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I'm really struggling with my table plan. I'm now on my third attempt as I...

I'm really struggling with my table plan. I'm now on my third attempt as I can't put certain people next to each other. How many attempts did everyone else take to get their table plans right?My fiancée is getting frustrated with me.

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UKbride Member 1 Apr 2021

I'm not having a sit down meal at mine!

UKbride Member 1 Apr 2021

Tell him to do it

UKbride Member 1 Apr 2021

Done mine today took a while but finely got there take a break and go back to it hope you get it sorted 🤞🏻 x

UKbride Member 1 Apr 2021

Write a list of all the people tha can’t sit next to each other then sit everyone that can and then add the ones that can’t into the space that are free

UKbride Member 1 Apr 2021

Oh I'm dreading this 😕

UKbride Member 1 Apr 2021

My only advice with the table plan is use a design that allows you to move people right up to the last minute (i.e. not formally printed), I pegged names onto string and was moving them about right up to the morning of the wedding what with people not being able to make it for whatever reason. Oh and pour yourself a large wine while you do it 🤣 good luck xx

UKbride Member 1 Apr 2021

Use excel. I coloured out the tables by spaces (chairs) and started adding names. I could easily see everything then could also easily move them about. I had a few people I couldn’t sit together, I put a table between them and sat them back to back so neither could see each other however they behaved. anyone that is special enough to share your day should be on best behaviour anyway!

UKbride Member 1 Apr 2021

I did it like a maths puzzle. Split all the families into how many people they were, put them on slips of paper, then just moved them about to try make the tables have the right amount of people until no one was sat near anyone they don't like

UKbride Member 1 Apr 2021

Get him to do it and sit there and watch him while drinking wine 🍷 he won’t get frustrated with you anymore.

UKbride Member 1 Apr 2021

I had to see mine to get my head round it so cut out rounds of card board for tables, then wrote a list of everyone I wrote my fam in one Colour n his in another just to make it a bit easier to see, sellotaped the whole page back and front to strengthen then cut out all names. Wedge of blue tack then start sticking! And moving and moving and moving lol
And I know it’s pointless saying it now because until it gets to your day U won’t understand but really don’t stress the small stuff! You don’t see or notice any of that on the day! Goes so quick!

UKbride Member 1 Apr 2021

Use post it note strips so you can easily move them about 😊

UKbride Member 1 Apr 2021

Im having the same issue, but at the end of the day do what you think is best and put together who you think would get along. If they don't like it tough, least they are coming to your wedding and enjoying a nice meal with you. People will only be eating then no doubt be getting up and mingling anyway! We are scrapping the head table and having a round one at ours as we can't decide.

UKbride Member 1 Apr 2021

This is the main thing about planning that scares me tbh! Xx

UKbride Member 1 Apr 2021

I’m on my fifth attempt and it will probably change again subject to people either not attending or adding more guests 🙈🤣

UKbride Member 1 Apr 2021

Why not set aside 2 or 3 tables for your bridal party and your top table. Then let everyone else sit where they feel comfortable? Just an idea 😃

UKbride Member 1 Apr 2021

Took us less than 10 mins... Helps when the families get along...

UKbride Member 1 Apr 2021

i was changing mine until the night b4 still on the day people not happy some people didnt show i had spare tables in the end

UKbride Member 1 Apr 2021

Just let people sit where they wish too, takes stress from you. Weddings are about coming together not stress xx

UKbride Member 1 Apr 2021

I was lucky
Done second attempt
Fingers crossed

UKbride Member 1 Apr 2021

Probably one of the most stressful things about planning a wedding...unless it's an absolute requirement per the venue, I'd rather just let people sit wherever because in a way, forced mingling can be awkward for people so I'd rather not be held responsible for that X

UKbride Member 2 Apr 2021

Ive used Hitched.co.uk free wedding table planner. Sooo easy to use. And then you can print it off for your records to.
I put people together by their characters. We have a few that cant sit near certain people, kept them aside, seated 6 per table then added extra 2 to each table of the ones who need to be seperate. Its worked out great and took about 1 hour x

UKbride Member 2 Apr 2021

I literally wrote the individual names on slips of paper. I didn't have many people that couldn't sit next to each other but did have some larger family groups. So I did: groups of five or more first, then groups of four. I then did twos. That left me with threes and ones to fit around everyone else. It took me hours. I made my husband input with me. I then sent it to the 2 mums to check for any issues they could see. Then shuffled around again to accommodate them. I also wanted to spread out the bridal party, trying to get one on every table as I'd said to people away issues or questions to talk to them!

UKbride Member 2 Apr 2021

One, but I had a really small and intimate wedding (pre Covid) of around 30 people.

I used my living room wall and post-it notes so that I could lay out who I wanted and where but also it was easy to move people around before I finalised it.

UKbride Member 2 Apr 2021

Why have one?? Just let people sit where they want too.... Why give yourself headache xx

UKbride Member 3 Apr 2021

Mine took me 3 days to sort xx

UKbride Member 3 Apr 2021

5 minutes and a scrap of paper while having my hair done on the day 🤣 ( I only had 12 people and forgot) it was a case of there , there there lol to the table setter haha

UKbride Member 5 Apr 2021

I didn't have a table plan had tables of 8 and people sat where they chose too it was so much less stressful but we had a bbq so may not work if you are having a sit down meal with special dietary requirements x

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