Heather Williams
Heather Williams 16 Jan 2021

Looking for advice

We've decided we don't want a massive wedding. Our plan is to get married at a registry office with our 2 children and 2 friends and then on another day invite family and friends to a marriage blessing at a church and a party to celebrate afterwards. Can anyone give me any advice in regards to when should we tell our family? How long did you wait to have the celebration? Did you find people got a bit annoyed? Or any advice you think would be helpful. Thank you in advance ????

19 Comments
UKbride Member 18 Jan 2021

We are having immediate family only to our church and then arranged a party for later on.

We just said due to situations plans have changed. Everyone is very accepting of it x

UKbride Member 18 Jan 2021

We are doing the same, our families were very understanding to my complete surprise 😊 we are having the 'big day' at the end of July 🤞 you do whats right for you, don't stress about everyone else xx

UKbride Member 18 Jan 2021

Personally I would at least invite parents - it must be gutting not to be invited to your own child's wedding.

UKbride Member 18 Jan 2021

I got married with the 15 people limit, we just had our children, parents, our siblings and their children/other halves. We got married & had a meal, and was such a wonderful day that we got to interact with them all. We didn’t tell our friends/family who weren’t invited so that they couldn’t be annoyed/upset as it was done by the time they found out 🤷🏻‍♀️
We are planning a big reception with everyone when the time comes, who knows when that will be. But don’t be afraid to do what works for you! Everyone will have an opinion no matter what you do, so may as well do what makes you both happy, it’s both your day after all, no one else’s x

UKbride Member 18 Jan 2021

We had a big wedding booked but a few years ago decided just to have a small wedding and get married abroad. We had 11 people there and then when we came home, we had a party with about 50 people there x

UKbride Member 18 Jan 2021

I'm still waiting because of covid still no guarantee for june 2021

UKbride Member 18 Jan 2021

I got married with just myself, groom and my eldest daughter, my best friend of 35yrs, my brother and grooms two best friends. my parents were shielding and his parents was watching our youngest daughter (2yrs old doesn't understand keeping distance etc)
We did a registry office then to a local pub for a meal and then me and groom to a local hotel for one night we were in teir 3.
Id already made a group up for a big wedding but as covid went on announced in that group that'd we were planning on it just being small literally just 7 of us. And everybody was understanding with the situation. And I'm so glad because our nerves were shot to bits by the time the wedding rolled round and the government was planning on putting us in to teir 4 3 days before the wedding.
We're waiting on at least having some normality back and then just going to through a knees up for everybody with a buffet and I'll wear my original wedding dress then. Xx

UKbride Member 18 Jan 2021

We didn’t invite anyone but the two witnesses we needed. We didn’t tell anyone but my 13 year old daughter, (she was cool about not being there and we didn’t have our other 4 children there either) We got married in august 2020 and I don’t regret it at all it was pretty perfect

UKbride Member 18 Jan 2021

We got married in september and there was only 13 of us we had no big reception party as the guidelines meant we couldnt and had to cancel it we plan on having our big party at some point xx

UKbride Member 18 Jan 2021

We did it like this, we sent out a little poem. Some people liked the heads up, others didn’t. Some people understood our reasons, others didn’t. You will never please everyone but it’s your day 😊

UKbride Member 18 Jan 2021

We got married in October. With 13 guests. Most of our family were extremely happy we were going ahead with it. And we're planning something big this year for the family. - dressed up and suited up! Just like we would have been.. have a little blessing and then the "normal" celebrations 😁 x

UKbride Member 18 Jan 2021

We did the same only planned for or 2 daughters and mum's, a few people turned up uninvited and they got upset when they couldn't be in the ceremony but it's not what we wanted and they knew that, you'll never please everyone. We went straight on holiday with our daughters after the ceremony and had a party down the pub a when we got home and wouldn't do it any other way. It wasn't overwhelming for us the girls and we spent our money on a lovely family holiday ❤️ xx

UKbride Member 18 Jan 2021

We had our big wedding planned for May 2020 then rearranged 3 times and in the end we just did it in December with us and 10 guests. We told noone but them and told everyone else when it was done. Most people were so happy we have had a few you can tell aren't Happy but it was a lovely Day and we will have a blessing and party whenever this madness is over and we are allowed. All that mattered was us and becoming a family officially and that made it pretty perfect. Xx

UKbride Member 18 Jan 2021

I would say don’t tell anyone until your officially married, then explain that there will be further celebrations later on.

(Unless of course parents are involved then maybe nice to tell them)

UKbride Member 18 Jan 2021

So our wedding was originally planned for Aug 2020 obviously I postponed it for July 2021 thinking this would be plenty of time for covid to disappear how wrong was I!! Anyway I will be still having a wedding in July just the numbers are going to be very limited plus no party til we can actually have a room full of family and friends!! I think under these circumstances people will be understanding it can't be helped at the moment x

UKbride Member 18 Jan 2021

My wife and I did this.

We ended up having the party 3 months later and had a lovely blessing and party.

We didnt really tell people about the legal wedding, we got married and had a lunch with a bunch of friends and family.

Xx

UKbride Member 18 Jan 2021

What does everyone think about weddings going ahead by august?

UKbride Member 19 Jan 2021

We're doing this for next May. Registry office then our 'real' ceremony in the family garden with everyone there. We haven't told people our plan yet but I think we will just write on the invites to people who are invited to registry office what is happening. You won't please everyone but ultimately it isn't about anyone else but you.

UKbride Member 29 Jan 2021

Hi does anyone know a. reasonable priced florist for real flowers I Iive West Midlands

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