I have a person ( more than an acquaintance but not a "close friend") that...

So effectively a woman who is a guest at your wedding, not part of your wedding party, wants to bring a bunch of people? It doesn't sound like you like this woman very much either. I would cut your losses and tell her sorry but no. Let her blow up. At the end of the day it's unreasonable of her to ask this, and if she is going to throw her toys out of the pram let her. It's your and your partners day. Good luck.

Why do you have to be nice?This woman has basically insinuated herself into your wedding. Just tell her that she isn't your MOH and there's no way you're adding these people onto your guestlist. Was *she* even invited?

I think this friend should have asked you, it sounds like they're telling you? It's your wedding day, and I don't blame you for not wanting strangers there! Why do they have to bring their kids? Can't these people look after the kids for her away from your wedding? I'd just say that you've had second thoughts on the situation and this is how you want it to be! If she doesn't like it or respect that then tough! She can show off all she likes about it but it's not her wedding!

Why would she need to bring her partners mum to look after the baby?

Did you personally ask her to be maid of honour or did she just assume she was? If it's the latter then tell her in no uncertain terms that she isn't in that position. Tell her you can't afford (& won't be paying for) these extra random people. If she goes off on one just tell he she is no longer invited as she cannot control her temper & it's up to you who you wish to be at your wedding.

Oh dear ! Just say you are limited to numbers so she needs to get a babysitter or opt out ... I'm finding guest lists hard too but there's always gonna be someone mad .... you need to only invite ppl you want their .... my husband to be's input looks like a business meeting lol

Just say it's family only for ceremony if you don't want conflict. She shouldn't have presumed and shouldn't have said about bringing the full family.

Omg.... Having a bunch of people there you don't know... Why does she need someone to look after her child? Why can't her partner look after the child? I would tell her straight... Especially if she's placed herself in that position x

Can you make your H2B's niece MoH? Then explain that you and H2B have been talking and it means more to you both to have her as your official MoH, as she is family, and she has been so helpful/ supportive on something (even if it's not quiet true). Then you tell this other person, that as she isn't MoH and your niece is able to take some of the pressure / jobs she's been doing, and now won't need to bring her entourage for childcare.

You what?! She's decided she MoH, and has also decided she's bringing people who aren't invited?! Erm, no love, you aren't, and no, they're not coming. Childcare isn't for at your wedding (unless you want it to be), and no one gets to decide their place in the bridal party but YOU!

Why does she need to bring her partners mum and carer? If you are inviting her partner is he not capable of looking after his own children. Besides other than the actual ceremony and photos she could watch her own kids surely?

There isn't an issue here. I think someone is having a laugh via this page. If this IS a real life 'dilemma' then you got work to do on yourself. people don't just assign themselves to take on a very important role and as for them inviting the rest of the hillbilly' seriously? ???

Easier for this friend's child to not attend and be left with the grandmother surely?? Grandmother (who sounds like she is disabled) wouldn't have to put herself out by attending, and probably no carer needed; plus all in familiar surroundings! SORTED.

MoH thing... just tell her that your partner would like his niece involved and you think it's a good idea for her to take this role.

I don't understand this lol did your original moh fall out with you a now your not so close friend is now your moh

Ok so is it your original moh thinking of having another baby or your not so close friend??

If so could the baby,if she even falls pregnant not just say at home with the granny Instead of bringing the granny and a carer???

No, no & no! Just no! Regardless of her temper & what she may think, you need to set her straight now before it goes any further. Have who you want as MoH and do not invite anybody that you don't want there, including carers, partners mum's & pushy "friends"! Be strong! X

Is this for real?? Why cant people just be honest?

She doesn't sound like a friend at all. If that was me, I'd tell her straight she's no longer invited, end of. Gets rid off all the hassle attached to her and her entourage or random people that come with her! They ask your niece to be bridesmaid like you actually want.

Haha just tell her that although you appreciate everything she has done, it is not possible for her to bring her children, partners mum and her carer. If she is a bridesmaid surely she will be too busy to babysit and so perhaps she could leave the kids at home or if she would like to be a guest and you are having children at your wedding, she can take care of them herself but you are having xxx as MOH as you think she will have more time. I invited my sisters friend to help with her children as she was MoH but honestly, I love her friend anyway and it was nice to have her there, I wouldn't have invited strangers to babysit. We didn't invite children at all (other than family) and none of our guests seemed to have a problem, if anyone had complained I probably would have said it was ok but I wouldn't have then paid for them to have babysitters too. Good luck...ignore the tantrums. Xx

Tell her no kids 👌 her partners mum, carer, cat etc can all stay at home 😀

How can her mum and her career not watch the kids at home? Why do they all need to come to the wedding? I'm confused? If she can't come to your wedding and look after her own children at the same time then don't bring the kiddies. I think that's reasonable xx

For one, you choose your maid of honor so if you have someone you'd rather, then ask them...no one has the right to put themselves in that place. Secondly, if her partners mum can look after the baby could they not do the looking after at home? She can't force you to allow two or more extra people who you don't even know!

For one if her mum requires a carer how is she to care for the children? Secondly it's way out of order to assume that she is still moh. Be straight with her and put your foot down. If she kicks off say goodbye and tell her she is not invited.

What that actual hell!! Tell her no!! God is she worth this much hassle? Xxx

She sounds like someone who just wants to be in the lime light tell her straight

Hi, just tell her you're on a strict budget, and you have allocated those invites to family, and you hope she understands the situation you are in. If a tantrum is thrown, remember it's your day, stick to what you both want. She'll get over it, eventually x

You will just have to sit her down and say, look I appreciate you wanting to be moh at wedding but you are going to have it as family and that you want her and partner to come to wedding as guests. Tell her it's family children only do she will need to have a babysitter organised for whole day n evening. If she starts then just tell her that you don't want her to come to wedding at all then xx