Hi brides! I’m hoping for some advice about the etiquette of save the date cards. My partner and I are inviting and additional ~30 people to the evening reception only (we would love for them to be at the ceremony too but unfortunately we just can’t afford it on top of our ceremony guests). Should we send them a save the date card too? If so should it have something along the lines of “evening invite to follow” on it to avoid confusion/embarrassment of them thinking they are invited to the whole day? What about if people can’t make the ceremony so we “upgrade” some of the reception guests to day guests – would it then look strange if they have received an evening save the date to then get a day invitation? We’re beginning to think it’s better to avoid save the date cards all together but I think they are a really nice idea to ensure everyone we want knows to be there can make it (and that would include all the guests in my opinion). Thanks you your help!!
I haven't bothered to send save the date cards to evening guests. This is because I don't think it fair to expect them to save a full date just to be invited to the evening. They will receive evening invitations.
I would just send save the date to the day guests. You could always have reserve list for the evening guests if the day guests are unable to make it.
We made 2 lots! One saying save the day and the other saying save the evening! This way no body got confused! We made ours on Vistaprint so it was cheap and easy to send out 2 types! In terms of upgrade, you won't get replies until your invites go out, so at that point they'd have their evening invite! You could just send them an updated inset asking if they could now attend the day time also?
Can do save the evening cards x
Send save the dates to everyone. As the evening guests people may need to book the date off work or organise a babysitter.
I didn't send out save the dates. I sent out the invites nice and early and most people knew the date before anyway :)
I didn't send save the date cards to anyone. All the important people know they are invited! And I changed my mind so many times; when I first got engaged there were people who would have been invited all day who now aren't invited at all! It's very hard to rescind a save the date x
We've given both Evening and Ceremony guests the same save the date as our wedding is in Cardiff (where i am originally from) but a lot of friends and family will be travelling around 3 hours to attend so thought it best to let everyone know well in advance. `(Within our evening invite pack we are going to include some local information of touristy things to do if they want to make a weekend away of it so they don't feel too put out about travelling for the evening do)
I'm just sending save the date cards to day guests. X
We sent save the dates to day guests only, and it all worked out fine. If you do send them to everyone make sure you make clear which are evenings, some people would be miffed getting a save the date and then only an evening invite. If you need to "upgrade" an evening guest to a day guest try and speak to them personally to avoid any ruffled feathers. Good luck!
We just sent save the date cards to day guests and then when we did the invitations we sent the day guests different ones to the night guests x
We're sending save the dates to both day and evening guests who are having to travel for the wedding (we have friends and family in South London and also in Brighton) just because if the travelling aspect of it. But the plan is just to send an evening invite to evening guests who live local x
I think save the date gives you a good indication of who can come to your ceremony as people who definitely can't due to holiday commitments or other stuff at that point will probably tell you. Gives you the option then to upgrade some evening guests
I sent out all my save the dates to just my day invites then I sent out my day invites 3 months before my evening invites those that then couldn't make it I took some off my evening list and invited them instead I then sent out my evening invites and was able to invite a few xtras x
We sent Save the Date cards to all guests but had 'Formal Invite to Follow' or 'Formal Evening Invite to Follow' on them.. We get married in 9 weeks and have only 'upgraded' one couple who completey understood and are so happy to be part of the whole day
I've only done it for the day guests as anyone that is having to travel far has been invited for the day and evening are only really work colleagues or not family/close friends. There might be some that we can change to day but I think as long as you send the invites early enough you will get an idea of how it'll work out anyway
We did save the date and save the evening magnets x
send save the dates to day guests as if they have other plans they will let you know & you can then add any evening guests for the ones who cant attebd
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