Bridesmaid problems

If your not speaking the feeling is probably mutual about the bridesmaid situation anyway, just carry on with how you are i doubt she would turn up on the day still expecting to be bridesmaid if you haven't spoken in a long time, does she even no details of the wedding, have a bridesmaid dress etc? X

Maybe because we're in a pandemic and she may have her own stuff going on? If she's your friend maybe ask if she's okay instead of chucking her away so easily

I wouldn’t want someone like that in my wedding personally, even as a guest. Let her know plans have changed and find someone who genuinely wants to share your special day with you x

Just don’t mention anything to her! Carry on with your plans. She clearly doesn’t want to talk to you so why would she want to be a part of such a special day!
Or talk to her and tell her as you haven’t spoken in a while you don’t think it’s the right thing for her to be bridesmaid. Totally your day. And if you aren’t speaking then there shouldn’t be a problem hey! Good luck and I hope you have a wonderful day 😊

She probably knows anyway and probably doesn’t want to be (no offence)

I was just try and speak to her about how u feel maybe but if u feel like you don’t want her to bridesmaids it is your wedding and bridesmaids are suspose to be there for u take the pressure off the bride 👰🏼 xx

I would just tell her due to the pandemic you're having to shuffle your wedding party around a little and unfortunately and regrettably she will no longer be able to be part of it. If you barely talk whilst walking past each other, she will probably see it as a relief x

Be open and honest and just message her, in the end I had to do it and just uninvited her to the wedding and cut my losses. Better to be upfront rather than ignore an issue.

Just say it! Open and honest! ❤️

I had this same issue! I asked a friend to be a bridesmaid since we had been friends for years but leading up to the wedding we had become distant and she didn't seem interested in the day. I plucked up the courage to ask her if everything was okay we agreed we had just drifted apart! She happily stepped down and said she is more than welcome to still come as a normal guest which she did! I was so stressed about it all but after that chat it was a huge relief 🙌🏼 talk to her...she may be feeling the same! Good luck

Just tell her, people appreciate honestly and then you both know where you stand. Much easier than both wondering what the other one is thinking

If you don’t speak when you see each other in the street then I don’t think you have any reason to give an explanation. I’m sure she’s well aware she’s not a bridesmaid. Carry on with your plans and move on. No discussion required.

It will be best to talk it out with her to be honest. If you don't say anything it won't get resolved. Honesty goes a long way xx

I imagine she already knows that things won't be the same, so carry on with your plans. If she gets in contact, be honest.

I wouldn’t lie. Just be honest with her. Have a chat and make sure she’s doing ok and explain that as you’ve drifted apart and no longer speak, that she won’t be a bridesmaid anymore.

This person was obviously someone close to you or you wouldn’t have asked her to be bridesmaid. Maybe just touch base and check they are ok and ask if they would like to meet for a walk/coffee then you can discuss the bridesmaid issue. I think with the pandemic relationships have been harder to maintain but it’s still sad when friends drift apart x

As a wedding photographer, I’m often hearing similar stories, when I’m discussing a wedding with the bride and groom during a consultation. Don’t stress, simply arrange to meet for a coffee with the bridesmaid (or groomsman) and talk. Chances are the friend is simply going through something. Offer help, support, and a way out out of being a part of the wedding if that would help.

I can see quite a lot of ‘Bridezilla’ type comments on here, some even saying not to tell her she isn’t involved. This pandemic has been really hard for people and without talking you may not realise if there’s something else going on.

Yes it is your big day and you should ABSOLUTELY have it the way you want it to be, but you should communicate with her about your decision to no longer have her as bridesmaid. Maybe have a catch up. She was important in your life to become a bridesmaid at some point, so out of respect for her as a friend, she deserves to be told. Hope you have a great day x

Just tell her straight iv had to do it with one of mine. Xx

Well if I was her, I honestly wouldn't expect to be a bridesmaid so personally I wouldn't even stress about it. I wouldn't want anyone at my wedding I don't speak to.

If she doesn't speak, and you don't speak, surely she can't think she's still going to be a bridesmaid anyway??

TBH she might be going threw something and does not want to burden you with it. Have you thought about giving her a call check-in and see if everything is ok. I know weddings can be stressful and sometimes people have a problem and feel they don't want to be a burden. We are going threw a pandemic which has caused people to re think priority's and some people are having health problems with all this.