In the past 10 years I haven't had a good relationship with my dad. I have maybe seen him 4 times in that time. His new wife isn't keen on me having a relationship with my dad. WIth this in mind I'm incredibly hurt by my dad not showing strong will to want a better relationship with me. My finances family have never met my dad and because of how hurt I am I am not keen for it to really ever happen as it's not a good part of my life. With this in mind I don't want my dad walking me down the aisle. Even being at my own wedding. Am I wrong now for wanting this? Has anyone had family issues which impact on invites to weddings/ being a big part in the wedding?
My dad hasn't spoken to me properly for 5 years, I got a happy birthday text from him last year and I replied thank you but haven't heard anything from him since. And because of this I am having my grandad walk me down the isle. It is sad but if they don't want to make an effort, why should you? I would just get a close member of family whether it be make or female to walk you down, at least you'll be happier then :)
It's your wedding you have to do what you feel is best for you. I haven't seen my family in over 10 years, & I've not invited any of them to my wedding (they wouldn't come even if I did) my sons are giving me away. Don't feel you need to please anyone other than you & your fiancé. Good luck x
Neither of my parents are coming to our wedding. My father only calls on my birthday so he doesn't deserve to come to my wedding (it was my birthday on Thursday and he rang saying "sorry I've not been in touch, I've been rather busy" then later on in the conversation he has that audacity to say that I should be keeping in touch! I did keep in touch, but he never replied so I gave up!) My mother has been awful about my fiancé since the beginning of our relationship and won't apologise for her behaviour so she's not coming either. It's just going to be me, fiancé his parents and his sister. It is a shame that there are families out there in similar situations but you can't choose your family! I always say that at the end of the day, we are all people where we get on with some and not with others and family members, including parents are not exempt from this. Like Nicola said, you shouldn't feel the need to please others. You only get married once and there won't be another opportunity to do it again so make sure you do what makes you happy.
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