Hi, we've just booked our wedding! Exciting times! We have got a huge guest list. - on both sides, we've limited to our closest family members but there's still a lot! With my partner having 8 siblings and each having between 1 and 4 kids varying between the ages of 24 and 6 we've decided not to invite boyfriends/girlfriends/partners of his nieces and nephews. I'm just a little worried of people's responses. Some of his nephews have been with their girl/boyfriends for 7/8 years and others only 2/3 years (others don't have any of course) but we can't afford to have everybody's partners etc. and we'd rather not pick and choose who to invite and who not to invite so we decided on none. Me and my partner have both spoken and agreed on this, but they will of course be invited to attend our evening do... maybe I'm thinking something of nothing but I'm so worried about people's responses. How would you approach this? & do you think this is fair? I just can't deal with arguments etc, I'm one for an easy life! Thanks x
Congratulations on booking your special day! The thing to remember is that it's Yours and your OH's day, so plan it the way you want. Generally people will understand your situation, so give them plenty of warning of your plans.
My OH and I had disagreements on whether to invite children, as he was worried it would upset or offend people and they would not come. Everyone was fine, and they had a really good time. If people are not happy to come without, then they won't come. It is their decision and they have been invited.
Be honest with people. Tell them you cannot afford to invite partners to the day part and it isn't fair for you to pick some who can come as that will be more upsetting to ones you don't pick so it's fairer that none of them are invited. People should respect the wishes of the bride and groom and make life as easier as possible for them so shouldn't make a fuss... If they don't like what you do then they have the choice not to come. I'm total bridezilla!
I'm sort of in the same situation but haven't come up with a solution yet! We have over 130 guests to invite but my venue can only seat 100 and we aren't having a day and night we are getting married at 4 then having a hot buffet then Disco so we wanted to invite everyone but how do we decide which 30 to not include in the ceremony and food?? Will be following this post for advice
I think u should consider cutting out nieces and nephews totally rather than not inviting their partners - I would not expect my husband to be to go to a wedding that I wasn't invited to.... nor would I invite a person and not their partner all day - that could cause them arguments/discomfort as they may feel like they have to come but wouldn't want to come without their partner! x
Keep the ceremony as small as possible that way sit down meal won't be too expensive then invite all to reception
If my auntie was getting married in would expect to take my husband with me x
When my cousin got married they invited me to the whole day and my boyfriend (now fiancé) to just the evening. In the end I only went to the evening as it just wouldn't have worked with transport for us to arrive separately.
So having been on the receiving end of a one person invite, all I can recommend is be prepared for some of them not wanting to come without their other half and not coming at all
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