Wedding dress fittings - I want my dress to be a big secret for the wedding...

Hello love. It's clear you're giving yourself a tough time over this. No one can tell you what's the right thing for you, but I can explain my situation if you like? I bought my dress without anyone seeing it, however I also gave my bridesmaids the experience of seeing me try different ones on, as it was actually quite a big deal for them and something they wanted to do as part of the whole bridesmaid role! You could go and try some dresses on your own where you might just find 'the one', whilst also arranging to try some on with your entourage - if anything, just so you can enjoy a wine or two after! I really hope that helps. Good luck xxx

Well why don't you go on your own, make a decision or pick two that you really love then take someone for a second opinion! But I'm sure you'll make the right decision for you reguardless to whether people were to give their opinion or not xxx

I haven't kept my dress a secret in this sense but I did do a 'reveal' to my bridesmaids.

Maybe if your dad is around you could take your dad ? Or a Nan ? I know I'd hate to be completely alone in that decision as I too am very indecisive and tried on several wedding dresses. X

I always wanted just me and my mum to go but 1 day after I got engaged she passed away so I couldn't have her I was going to bring my dad but he also passed 4 months later and I then brought my chief bridesmaid and auntie because I couldn't have done it alone I think your best bringing someone along for support x

I asked my mum. Sister(moh) and my bridesmaids to go with me. It was a great day to spend with the people closest to me. I enjoyed having them there and being apart of it. We made a day of it and had lunch afterwards. It was nice to share my excitement with people as I obviously can't tell my htb about my dress lol xxx

I only had me and my mum are mine, If my mum wasn't around if have asked my MIL (she also doesn't have any daughters) x

My plan was to only show my bridesmaids, I'm not close to my Mum, but to keep the peace I took my Mum and H2Bs Mum on the first dress hunt, and I ended up finding my perfect dress then! I was very glad to not go on my own because I didnt even pick out the dress that I've chosen, one of my bridesmaids did. I think only your bridesmaids seeing it is okay because theyll be seeing you get dressed in it on the morning, they wont be having the wow factor of seeing you in it for the first time as you walk down the aisle x

You could take me! No one wanted to come with me so mine is now secret and not by choice! x

I went on my own and picked my dress then went back with my bridesmaids and mother of groom to try again and get their opinions. My heart was set by then tho. I also had a couple of shopping trips with bridesmaids etc with me beforehand which was fun but I felt more certain picking it myself then showing them x

Tbh I only let my dad know what the dress looked like and he lives a long way from me. My dress was made for me so I didn't get to try it on until a few days before the wedding. Now when you go to the bridal shop and try the dresses if you had someone with you they wouldn't get to see the full effect of the dress until the day of the wedding as your wedding hair and make up wouldn't be done until that day. So what someone would see on the day of the shop would be totally different on the day of the wedding. If you want to take someone with you make it someone who is good with a secret as if you have a need to talk about the dress for any reason like when you need to accessorize or if you have any problems you won't be carrying that stress on your own. Hope this helps and I haven't just waffled on

Take someone who has good dress sense and similar taste as you x

I've been married twice and both times only took my Mum with me. In the back of my mind I know what I wanted and what suited me and I didn't want any confusion or too many opinions to confuse me therefore never took bridesmaids. I think it's good to have that 1 person with you, whoever it may be, a close friend, aunt, mother in law?

I think you will know when you try the right dress on..and I'm sure your mum will be there with you looking down on you..go with keeping it a secret and enjoy your fitting x

I took my mum and sisters with me wedding dress shopping but then couldn't get the dress I wanted and ordered something which looked similar online, I hated it when I put it on.
So I asked a friend to come with me (my family don't live near me so couldn't ask them to fly over) my friend was unfortunately unable to attend my wedding but I value her so much that I wanted to make her part of my day in some way.
My mum then was the only one to see it at a dress fitting and it was a surprise for everyone else x

You can still keep it a secret most shops you can pay someone there to help you get in your dress on the day :) as for the 2nd opinion that's entirely up to you xx

My mum also passed away when I was in my teens (14 years ago). I took one of my sisters with me to get an honest opinion of what styles worked best on me and then picked my the dress by myself. I haven't found it stressful and will be nice to surprise people on the day! I would take someone with you when you first look though, if only because it's likely to be an emotional moment since it's something you planned to do with your mum. All the best for your big day. xx

I have kept mine under wraps only person that's seen it is my mum, but if I was in your shoes, I would take at least one person with you!! It's a important time but not only that you will need support and guide to help you make the right decision xxx

I was in a similar position to you, as my mother is also passed away. In the end, I went wedding dress shopping with my partner's mum and it was a nice experience for her as she doesn't have any daughters. My dress will still be a surprise to people on the day.

If you really want to keep it a secret there are ways around it...for example do you have a female photographer who would help you into the dress on the day, or a hairdresser maybe? Both my photographer and hairdresser said they often help brides with this on the day, so perhaps if you have either of those available they could help you? U could ask them in advance ? X

I also lost my mum many years ago. So into my MOH to try my dress on with me. As I knew she would give me the honest opinion as to what it looks like on me. Xxx

The first dress that i picked I was on my own and I ended up Hating it... the secon time i took my MOH and mum (even tho we arnt close) and they ended up picking my dress, which is not what i would have ever picked for me. I think you need someone else there even if its just to help you carry your choices. Good Luck xx

It's totally up to you but if you are having a make up artist/hair dresser on the day I'm sure they wouldn't mind helping you into your dress. I've read lots of reviews for them that say they were happy to help even with little ones getting ready x

I chose my dress when I was by myself. Nobody was with me. I was great as I only had my opinion and nobody else's. I can be swayed too easily by people so preferred it this way. When it came to buying it I took someone but it was just so someone could see it! There was no discussion: this is my dress and I look fabulous!!! (Chose it in wed2be) and went back to buy it.