding full stop x
This is sad I wouldn't bother at all,..your choice tho
If your friendship has deteriorated that much then I wouldn't even bother having them there. It's about you and your partner and I think the negativity she may bring isn't worth it x
Just invite them to the evening do if you are just having family only for the wedding. Makes your day a lot easier and stress free then.
Sounds like me my cousin was a bridesmaid and her daughter a flower girl. She pulled out because she doesnt want me dressing her and her daughter as she doesnt like anything i pick.
Going on the way she spoke to you and you obviously have your issues with each other I wouldnt have them there at all.
If your friendship isn't as strong as it was when you asked her to be moh, which by the sounds of things it isn't, then I would only do an evening invite. She is bound to be aware of the cut in numbers and you not inviting all family. Just send the invite for evening out and if she kicks off tell her not to bother. It's your day and no bride or groom needs added stress in lead up to or during their special day xx
If your relationship has deteriorated enough for this to have happened, asking her to only attend the evening probably won't do any more damage. Especially if she knows you're only having family and wedding party x
I had this problem, and they didn't come at all. It was quite upsetting when it first came to light that we had grown apart so much, but on my big day those that mattered where there. Its your day and you don't need the added stress sweetheart. I hope your wedding goes fantastic and is everything g you dreamed it would be. Good luck. Xxx
I wouldn't invite them at all. She is meant to be the one who supports and helps you through the stress.
Stick to the evening....if it was a mutual thing for her to step down and her sayin her partner wont be doin it either kinda sounds abit petty..sounds like shes been binned off n was tryin to spite...id stick with the evening or nothin...if shes your friend she will be happy for u regardless...if she isnt then u know where u stand n its time to say goodbye xx
I won't invite them at all. Its your day and you don't want any awkwardness or drama on your day. Good luck x
Evening only defo.
She is an evening guest x
I wouldn't invite them at all x
Experience from my own wedding: only do what's good for you, don't worry about others cos you can't please em all so don't bother trying to please any. Honestly xxxx
It all comes down to what you want. Weather or not you want to invite them at all and if so to the day or night.
You don't need the drama, if it was me I wouldn't invite them to either. Good luck hope it all goes well x
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