I'm getting married in Cyprus next march and its caused a lot of terrible...

He wants everything to be drama free, unfortunately if you pander to their tantrums this will keep happening and they will inevitably ruin your day. If they said they aren't coming, fine, why invite them again? Protect yourself from their drama, step back, don't get involved. If they don't speak to you with kindness and love, you are better distanced....trust me! Xxx

We had family problems too but sent everyone an invite to keep peace. A few aren't coming but then it's their loss.

Just realised this is his family, not yours..... I feel for you here. Hope your htb is adult enough to deal with stepping back from this family and doesn't let this all affect you both. Hope you have a great wedding day free from all these troubles xx

I'd send the invite if they still dont turn up so be it but that will be on there head and not yours , makes you the bigger person , it doesn't mean you forgive them for hurting you , but if there family yours or his at least you had tried , it's obviously something your h2b is wanting you to do , so just do it for him if no one else Hun :) some of my family said no and I left it at that but there my family , not my partners so I decided I asked once and that was enough for me , good luck xx

Please don't take offence at this, as it isn't meant that way. Is it possible your other half is thinking of the bigger picture? Is he hoping this might be an olive branch? Also it seems he is wanting to take the moral high ground with these awkward people, so that they wouldn't be able to slag you both off anymore? I can completely understand how you feel, I would feel the same, but possibly take some time to think about it and consider and weigh up the options. Also, if you leave it late enough to send the invites they will be less likely to make it . Good luck! X

Maybe he's just trying to repair the damage they've caused and giving them the opportunity to fix their ways. Just to keep the peace and show them you're the bigger person, send them an invite and let them decide if they want to come or not. End of the day it'll be their loss and not yours xxx

Thank you for all your advice. I just want to say it isn't the first time they have slagged me off and the last time they did I let it slide but this is my wedding and I'm already stressed as it is. I wouldn't mind too much about sending them an invite if they had since apologised but they haven't. X

It's your day. It should be a positive celebration of your love.... anyone who is not joining that bandwagon should be far far away from it.... emotionally and in actual distance! xx

The wedding is yours AND your future husbands. It's up to you both to decide who comes and who doesn't come. Just because it's your wedding, some people don't like to or can't go abroad for many reasons. I personally would sit with your husband and decide exactly who your going to invite and not. I would make sure you give plenty of time for them to save (I think a 1.5 - 1 year is plenty time) be prepared AND accept that people may refuse. Find out why, in a reasonable manner so you can try help them get there if it can be done. Another option is, think about having a reception back home for those who couldn't make it, if that's an option for you both .

Please remember you will hopefully be married for the rest of your lives, is it worth holding grudges? You only do this once, would you regret not inviting them because it will be to late once it's over. You have to live with him not his family at the end of the day. I don't think your been fair to your future husband if you haven't BOTH agreed. After all marriage is or should be a two sided relationship. Good luck with your choice and I hope your wedding goes as planned :) x

There's always going to be people who can't make a wedding abroad. Send an invite, and have a party for when you get back, doesn't need to cost much, cheap catering and slide show of pictures from the day, then those that couldn't make it can feel involved x